@lianna - some of that stuff I just flat-out don't accept. Which means that there are a lot of events and venues that aren't for me, and that I won't attend. I have zero patience for shit like people who unironically call themselves "slaves", romanticizing "1950s lifestyle", public CNC play and rape-play (because fuck you, enthusiastic consent means *from everyone, including spectators*), race-play, etc. I don't buy into the notion that "your kink is not my kink but your kink is okay" should mean subjecting myself to trauma just so that you can be lazy and not do the hard work of carefully curating and contextualizing your scene.I'm into some fairly hardcore edge-play myself. I'm also a professional creator of theatre, and a former professional domme. I take consent seriously and care deeply about audiences. If I'm going to be doing something scary like rough body play or a scene that reads like abuse? I'm making DAMN sure the environment is appropriate and that anyone present feels agency and safety in that room.And I'm not shy about saying exactly why I won't attend events where that isn't a priority for people.
