<![CDATA[It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague.]]>It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. Who isnโ€™t a DFIR person.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/topic/a7bc0f0c-8237-4032-91c8-254ecb7d9222/it-finally-happened-i-interviewed-a-candidate-who-would-not-look-at-me-the-entire-interview-and-answered-my-questions-directly-to-my-male-colleague.RSS for NodeThu, 14 May 2026 23:17:16 GMTWed, 06 May 2026 02:04:53 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 20:18:51 GMT]]>@metacurity @hacks4pancakes I've been following UnseenJapan on here and some of the stories they post make me not want to visit Japan despite it being #1 on my list.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/T2R/statuses/116529478444508968https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/T2R/statuses/116529478444508968Wed, 06 May 2026 20:18:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 19:05:52 GMT]]>@jztusk @hacks4pancakes

No. Don't do that. Instead, stop the show and politely remind the applicant WHO IS CONDUCTING THE INTERVIEW:

"One point of clarification, please. I'm here just to observe and record. Ms.Boss [gesture to her] is in charge of the interview and you should direct your answers to her."

If the candidate does not heed this instruction, terminate the interview. Then explain why.

That's it. No need to play games.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/ralfmaximus/statuses/116529191482141866https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/ralfmaximus/statuses/116529191482141866Wed, 06 May 2026 19:05:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 13:03:04 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes yeah just kidding ๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿคญ

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodonsweden.se/users/malveus/statuses/116527764901143413https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodonsweden.se/users/malveus/statuses/116527764901143413Wed, 06 May 2026 13:03:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 12:46:43 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes he was a middle-age American white guy, so no cultural issues here just pure misogyny.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/vonslatt/statuses/116527700580149681https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/vonslatt/statuses/116527700580149681Wed, 06 May 2026 12:46:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 12:45:48 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes the most highly qualified candidate to replace me when I retired did exactly this. Even though I had introduced my boss, a woman, as the head of the department and the person making the final decision. I even reminded him partway through the interview that he should addressed his answers to her. The last step in our process was an interview with the president, we made sure she told him exactly why he wasn't getting the position.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/vonslatt/statuses/116527697010502039https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/vonslatt/statuses/116527697010502039Wed, 06 May 2026 12:45:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 12:32:14 GMT]]>@metacurity @hacks4pancakes
Sorry to see that decades later it appears not to have changed all that much.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/RunRichRun/statuses/116527643683838328https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/RunRichRun/statuses/116527643683838328Wed, 06 May 2026 12:32:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 12:25:17 GMT]]>@RunRichRun @hacks4pancakes So dispiriting.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/metacurity/statuses/116527616326464458https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/metacurity/statuses/116527616326464458Wed, 06 May 2026 12:25:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 12:24:05 GMT]]>@metacurity @hacks4pancakes
Longtime friend of mine, PhD engineer, overachiever โ€” former astronaut corps (she never flew b/c Challenger), Arthur Andersen consultant โ€” started a robotics company (one of many companies she founded) that specialized in "force feedback" (she contributed to the robotic arm on the space shuttle). She was so frustrated by the chauvinism she encountered during Asian business trips (*after* hiring a male partner to accompany her on those trips) that she sold her stake.๐Ÿ˜•

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/RunRichRun/statuses/116527611615268347https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/RunRichRun/statuses/116527611615268347Wed, 06 May 2026 12:24:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 12:13:11 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes I once interviewed the CEO of a major Asian tech manufacturer after a speech he gave, and he answered someone standing next to me, a man who wasn't a journalist. I'd ask a question, he answered the man, and so it went. The CEO did not look at me once.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/metacurity/statuses/116527568777229650https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/metacurity/statuses/116527568777229650Wed, 06 May 2026 12:13:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 11:02:39 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes when i was 17, i tried to talk to an irish girl once, but she was so beautiful that my mouth just refused to cooperate. Could not speak. Nothing. I'm pretty sure my mouth moved a couple times without any sounds coming out.

Soooo... What I'm saying is, this is almost certainly not what happened to that guy in your interview, but.. Who knows? ๐Ÿ˜„

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/mavu/statuses/116527291377261328https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/mavu/statuses/116527291377261328Wed, 06 May 2026 11:02:39 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 10:27:58 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes

Maybe he could've learned something. Tell him right there why the interview's done and he didn't get the job.

Unrelated... I was at the hardware store once looking for something. A female employee asked if I needed help, and I know my face showed "Uh oh, this is pointless". She knew exactly where the part was.

