CIRCLE WITH A DOT

@tillybridges today i learned that black guys are allowed to sexually harass me according to mastodon dot social

I have a question for others in the #kink / #BDSM community.

How – if at all – do you emotionally handle the insanely uncomfortable thematic associations of some kink elements with their real-life traumatic equivalents?

A massive part of the reason why I haven't been particularly active in the kink subculture lately is that I've been feeling increasingly sick and nauseous about my and others' kinks. Almost every common theme in kink is associated with insanely upsetting real life equivalents.

I feel genuinely sick from it and it completely ruined my kink life. I can hardly enjoy anything anymore.

• How am I supposed to enjoy CNC, bullying, violence, crying, bloodplay and such after witnessing or hearing about my partners' and friends' violent assault trauma?

• How am I supposed to feel about a blackmail or coercion kink after learning and witnessing how this happens to innocent queer people on the internet every day?

• How am I supposed to feel excited about my girlfriend's Segufix restraints when they're the same exact things by the same brand used to torture innocent folks in psychiatric care right now?

• How am I supposed to fetishise literal slavery? Domestic servitude? Misogyny? Torture? Abuse? Cult indoctrination? Mind control and manipulation? Gaslighting?

How do y'all do it these days? There's hardly anything left that isn't making me sick to the stomach.

It wasn't a problem earlier, but now that I know about or even personally witnessed so many horrific things about the world, I can't do it anymore.

It's not that I lost these kinks or don't want to do them anymore, it's the insane guilt of treating them like a game when these same things, tools and dynamics are being used to literally brutally torture innocent folks like us, queer kids, hopeful activists, vulnerable people, the whole world over.

#trauma #queer #mentalHealth

@FrazzledBrynn Oh, why not EU?