#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
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@alice I’m going to make a face and nope pretty hard with any term of endearment that feels unearned.
Like if I’m being called a goddess, that supplicant better be actively in the process of dutiful worship.
And if I’m getting angel’d and they’re not trembling in awe and not a small amount of fear, then they’re clearly being disingenuous.
Also, point of… whatever:
getting a “hey mami” hits with distinctly less maternal ick than mommy/momma. I mean, I still don’t wanna, but it’s WAY less icky.
@SaucySwampHag @alice What would be the "biblically accurate angel" version? Only your eye doctor can use the term?
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@SaucySwampHag @alice What would be the "biblically accurate angel" version? Only your eye doctor can use the term?
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@SaucySwampHag the worshippy ones and the infantilising ones are the two categories that squick me out the most.
@alice yeah, both of those swing so far from that person seeing me as an equal.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce
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@alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce
@JoscelynTransient @alice lol yeah context very much matters
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I generally reply by calling them something, something made up, like sugardumplings
@NilaJones a female friend I have calls all men "schatje" which is like cutie or honey. Men are quite docile around her.
Totally legit power move imho.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice In the series "The Prick", the main character consistently calls his wife "Mammy" as a term of "endearment".
It is sooo creepy and cringy.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice it's all context dependent. a cis guy i dont know could call me any of these and it's ick. but my gf could call me almost any of these and id shiver a little
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice@lgbtqia.space The challenge for me with this poll is it's less about the terms, and more about who says it. A stranger using any of these is creepsville, but someone I'm in a happy relationship would probably be able to take his pick.
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@alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce
@JoscelynTransient @alice
I use Dolls for cool girls and intimates
Cause I’m Noir as Fuck -
#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice
Momma mommy ive blocked people for here. It's in a pinned post that I hate it.
Empress, goddess, Queen is a little more tricky for me as I use Empress as a title when being a dominant. The other two are nope, and Empress from someone not actively submitting would also go badly
Dear is particularly infantilizing to me as my mum uses it a lot for my brother and I so from anyone else it's going to be an issue. -
#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice how high or low is being called "hole"?
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@JoscelynTransient @alice
I use Dolls for cool girls and intimates
Cause I’m Noir as Fuck@MedeaVanamonde @alice see, that is the right way to use doll!
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
oh wow I don't want a guy to call me any of those
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@alice Bro / Sir / Man / Dude / Guy / Mister
Like, I'd kill for a man to call me any of the things you listed.
@floralia @alice the "Sir" one gets me. It always feels like acknowledging the gender dysphoria and then deliberately rubbing it in.
Where I live "dude" is all but gender-neutral at this point... and "bro" is more identifying of the person saying it than who it's said to. It's a very specific type, and usually too oblivious to mean anything by it.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice
I miss the option "I'm a man and want to know how i I've been an arse the whole time" -
#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
'love' is definitely a British thing men say a lot. Whether as a greeting like 'alright love' or to smooth a directive like 'sign there love' or as an outright prick move like 'cheer up love!'
I hate hate hate it. I always call them love back but with a subtle sneer.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice Fucking goddess. It got on my nerves to the point where calling me 'goddess' was an insta-block on grindr and tinder for a while.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice I wouldn't know, I don't read femme still, or being fat turns people off, or something.
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@alice how high or low is being called "hole"?
@taurus never been called that, but I think I'd rank it towards the bottom of my personal list, along with other sexual slurs.
Jeepers creepers, Angel, where’d you get those peepers? 