Felt bad afterward. My hesitance was due to employees generally being useless, and I didn't want a search partner, not her sex, but I bet that exactly how she read it

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.world/users/lxskllr/statuses/116527155039303217https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.world/users/lxskllr/statuses/116527155039303217Wed, 06 May 2026 10:27:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 09:31:25 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes Iโ€™m so sorry. This isnโ€™t cultural itโ€™s just wrong. And if it is the culture then the culture is wrong.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/imclaren/statuses/116526932647738838https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/imclaren/statuses/116526932647738838Wed, 06 May 2026 09:31:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 08:34:22 GMT]]>@bernardlyons yeah we were able to schedule it near our desk, so not a big deal time-wise. thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

the avatar's by https://www.crouserart.com/ - we own a print of it, and we figure the least we can do is link when people mention it ๐Ÿ™‚

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://adhd.irenes.space/users/ireneista/statuses/01KQY6S07THQ5KY3GZH5FYRS9Hhttps://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://adhd.irenes.space/users/ireneista/statuses/01KQY6S07THQ5KY3GZH5FYRS9HWed, 06 May 2026 08:34:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 08:20:56 GMT]]>@ireneista Love your avatar!

You dodged a problem there. I hope the interview didnโ€™t waste too much of your time.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/bernardlyons/statuses/116526655530959932https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/bernardlyons/statuses/116526655530959932Wed, 06 May 2026 08:20:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 08:09:38 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes props for that amount of self control!

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://kind.social/users/lisra/statuses/116526611094270308https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://kind.social/users/lisra/statuses/116526611094270308Wed, 06 May 2026 08:09:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:38:20 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes

It doesn't matter how "cultural sensitive" you are. If the candidate is not able to treat all humans equally, that's his problem and he shouldn't be hired.

No matter how good he is. He's not a good team player. He's problematic.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://floss.social/users/delawen/statuses/116526487989468217https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://floss.social/users/delawen/statuses/116526487989468217Wed, 06 May 2026 07:38:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:38:07 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes @geos it's a skill issue, obviously.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://masto.es/users/ruisan/statuses/116526487154544451https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://masto.es/users/ruisan/statuses/116526487154544451Wed, 06 May 2026 07:38:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:37:33 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes we once interviewed somebody who was visibly horrified to see us and wouldn't allow us to explain what coding problem we wanted him to solve, instead making a guess at what it was going to be and doing that

he of course did not get the job

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://adhd.irenes.space/users/ireneista/statuses/01KQY3GZDT5SMJ4K80NY41DGHQhttps://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://adhd.irenes.space/users/ireneista/statuses/01KQY3GZDT5SMJ4K80NY41DGHQWed, 06 May 2026 07:37:33 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:30:42 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes doesn't take a rocket scientist to know to address all parties as part of the conversation lol.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://cyberplace.social/users/kylegbakker/statuses/116526457994768762https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://cyberplace.social/users/kylegbakker/statuses/116526457994768762Wed, 06 May 2026 07:30:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:22:44 GMT]]>@itisiboller @hacks4pancakes

This!

Understanding HAS to be both ways. Why only one way?

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/grb090423/statuses/116526426622539728https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/grb090423/statuses/116526426622539728Wed, 06 May 2026 07:22:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:09:32 GMT]]>@Tijgertje1987 of course

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/hacks4pancakes/statuses/116526374758776945https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/hacks4pancakes/statuses/116526374758776945Wed, 06 May 2026 07:09:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:09:19 GMT]]>@malveus lol what, of course not

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/hacks4pancakes/statuses/116526373888675139https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/hacks4pancakes/statuses/116526373888675139Wed, 06 May 2026 07:09:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 07:08:56 GMT]]>@geos I canโ€™t hire a consultant to meet with customers if he canโ€™t look at or talk to women

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/hacks4pancakes/statuses/116526372382816705https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/hacks4pancakes/statuses/116526372382816705Wed, 06 May 2026 07:08:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to It finally happened, I interviewed a candidate who would not look at me the entire interview, and answered my questions directly to my male colleague. on Wed, 06 May 2026 06:51:55 GMT]]>@hacks4pancakes First thing, I'm so sorry you had to experience that. No matter the other person's objective, that still hurts.
I only know you from following you on socials, but I hope you are strong and this is something that we can all take just a moment to learn from. Please don't let this moment break your strength from all the good that you know.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://ioc.exchange/users/todd_cravens/statuses/116526305444962166https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://ioc.exchange/users/todd_cravens/statuses/116526305444962166Wed, 06 May 2026 06:51:55 GMT