I'm going to repost a #TransFemmeClothing thread for that I originally posted a long time ago on another server.
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You're size is going to be anything from a full size below that to a full size above. It sucks, but you just have to look keep trying.
But, there is hope! I have really enormous feet (14-15), but I've found that Torrid has decent shoes up to a 15. And they're good shoes.
I tried 7 pairs of 14s, all too small. Then I bought these cute booties I found because I fit in a 13 wide from Torrid.
The 14s were too big, but the 13 fit, but I’m a size 14-15. Why? I DON'T KNOW! WOMEN'S SIZING IS DUMB!!
Another great place I've recently bought shoes was Inkkas. They have 14 and 15 in more casual/hiking shoes, which I could not find elsewhere. And all of their stuff is cute! The thing about Inkkas is that it’s totally Plausible Deniability. You can wear those with any man’s clothing and nobody would notice.
I bought a women's 14 in a hiking boot and even though I'm a wide in most women's shoes, they fit snug but comfortable.
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Another great place I've recently bought shoes was Inkkas. They have 14 and 15 in more casual/hiking shoes, which I could not find elsewhere. And all of their stuff is cute! The thing about Inkkas is that it’s totally Plausible Deniability. You can wear those with any man’s clothing and nobody would notice.
I bought a women's 14 in a hiking boot and even though I'm a wide in most women's shoes, they fit snug but comfortable.
inkkas® | Handcrafted for Adventure ☺︎
Handcrafted footwear made for everyday adventure. Every pair features bold artistry and all-day comfort. Over half a million trees planted. Free US shipping over $150, easy returns, worldwide shipping.
Inkkas (inkkas.com)
Finally, someone in the original thread pointed out that Tresolz.com is good, and carries up to size 16 shoes. I have not used them but definitely want to because they look like Black Girl Magic.
Large Size Women's Shoes
Stylish shoes that ACTUALLY FIT women with plus size or large feet. We carry trendy, wide width shoes in sizes 9.5 to 16. We are proud to be Canadian-owned, Black-owned, and Women-owned. From everyday wear to special occasion shoes, you are sure to find something beautiful for work, weddings, or the grocery store!
Trèsolz (tresolz.com)
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Finally, someone in the original thread pointed out that Tresolz.com is good, and carries up to size 16 shoes. I have not used them but definitely want to because they look like Black Girl Magic.
Large Size Women's Shoes
Stylish shoes that ACTUALLY FIT women with plus size or large feet. We carry trendy, wide width shoes in sizes 9.5 to 16. We are proud to be Canadian-owned, Black-owned, and Women-owned. From everyday wear to special occasion shoes, you are sure to find something beautiful for work, weddings, or the grocery store!
Trèsolz (tresolz.com)
This is The Plausibly Deniable Femme Uniform.
Plain, one color, woman's V-neck T-shirt
Women's high waist jean's
A pair of Inkkas sneakers.
That's it. Lean on it. Wear it. Get comfortable in it. You want this to be your every day uniform. Because once it's comfortable, trying other things is not "a whole outfit," it's just trying one thing.
After a while, you will be comfortable wearing ALL WOMAN’S CLOTHES. You want to try a more blouse-style shirt? It’s just ONE THING. You want to try dangly earrings? It’s just ONE THING.
You have the uniform as a safe home base. And can take small steps from there. I can’t wait to see what you try next.
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@FinalGirl Another I do a lot for my butch self is just do androgynous shoes like Converse or Toms or whatever. Everyone wears those and the men's and women's look the same. For Converse, I put in fun shoelaces - currently rainbow ones
Okay so adding @JessTheUnstill's suggestion to #TransFemmeClothing because Converse is a great option and has our sizes.
They also have knee-high boot style, which are SO CUUUUUTE!
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4 years ago, I was still trying to convince myself I was not Trans. A year and a half later, I met a newly out Trans woman at Target wearing a skirt and ballet flats. Today, I’m seen as the high femme woman in my office who always dresses classy and stylish.
That didn't happen all at once. There was a progression I made that I thought might be helpful… And there are certain places I've found clothes. (Follow the thread for more details, Now with Links!)
Most of all, there was…time. You don’t get to your style (whatever that is), by just picking a style and doing it. You pick it by trying things, trying them again, and making mistakes.
