Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the 🐈👅 gesture out the window at me.
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@rbphotographic
It's real, friend. If I go for a run, I either do it at the gym (although theres no guarantee I wont be harassed there either) or I carefully plan a route and time where I know the risks are minimised/CCTV/other people around. Even then, a high percentage of the time you're getting some dickhead calling out or gesticulating.
Yet when you talk about 'male privilege' some still deny it exists.
@alice@Jaimieserotica
I often catch myself wondering "why would people do their run/jog on the pavement of the South Circular (one of the rather polluted ring road not far from where I live in London) and then I remember it's all a matter of feelings safer here than in a nearby park after dusk...
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@screwturn I guess that’s one way to absolve yourself.
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@irene @blainsmith @rbphotographic @alice Jesus. I’m too busy trying to find the butter. (Not US based: seems to me — and my wife — that the problem is worse there.)
@Colman @irene @rbphotographic @alice It can get very ugly and disgusting. The entitlement some men have is just wild.
One time I was in a fast food place. After I put in my order a guy (in his 60s) before me was waiting and started verbally abusing the cashier (mid 20s) to the point she was in tears. All over a burger + fries. I yelled "HEY!" at him and as soon as he made eye contact with me he stood down. I said, "that's what I fuckin' though you asshole!"
I apologized to her after he left.
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@alice
I am so so sorry you had to deal with that. I am here for you if you need anything at all
To the men, **all men**, when someone you know does this: tell them very clearly that that behavior is disgusting and unacceptable.
There is no justification for that behavior, and it is nothing short of sexual harassment.
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@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic @alice when I was pretty young (15 or 16), my mom would send me to the store. Once a man blocked me between his car and mine and tried to get me to go home and have sex with him for money in the grocery store parking lot. Catcalls were common when I was younger and lived in the Midwest or Boston. In Seattle, I had someone ask me out in the pasta aisle. If it’s hot and I wear a dress people will make creepy (but probably what they think are complimentary) comments. My 60-ish year old neighbor made a point of interrupting me and commenting when I was washing my car on my driveway in a tennis dress.
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@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic @alice when I was pretty young (15 or 16), my mom would send me to the store. Once a man blocked me between his car and mine and tried to get me to go home and have sex with him for money in the grocery store parking lot. Catcalls were common when I was younger and lived in the Midwest or Boston. In Seattle, I had someone ask me out in the pasta aisle. If it’s hot and I wear a dress people will make creepy (but probably what they think are complimentary) comments. My 60-ish year old neighbor made a point of interrupting me and commenting when I was washing my car on my driveway in a tennis dress.
@irene @blainsmith @rbphotographic @alice and here I am trying to figure out non-creepy ways of complimenting my younger but adult ballerina colleagues on their dancing.
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@alice a lot of replies to this make me think that hopefully I'm probably doing the right thing by acting "antisocial" around women in public. I'm gay/queer, but cis and I pass for straight, so I just assume women who don't know me will perceive me as a potential threat. It's fine, my dog and I can step off the sidewalk and give you space.
@wbud I also get plenty of guys (often with dogs) waving and saying hi when I go for walks. The difference is that the non-creepy ones wave and say hi, then continue walking. The creepy ones make different gestures.
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@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic @alice I get hot easily but I can’t wear clothing that is too “skimpy” and of course there’s the classic being sent home from school because your tank top is “distracting” the boys. Note that our school didn’t have AC ..
@irene perhaps we should send the boys home for being distracted instead.
