There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
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Every time I experience an exceptional woman I am reminded of the tremendous waste of human potential existing in deeply misogynistic cultures.
Having said that, back in my day, pre Internet Usenet, we already figured this out - dont feed the trolls.
@goss Ah, yet more victim blaming. Just the cherry on top that was needed.
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@emilymbender I did not know the term sealioning until just now. I've learned something from you today. Thanks.
@Bodling @emilymbender same! TIL sealioning. TY!
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Every time I experience an exceptional woman I am reminded of the tremendous waste of human potential existing in deeply misogynistic cultures.
Having said that, back in my day, pre Internet Usenet, we already figured this out - dont feed the trolls.
@goss @emilymbender I think I shall take this advice.
Consider yourself muted.
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@goss Ah, yet more victim blaming. Just the cherry on top that was needed.
@emilymbender @goss Mansplained victim blaming, no less. SMFH.
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@goss Ah, yet more victim blaming. Just the cherry on top that was needed.
@emilymbender
Not at all.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender those people deserve the mute or block button
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender I sometimes have problems getting social cues or "read the room". Also, I sometimes might tend to infodumping.
My takeaway on many things it to simply hold back and shut up. I have no idea if that's always the right thing to do, but that's what I took away from it.
My #mansplaining takeaway is: never explain anything to anyone, unless being explicitly asked to.
I honestly wonder how that works for shy people or those who don't want to seem dumb for asking. (Could also be me).
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@emilymbender I sometimes have problems getting social cues or "read the room". Also, I sometimes might tend to infodumping.
My takeaway on many things it to simply hold back and shut up. I have no idea if that's always the right thing to do, but that's what I took away from it.
My #mansplaining takeaway is: never explain anything to anyone, unless being explicitly asked to.
I honestly wonder how that works for shy people or those who don't want to seem dumb for asking. (Could also be me).
@emilymbender Would never call myself #actuallyautistic as I never was diagnosed or anything, but there are tendencies. And all this social stuff sometimes is kinda hard for me.
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@emilymbender Would never call myself #actuallyautistic as I never was diagnosed or anything, but there are tendencies. And all this social stuff sometimes is kinda hard for me.
@emilymbender Shit. Did I just #mansplain this? Nobody asked me. Serious question, I have no clue.

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a useful flowchart for the guy,
little hint his decision is bottom left.
Prof. Sam Lawler (@sundogplanets@mastodon.social)
Attached: 1 image I am... really tempted to pin this to the top of my account... Print it and put it on my office door... send it as my email signature... wear it around my neck at conferences.... https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20180727-mansplaining-explained-in-one-chart
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@wobweger @emilymbender i posted this this week and ended up with a bunch of bad faith takes from men who completely missed the point. The internet is a tiresome place.
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a useful flowchart for the guy,
little hint his decision is bottom left.
Prof. Sam Lawler (@sundogplanets@mastodon.social)
Attached: 1 image I am... really tempted to pin this to the top of my account... Print it and put it on my office door... send it as my email signature... wear it around my neck at conferences.... https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20180727-mansplaining-explained-in-one-chart
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I get a feeling that the flowchart could benefit from an additional arrow from the title to the “Probably”, marked “if you have to ask”
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