<![CDATA[Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me.]]>Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me.

Not sure if it was an observation based on my aesthetic, or the threat of a 🐰good time🐰, but either way...guys, this is why y'all're still single.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/topic/de68fe37-c34d-4882-9f96-293f1d620c56/car-just-drove-by-and-one-of-the-guys-in-it-made-the-gesture-out-the-window-at-me.RSS for NodeWed, 08 Apr 2026 13:28:28 GMTMon, 06 Apr 2026 21:37:40 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:57:17 GMT]]>@irene perhaps we should send the boys home for being distracted instead.

@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116365186663822034https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116365186663822034Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:57:17 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:55:31 GMT]]>@wbud I also get plenty of guys (often with dogs) waving and saying hi when I go for walks. The difference is that the non-creepy ones wave and say hi, then continue walking. The creepy ones make different gestures.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116365179697609208https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116365179697609208Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:55:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:54:24 GMT]]>@irene @blainsmith @rbphotographic @alice and here I am trying to figure out non-creepy ways of complimenting my younger but adult ballerina colleagues on their dancing.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116365175294176984https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116365175294176984Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:54:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:51:04 GMT]]>@irene πŸ«‚

@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116365162242526562https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116365162242526562Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:51:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:32:35 GMT]]>@Aprazeth @alice no one I know, and apparently no one I don’t know would do this in front of me. Again, not US based.

Last occasion I can think of is some literal locker room talk 15 years ago which was so stupid I couldn’t put together a response.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116365089509041755https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116365089509041755Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:32:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:27:24 GMT]]>@Colman @irene @rbphotographic @alice It can get very ugly and disgusting. The entitlement some men have is just wild.

One time I was in a fast food place. After I put in my order a guy (in his 60s) before me was waiting and started verbally abusing the cashier (mid 20s) to the point she was in tears. All over a burger + fries. I yelled "HEY!" at him and as soon as he made eye contact with me he stood down. I said, "that's what I fuckin' though you asshole!"

I apologized to her after he left.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://fosstodon.org/users/blainsmith/statuses/116365069176176434https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://fosstodon.org/users/blainsmith/statuses/116365069176176434Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:27:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:25:44 GMT]]>@Colman
?

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/screwturn/statuses/116365062605096243https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.social/users/screwturn/statuses/116365062605096243Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:25:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:23:19 GMT]]>@Jaimieserotica
I often catch myself wondering "why would people do their run/jog on the pavement of the South Circular (one of the rather polluted ring road not far from where I live in London) and then I remember it's all a matter of feelings safer here than in a nearby park after dusk...
@rbphotographic @alice

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://rouge.eu.org/users/jfparis/statuses/116365053070281732https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://rouge.eu.org/users/jfparis/statuses/116365053070281732Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:23:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:17:53 GMT]]>@irene @blainsmith @rbphotographic @alice Jesus. I’m too busy trying to find the butter. (Not US based: seems to me β€” and my wife β€” that the problem is worse there.)

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116365031713683131https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116365031713683131Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:17:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:12:26 GMT]]>@irene @Colman @rbphotographic @alice I hate this for all of you and it terrifies me for the sake of my 11 y/o daughter no matter how strong mentally and physically she is. Nothing justifies this kind of behavior.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://fosstodon.org/users/blainsmith/statuses/116365010310945257https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://fosstodon.org/users/blainsmith/statuses/116365010310945257Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:12:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:10:04 GMT]]>@alice And I'm sorry, it's just so very very, *very* hard to understand why people would do such a thing at all. When I was younger I honestly believed the american movies on TV was just fantasy and I still have a hard time understanding that they are some sort of mirror of reality...

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/eq/statuses/116365001029141664https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/eq/statuses/116365001029141664Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:10:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:10:04 GMT]]>@blainsmith @rbphotographic @alice I paid a 20c/gallon "won't get harassed at the other gas station" tax this week, so real.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/worldsworstgoth/statuses/116365000978727237https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/worldsworstgoth/statuses/116365000978727237Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:10:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:09:31 GMT]]>@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic @alice also note that I’m going to be 40 this week so that is 25 years of dealing with this.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://discuss.systems/users/irene/statuses/116364998839580884https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://discuss.systems/users/irene/statuses/116364998839580884Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:09:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:08:54 GMT]]>@alice @spiegelmama
I try to not interfere most of the times unless it starts going the wrong direction. Even if to say "I got your back"

I do believe in giving people a fair chance. Especially if maybe language or cultural barriers could cause a misunderstanding.

