It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague.
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I realise it’s a cultural thing and I try to be culturally sensitive but I have plenty of global colleagues from very conservative backgrounds who can make compromises to work respectfully with a diverse team. It’s just too much.
@hacks4pancakes When this would happen in previous company's interview rotations we would just have an immediate urgent production issue and short circuit the interviews. We called it "the kubernetes cluster went down" (we didn't use kubernetes).
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
Several failed attempts at a reply later, I think I'm settling on the
emoji, and some perhaps some sort of reference to my assumption that at least you could kick their ass in a fight? Meh.
Some people just suck.
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes time for the red pen
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
Enraging.
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I realise it’s a cultural thing and I try to be culturally sensitive but I have plenty of global colleagues from very conservative backgrounds who can make compromises to work respectfully with a diverse team. It’s just too much.
@hacks4pancakes Prejudices can happen, being prejudiced happened to me too, when I talked – out of a group of two people – to the one of them I assumed capable of answering my question. I felt deeply ashamed when after one minute I realized the other one was competent and swore to myself it wouldn't happen to me again.
Someone not able to realize their prejudiced behaviour for the duration of a whole interview – no way.
I guess you have the last word on the hiring decision, right? But assume if not, I hope the person who did have the last word would be susceptible to understanding why not hiring that person. -
It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes Ugh. People can be so awful. Sorry.
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes that's because you look too awesome to look directly, right ?
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right ?
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes Did he get the job? (LOL)
I was given an interview by a woman and her collegue (man), i mostly spoke to the woman (facing her directly) and hardly talked to the man at all, i could see it in her face that she loved every moment of it.
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Note to male colleague: When you find yourself in this situation, do not return the look of the candidate. Direct your gaze at your female colleague. It makes it clear that she's the one the answer should be directed to, and perhaps the candidate might figure this out.
Also: not just for interview situations.
Also also: still don't hire the guy.
@jztusk @hacks4pancakes yes! Though I've found even then that most of the time it doesn't work.
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@hacks4pancakes ironically it is really hard to tolerate the intolerant and accept the unaccepting.
on a more business note, if the expectation is that they must be able to interface with all the staff and they chose not to, I would feel they aren't able to fulfil the stated job responsibilities. Best to ensure that is included in the posting.
edit: also sorry you had to deal with this
@nnungest isn’t that an implied requirement?
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes
Instant rejection right ? -
It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes I believe in being culturally sensitive - But that goes both ways!
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@hacks4pancakes When this would happen in previous company's interview rotations we would just have an immediate urgent production issue and short circuit the interviews. We called it "the kubernetes cluster went down" (we didn't use kubernetes).
I was just thinking, whenever it happens, your male colleague suddenly remember to bring glasses of water, or has an emergency, then you finish the interview f2f.
Ir simply turn the interview short.
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes will you hire him?
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It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isn’t a DFIR person.
@hacks4pancakes First thing, I'm so sorry you had to experience that. No matter the other person's objective, that still hurts.
I only know you from following you on socials, but I hope you are strong and this is something that we can all take just a moment to learn from. Please don't let this moment break your strength from all the good that you know. -
@hacks4pancakes
My first thought is, I have a kid on the spectrum who finds direct eye contact painful , but if they were able to do this with a male colleague that is probably not it. Next, I did work with someone from another country who became engaged and (believe it or not) his religion prohibited him from gazing at women for something like 30 days before the wedding. One of my coworkers asked him about it and he seemed embarassed explaining it.
Gotta go with your gut tho.@geos I can’t hire a consultant to meet with customers if he can’t look at or talk to women
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@hacks4pancakes will you hire him?
@malveus lol what, of course not
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@hacks4pancakes
Instant rejection right ?@Tijgertje1987 of course
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@hacks4pancakes I believe in being culturally sensitive - But that goes both ways!
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I realise it’s a cultural thing and I try to be culturally sensitive but I have plenty of global colleagues from very conservative backgrounds who can make compromises to work respectfully with a diverse team. It’s just too much.
@hacks4pancakes doesn't take a rocket scientist to know to address all parties as part of the conversation lol.