@FinalGirl Kyle can both do more push-ups and dance with more grace. He’s almost always in his dark grey uniform, simple and handsome, unbothered with aesthetic complications. Jay-Den doesn’t know why he can’t be the same. Why he chose a skirt when all his male friends chose pants. Why he wants more skirts. Why, accidentally stumbling on the digital lingerie storefront, he couldn’t move on.
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The first thing I did was wear women's T-shirts. I changed nothing but what type of T-shirts I wear. I traded in my men's T-shirts for boring women's T-shirts. That's it. Same shoes, same jeans, same everything.
Seems dumb? It's not.
First of all, women's T-shirts are cut different. But they are also colored different and they feel different. And that last part was important to me–ESPECIALLY since I started this after starting estrogen.
If you haven’t done HRT and are planning to… realize that your men’s clothes will straight up HURT on estrogen. They feel like wearing burlap and sandpaper. Women’s cloths are just… softer, lighter, thinner. They feel very different. And that slight difference was huge for my mental health. They made me feel more femme.
And the best part: nobody noticed or cared that I was wearing a woman's T-shirt. But I did.
@FinalGirl girllll the tees thing is sooo real!! I can’t skate in my old oversized skate shirts without something under anymore T-T
Painful!!!
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This is The Plausibly Deniable Femme Uniform.
Plain, one color, woman's V-neck T-shirt
Women's high waist jean's
A pair of Inkkas sneakers.
That's it. Lean on it. Wear it. Get comfortable in it. You want this to be your every day uniform. Because once it's comfortable, trying other things is not "a whole outfit," it's just trying one thing.
After a while, you will be comfortable wearing ALL WOMAN’S CLOTHES. You want to try a more blouse-style shirt? It’s just ONE THING. You want to try dangly earrings? It’s just ONE THING.
You have the uniform as a safe home base. And can take small steps from there. I can’t wait to see what you try next.
@FinalGirl or u can go my right route
pile of trash thats plausibly a girl
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@FinalGirl or u can go my right route
pile of trash thats plausibly a girl
@FinalGirl wanna try hoops. dont Im white
how about knee socks throw em on the pile
leg warmers AT SAME TIME
crop top over turtle kneck "DO IT"
everything drips off the pile
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This is The Plausibly Deniable Femme Uniform.
Plain, one color, woman's V-neck T-shirt
Women's high waist jean's
A pair of Inkkas sneakers.
That's it. Lean on it. Wear it. Get comfortable in it. You want this to be your every day uniform. Because once it's comfortable, trying other things is not "a whole outfit," it's just trying one thing.
After a while, you will be comfortable wearing ALL WOMAN’S CLOTHES. You want to try a more blouse-style shirt? It’s just ONE THING. You want to try dangly earrings? It’s just ONE THING.
You have the uniform as a safe home base. And can take small steps from there. I can’t wait to see what you try next.
I was playing soccer and running a lot and bought womens running shoes (I do have smallish feet about size 10 women's, which are basically indistinguishable from mens) and football
boots. Which I knew but no one else did. Same thing for wearing a sports bra (which was necessary way early into HRT, sadly for chaffing rather than bouncing reasons).I also wore women's pajamas and slippers at home. Just those little bits helped so much when came to being comfortable wearing women's stuff.
I did go jeans before tshirts. But I'd bought and worn women's jeans before as a dude so sorta had an idea what I wanted. And I also did the converse/Vans/Birks/Docs shoes for a long time.
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This is The Plausibly Deniable Femme Uniform.
Plain, one color, woman's V-neck T-shirt
Women's high waist jean's
A pair of Inkkas sneakers.
That's it. Lean on it. Wear it. Get comfortable in it. You want this to be your every day uniform. Because once it's comfortable, trying other things is not "a whole outfit," it's just trying one thing.
After a while, you will be comfortable wearing ALL WOMAN’S CLOTHES. You want to try a more blouse-style shirt? It’s just ONE THING. You want to try dangly earrings? It’s just ONE THING.
You have the uniform as a safe home base. And can take small steps from there. I can’t wait to see what you try next.
