*quiet cough

Tyrell Gen-8 Pleasurebot (@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life)

Okay so adding @JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange's suggestion to #TransFemmeClothing because Converse is a great option and has our sizes. They also have knee-high boot style, which are SO CUUUUUTE! https://www.converse.com/shop/p/custom-chuck-taylor-all-star-xxhi-by-you-unisex-high-top-shoe/A17528CSU26.html

BlackQueerLife (blackqueer.life)

I was playing soccer and running a lot and bought womens running shoes (I do have smallish feet about size 10 women's, which are basically indistinguishable from mens) and football boots. Which I knew but no one else did. Same thing for wearing a sports bra (which was necessary way early into HRT, sadly for chaffing rather than bouncing reasons).

I also wore women's pajamas and slippers at home. Just those little bits helped so much when came to being comfortable wearing women's stuff.

I did go jeans before tshirts. But I'd bought and worn women's jeans before as a dude so sorta had an idea what I wanted. And I also did the converse/Vans/Birks/Docs shoes for a long time.

how about knee socks throw em on the pile

leg warmers AT SAME TIME

crop top over turtle kneck "DO IT"

everything drips off the pile

pile of trash thats plausibly a girl

Painful!!!

#StarfleetAcademy

They also have knee-high boot style, which are SO CUUUUUTE!

Access Denied

(www.converse.com)

• Plain, one color, woman's V-neck T-shirt

• Women's high waist jean's

• A pair of Inkkas sneakers.

That's it. Lean on it. Wear it. Get comfortable in it. You want this to be your every day uniform. Because once it's comfortable, trying other things is not "a whole outfit," it's just trying one thing.

After a while, you will be comfortable wearing ALL WOMAN’S CLOTHES. You want to try a more blouse-style shirt? It’s just ONE THING. You want to try dangly earrings? It’s just ONE THING.

You have the uniform as a safe home base. And can take small steps from there. I can’t wait to see what you try next.

#TransFemmeClothing

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I bought a women's 14 in a hiking boot and even though I'm a wide in most women's shoes, they fit snug but comfortable.

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But, there is hope! I have really enormous feet (14-15), but I've found that Torrid has decent shoes up to a 15. And they're good shoes.

I tried 7 pairs of 14s, all too small. Then I bought these cute booties I found because I fit in a 13 wide from Torrid.

The 14s were too big, but the 13 fit, but I’m a size 14-15. Why? I DON'T KNOW! WOMEN'S SIZING IS DUMB!!

(www.torrid.com)

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Then I started looking at shoes.

Well, I published a whole-ass essay about women's shoes, but suffice it to say… Sorry babe, it's back to the gates of hell for you.

Same deal as pants. Women told me how they will try on 20 pairs of shoes, all in the same size, and maybe find one that fits. It's a nightmare.

Made worse by T, which gives you huge women's sizes.

Women's shoe sizes are basically 2 US/UK numbers above men's sizes. There are dozens of conversion tables out there. Get familiar.

Measure your feet by putting your heel against a wall on a piece of paper and holding a narrow pen at your big toe. Get the size in centimeters and look it up.

Then realize that, unless you're really lucky, you will never see this size in a women's shoe department.

Gates.
Of.
Hell.

#TransFemmeClothing

But that's the thing, there was a power in that I desperately needed. The ability to wear actual women's clothing, and not fall on my face. I didn't have to wear a skirt, I didn't have a flowered shirt. I had basically the same clothes as before, just girl style.

The Plausably Deniable Femme Uniform allowed me to do two things:

Wear women's clothing everyday and start to crawl out of my dysphoria shell

Experiment with other directions safely, while having a solid and safe base to work on.

For instance… shoes!!

#TransFemmeClothing

Plain, one color, v-neck women's T-shirt

High-waisted women's jeans

That's it. That's ALL I changed. I wore jeans and T-shirts before, and I wore them for 8 months after.

And NOBODY said ANYTHING. Most people never even noticed, or they told me “You look so nice!”

You can make these changes TODAY.

#TransFemmeClothing

Women don't have this, so their jeans are not cut to "hold" it. So either you tuck or, if you're like me and can't, you stretch the crotch out. There's not an option here. Tight jeans without a crotch paired with 3/4 pounds of beef is going to cause some stretch problems.

Is a stretched crotch a reason to not wear women's jeans? No way. Not to me. I just know that my early jeans are… "sacrificial".

Women's jeans just make me feel better.

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