Saw this elsewhere, thought it'd be a good to share here

[wakame@tech.lgbt]

@Coffee @sharkNserg

The Double Empathy problem strikes again.

[ahtynon@mastodon.social]

@sharkNserg it’s so acurate!

[irina@wandering.shop]

@sharkNserg I know all of that and I still hate it.

[numerfolt@kirche.social]

@sharkNserg Indeed, thanks

[erik@mastodon.infrageeks.social]

@sharkNserg @afewbugs Definitely not wrong. The content of the discussion is pointless, ephemeral and irrelevant, but the action of an agreeable verbal exchange has its own value

[ide@masto.ai]

@Coffee @sharkNserg
Having an actual social interaction gives a lot more information to both parties. Any anti-social psycho can make cat noises.

[moschlar@mastodon.social]

@sharkNserg Yes, but…

[terminhell@mastodon.social]

@sharkNserg introverts ignoring this XD
Small talk is a kryptonite.

[billiglarper@rollenspiel.social]

@adar @sharkNserg

A not so secret trick to small talk is to ask the other person about themselves with open questions, imho.

People like to talk about the stuff they care about, and just having an active listener makes them feel seen.

[kkarhan@c.im]

@sharkNserg There's the passive meeting technology: 3 fast & short nods followed by a pause of 3-5 seconds, then a slong & long nod then 10 seconds pause.

Rinse and repeat…

[simondassow@masto.ai]

@irina @sharkNserg This. What's the point of pleasing the neuroconvergent crowd when it still doesn't really solve the double empathy problem?!

[radicalabacus@hachyderm.io]

@irina @sharkNserg yup, I'd like to be able to flip a switch and do it, but I find small talk threatening and I'd still want to know before flipping the switch if I was approaching someone like me who would prefer if I didn't

[ozzelot@mstdn.social]

@ide
meow meow purr, mrrwp

any anti-social *hisss* can describe the weather
@Coffee @sharkNserg

[passocacornio@tech.lgbt]

@sharkNserg meow, yes... sometimes if you just laugh at what they say, they get really happy with you and get really friendly. sometimes it is tiresome, but that's kind of a insignificantly small burden

[sharknserg@plush.city]

if you dislike small talk: this post isn't to convince you to like it

It's only to explain, if you have ever thought "small talk is so pointless and I don't understand why people do it", well, why they do it

[navi@catcatnya.com]

@ide @sharkNserg @Coffee counterpoint: any "anti-social" "psycho" (descriptors that are ableist when used as they are here) can hold smalltalk.

[gandalfdg@indieweb.social]

@sharkNserg as an audhd guy looking back on my time of being a small talk hater I realize now it was more not seeing the point in scripting those interactions, but now I certainly enjoy the benefits of getting friendly with random people I meet day to day.

[stephanie@thetransagenda.gay]

@Coffee@toot.cafe @sharkNserg@plush.city If the purpose of small talk is to make friendly noises, then meowing is also a form of small talk

[lemgandi@mastodon.social]

@sharkNserg And a friendly wave or a handshake proves you don't have a weapon in your hand, at least ATM.

A hug is more ambiguous.

[3janeta@beige.party]

@sharkNserg I do small talk at the beginning of work meetings to hopefully find some connection with people. Knitters, runners, bakers, readers etc. people who love pickles. If you share a tiny bit of your day sometimes you can start making friends.

So I agree with this definition of small talk completely!