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*nod*
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@sharkNserg I love this.
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@sharkNserg Okay, but why can't we just meow at each other? It would make things so much easier...
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@sharkNserg Small talk is something I struggle with. Thanks for sharing this.
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@sharkNserg Okay, but why can't we just meow at each other? It would make things so much easier...
The Double Empathy problem strikes again.
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@sharkNserg it’s so acurate!
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@sharkNserg I know all of that and I still hate it.
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@sharkNserg Indeed, thanks
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@sharkNserg @afewbugs Definitely not wrong. The content of the discussion is pointless, ephemeral and irrelevant, but the action of an agreeable verbal exchange has its own value
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@sharkNserg Okay, but why can't we just meow at each other? It would make things so much easier...
@Coffee @sharkNserg
Having an actual social interaction gives a lot more information to both parties. Any anti-social psycho can make cat noises. -
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@sharkNserg Yes, but…
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@sharkNserg introverts ignoring this XD
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@sharkNserg Small talk is something I struggle with. Thanks for sharing this.
A not so secret trick to small talk is to ask the other person about themselves with open questions, imho.
People like to talk about the stuff they care about, and just having an active listener makes them feel seen.
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@sharkNserg There's the passive meeting technology: 3 fast & short nods followed by a pause of 3-5 seconds, then a slong & long nod then 10 seconds pause.
Rinse and repeat…
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@sharkNserg I know all of that and I still hate it.
@irina @sharkNserg This. What's the point of pleasing the neuroconvergent crowd when it still doesn't really solve the double empathy problem?!
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@sharkNserg I know all of that and I still hate it.
@irina @sharkNserg yup, I'd like to be able to flip a switch and do it, but I find small talk threatening and I'd still want to know before flipping the switch if I was approaching someone like me who would prefer if I didn't
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@Coffee @sharkNserg
Having an actual social interaction gives a lot more information to both parties. Any anti-social psycho can make cat noises.@ide
meow meow purr, mrrwpany anti-social *hisss* can describe the weather
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@sharkNserg meow, yes... sometimes if you just laugh at what they say, they get really happy with you and get really friendly. sometimes it is tiresome, but that's kind of a insignificantly small burden
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if you dislike small talk: this post isn't to convince you to like it
It's only to explain, if you have ever thought "small talk is so pointless and I don't understand why people do it", well, why they do it
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@Coffee @sharkNserg
Having an actual social interaction gives a lot more information to both parties. Any anti-social psycho can make cat noises.@ide @sharkNserg @Coffee counterpoint: any "anti-social" "psycho" (descriptors that are ableist when used as they are here) can hold smalltalk.