@FinalGirl plain v-neck, high waisted pants..... if you threw converse in there I'd accuse you of describing me perfectly xD
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@FinalGirl plain v-neck, high waisted pants..... if you threw converse in there I'd accuse you of describing me perfectly xD
*quiet cough
Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot (@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life)
Okay so adding @JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange's suggestion to #TransFemmeClothing because Converse is a great option and has our sizes. They also have knee-high boot style, which are SO CUUUUUTE! https://www.converse.com/shop/p/custom-chuck-taylor-all-star-xxhi-by-you-unisex-high-top-shoe/A17528CSU26.html
BlackQueerLife (blackqueer.life)
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*quiet cough
Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot (@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life)
Okay so adding @JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange's suggestion to #TransFemmeClothing because Converse is a great option and has our sizes. They also have knee-high boot style, which are SO CUUUUUTE! https://www.converse.com/shop/p/custom-chuck-taylor-all-star-xxhi-by-you-unisex-high-top-shoe/A17528CSU26.html
BlackQueerLife (blackqueer.life)
@FinalGirl
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I'm going to repost a #TransFemmeClothing thread for that I originally posted a long time ago on another server. I’m moving it here so others can see (and rediscover) it.
@FinalGirl Wonderful thread, thank you
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It's going to take you a while to find jeans, and you need to find ones that fit your body and your style. This is where shit gets really dark.
Because trying on women's clothes for the first few times is going to absolutely SUUUCK
This is where you need someone else. Either a cis woman who loves you–and, more importantly, loves her femininity. Don’t fuck around with those white second-wave feminists who hate femininity.
Find a cis woman who’s like “Fuck yes! Being a woman fucking rocks! Let’s get you looking femme!” Or find an experienced Trans woman. You need someone else there.
Let me say this again: The first few times you are trying on women’s jeans, you need someone else there.
The only thing more important than having someone else there is… HAVING SOMEONE ELSE THERE
@FinalGirl first times I went shopping for women’s clothes, it was with one of my cis women friends who is bi and was the first person other than my wife and some trans people that I came out to. There was such dysphoria and trauma I crashed into and having my friend Nabila with me was the difference between managing to do it and never working up the courage.
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Also, go high waisted. Always.
Sometimes I forget this and go low-waisted and it's a mistake. Sadly, T makes our body shape in the mid-section less than workable for low-waisted jeans, and that's a pretty dysphoric look. It accents the boy belly.
But high-waisted pulls that in a bit and changes the look. It looks more like a femme paunch, and if you're like me, you're totally cool with having that bit of femme in your look.
@FinalGirl low waisted jeans are of the devil and should be condemned to the fires of hell
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I'm going to repost a #TransFemmeClothing thread for that I originally posted a long time ago on another server. I’m moving it here so others can see (and rediscover) it.
@FinalGirl thank you for the thread on threads
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First thing to realize about jeans…You're not buying them off the rack anymore.
Sorry, it just probably won't work. If you try on 37 different cuts and sizes in the store, you may get lucky and find one.
Second thing: Unfortunately, you have to try on like 37 different cuts and sizes. Because every company makes them different.
Third: Your waist is above your illiac crest now, not on your hips. It's gonna feel weird. You need to get used to high waist lines. Don’t wear your jeans low. It’s like an inch below your belly button, or AT your belly button.
I know, I know, but trust me. Start doing that now. Get it over that belly.
@FinalGirl Love this thread! Thanks for the tips
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First thing to realize about jeans…You're not buying them off the rack anymore.
Sorry, it just probably won't work. If you try on 37 different cuts and sizes in the store, you may get lucky and find one.
Second thing: Unfortunately, you have to try on like 37 different cuts and sizes. Because every company makes them different.
Third: Your waist is above your illiac crest now, not on your hips. It's gonna feel weird. You need to get used to high waist lines. Don’t wear your jeans low. It’s like an inch below your belly button, or AT your belly button.
I know, I know, but trust me. Start doing that now. Get it over that belly.
@FinalGirl I wish I had some femme friends to help me. All the girls I know are tomboys or butch. Still don’t know how to do anything other than the simplest make up after 8 years, and I’m built like a tree trunk, so my jeans just keep sliding down, even with a belt
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@FinalGirl I wish I had some femme friends to help me. All the girls I know are tomboys or butch. Still don’t know how to do anything other than the simplest make up after 8 years, and I’m built like a tree trunk, so my jeans just keep sliding down, even with a belt
@FurryBeta @FinalGirl yeah, even with men's jeans (I haven't even started trying to girlmode yet, because of dysphoria) they're CONSTANTLY sliding down to the point where I have pretty much given up on them staying up, and I hate it when people remind me of that or tell me to pull them up. -
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