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@janneke Honestly, if you asked people that are good at and like small talk why they do it, most of them aren't going to explain it like this post does, because it's probably not something they ever really thought about
And, I would say school *is* the place where a lot of this is learned; not formally or with lessons, but just as part of socialization and (hopefully) with teachers or other leadership that take an active interest in helping kids get along
Doesn't always work, of course, but...
Based on my replies, I get the feeling people on Fedi are more likely to feel attacked by this, so, please take my reassurance:
It is ok to not like small talk, it is okay to be bad at it, it is okay to wish you didn't get put into situations where you feel like you're forced into it
All this post is for is demystifying why others do it and why it's not bad or shallow that they do it
@PetrichorSquirrel it's fine to not like it and be bad at it and wish you didn't have to do it, honestly, I just wish it didn't so often turn into pathologizing people that *are* okay with it
@janneke that's reasonable enough!
if you dislike small talk: this post isn't to convince you to like it
It's only to explain, if you have ever thought "small talk is so pointless and I don't understand why people do it", well, why they do it
Saw this elsewhere, thought it'd be a good to share here