Then again, I will admit I can get on my little soapbox and post a bit of a long thread.

Either way, it felt like the right thing to do.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/Aprazeth/statuses/116364996438000911https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mstdn.social/users/Aprazeth/statuses/116364996438000911Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:08:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:08:28 GMT]]>@alice Ah sorry, didn't really understand the symbols and missed the "gesture" part. Yes, that is hard to see. The area I'm in is no cars allowed and humans far appart. I guess people also feel less anonymous so being more careful with what they do in public.

When I was younger I had long hair. There was a guy driving past that from behind took me for a woman. He was was almost falling out of his car when I turned grinning at him with a 3-4 cm beard. Found the gas-pedal fast thoughπŸ™‚

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/eq/statuses/116364994726406796https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/eq/statuses/116364994726406796Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:08:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:00:22 GMT]]>@screwturn I guess that’s one way to absolve yourself.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116364962829766482https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mastodon.ie/users/Colman/statuses/116364962829766482Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:00:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:59:24 GMT]]>@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic @alice I get hot easily but I can’t wear clothing that is too β€œskimpy” and of course there’s the classic being sent home from school because your tank top is β€œdistracting” the boys. Note that our school didn’t have AC ..

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://discuss.systems/users/irene/statuses/116364959036165242https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://discuss.systems/users/irene/statuses/116364959036165242Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:59:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:56:40 GMT]]>@alice a lot of replies to this make me think that hopefully I'm probably doing the right thing by acting "antisocial" around women in public. I'm gay/queer, but cis and I pass for straight, so I just assume women who don't know me will perceive me as a potential threat. It's fine, my dog and I can step off the sidewalk and give you space.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://tech.lgbt/users/wbud/statuses/116364948296889710https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://tech.lgbt/users/wbud/statuses/116364948296889710Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:56:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:55:58 GMT]]>@eq it's often invisible to folx other than the target.

The only person besides me that saw this one was one of the other guys in the car who pulled a 🀭 as his friend gestured at me.

@rbphotographic

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116364945587202614https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/116364945587202614Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:55:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:55:50 GMT]]>@blainsmith @Colman @rbphotographic @alice when I was pretty young (15 or 16), my mom would send me to the store. Once a man blocked me between his car and mine and tried to get me to go home and have sex with him for money in the grocery store parking lot. Catcalls were common when I was younger and lived in the Midwest or Boston. In Seattle, I had someone ask me out in the pasta aisle. If it’s hot and I wear a dress people will make creepy (but probably what they think are complimentary) comments. My 60-ish year old neighbor made a point of interrupting me and commenting when I was washing my car on my driveway in a tennis dress.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://discuss.systems/users/irene/statuses/116364945043569386https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://discuss.systems/users/irene/statuses/116364945043569386Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:55:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:55:32 GMT]]>@Legit_Spaghetti @alice @spiegelmama @Aprazeth Another note, a lot of the "not all men" like to holler "AWALT! AWALT!" (All women are like that. "Like that" being your typical incel caricatures of women). Gender essentialism when convenient.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://goingdark.social/ap/users/115857222608075799/statuses/116364943837041650https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://goingdark.social/ap/users/115857222608075799/statuses/116364943837041650Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:55:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:54:14 GMT]]>@sebastian Others have addressed the more substantive and important points, but I want to add that "y'all" is not the same as "all". It's a reference in general to a group.

"All men are silly"
and
"Men, y'all are silly"

are two different sentences with entirely different meanings.

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://toot.lgbt/users/ellesaurus/statuses/116364938751125927https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://toot.lgbt/users/ellesaurus/statuses/116364938751125927Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:54:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:51:41 GMT]]>@sebastian@mastodon.sebfox.net

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]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/webhat/statuses/116364928710846735https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/webhat/statuses/116364928710846735Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:51:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the πŸˆπŸ‘… gesture out the window at me. on Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:51:16 GMT]]>@rbphotographic I'm out a lot in the area since the zones are everywhere and so far I haven't seen a single bad behaviour against women. I know it happens because it has been a couple of cases on the news that ended up in court for assult but I have never witnessed even a whistle after a woman so I guess we are lucky here.

I have also been working in industry jobs that are notorious for it but there was nothing there either. But we northerners are known for being standoffish I guess πŸ™‚

]]>https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/eq/statuses/116364927066303051https://board.circlewithadot.net/post/https://mas.to/users/eq/statuses/116364927066303051Tue, 07 Apr 2026 18:51:16 GMT