There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender “ … while remaining the smartest person in the room?” I mean, if you can’t show off your expertise, what’s the point of public discourse?
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a useful flowchart for the guy,
little hint his decision is bottom left.
Prof. Sam Lawler (@sundogplanets@mastodon.social)
Attached: 1 image I am... really tempted to pin this to the top of my account... Print it and put it on my office door... send it as my email signature... wear it around my neck at conferences.... https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20180727-mansplaining-explained-in-one-chart
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@wobweger @emilymbender I also love this gem:
How to give advice on the internet without being an utter menace
If you don't think you need to read this post because you're always giving Good, Helpful Advice as a Good, Helpful Citizen, this one is for you. I'm sure you probably mean well, but it is with a heavy heart that I must inform you that you've likely annoyed the hell out of someone at…
Another angry woman (anotherangrywoman.com)
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@wobweger @emilymbender I also love this gem:
How to give advice on the internet without being an utter menace
If you don't think you need to read this post because you're always giving Good, Helpful Advice as a Good, Helpful Citizen, this one is for you. I'm sure you probably mean well, but it is with a heavy heart that I must inform you that you've likely annoyed the hell out of someone at…
Another angry woman (anotherangrywoman.com)
@jjcelery @wobweger @emilymbender LOL, Love the Clippy rant in here.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender Obviously this person is a dude, right? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this bullshit. It just never stops, does it?
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@emilymbender Obviously this person is a dude, right? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this bullshit. It just never stops, does it?
️@lisamelton It's endless, and somehow much worse on the Fediverse than elsewhere.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender I love your work and I am sorry that some servers will not come and get their men
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@lisamelton It's endless, and somehow much worse on the Fediverse than elsewhere.
@emilymbender Ouch!
We need to fix this here but I'm not sure how. If I can help in any way please let me know.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender I did not know the term sealioning until just now. I've learned something from you today. Thanks.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender hmmm… If only someone would publish a flow chart or decision tree that assist in learning?
Oh. Right. (Scrolls up…)
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@emilymbender Obviously this person is a dude, right? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this bullshit. It just never stops, does it?
️I really hate how "dude" is no longer something cool.
Re: The Big Lebowski and that excellent 1980 album by Quincy Jones…
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I really hate how "dude" is no longer something cool.
Re: The Big Lebowski and that excellent 1980 album by Quincy Jones…
@airwhale Jeff Bridges is *The* Dude. And he abides.
Everyone else? Not so much.
So, yeah, it has become a moniker of derision. And it's still a *gendered* moniker. Something I wish the younger generation of women would realize.
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@emilymbender Ouch!
We need to fix this here but I'm not sure how. If I can help in any way please let me know.
@lisamelton @emilymbender Would other dudes calling them out be helpful?
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@lisamelton @emilymbender Would other dudes calling them out be helpful?
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@emilymbender I love your work and I am sorry that some servers will not come and get their men
If it's the account I think it may be, the account either no longer exists, or is at least hidden from public view.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender What’s sad is that I think the root issue is the constant anxiety associated with social media and being read in bad/confused faith, and rather than lean into the “social” aspect of SM and just continue conversations with those that treat you like a person while accepting that flawed human beings will misread you or you’ll misspeak/be wrong but within the tension lies growth, this guy wants the final cheat code to get out of experiencing social disapproval.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
@emilymbender @yo_bj looking forward to the same person mansplaining what is or is not sealioning, where by looking forward I mean :headdesk:
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@emilymbender What’s sad is that I think the root issue is the constant anxiety associated with social media and being read in bad/confused faith, and rather than lean into the “social” aspect of SM and just continue conversations with those that treat you like a person while accepting that flawed human beings will misread you or you’ll misspeak/be wrong but within the tension lies growth, this guy wants the final cheat code to get out of experiencing social disapproval.
@WhiteCatTamer I read him differently---I don't think he has any anxiety. I think he wants to "prove" that I am wrong for calling someone out for mansplaining (and then calling him out for mansplaining the mansplaining).
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@WhiteCatTamer I read him differently---I don't think he has any anxiety. I think he wants to "prove" that I am wrong for calling someone out for mansplaining (and then calling him out for mansplaining the mansplaining).
@emilymbender Ah, gotcha; swinging right out of the gate. Ugh. Sorry, that’s tiresome.
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There's a person on here sealioning in my mentions about mansplaining and demanding criteria for adjudicating whether any individual comment is or is not mansplaining.
This is, of course, asking the wrong question: It's asking "How do I defend myself against accusation?" rather than "How do I interact with people (esp women sharing their expertise) respectfully?"
Every time I experience an exceptional woman I am reminded of the tremendous waste of human potential existing in deeply misogynistic cultures.
Having said that, back in my day, pre Internet Usenet, we already figured this out - dont feed the trolls.
