#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
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@SaucySwampHag the worshippy ones and the infantilising ones are the two categories that squick me out the most.
@alice yeah, both of those swing so far from that person seeing me as an equal.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce
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@alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce
@JoscelynTransient @alice lol yeah context very much matters
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I generally reply by calling them something, something made up, like sugardumplings
@NilaJones a female friend I have calls all men "schatje" which is like cutie or honey. Men are quite docile around her.
Totally legit power move imho.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice In the series "The Prick", the main character consistently calls his wife "Mammy" as a term of "endearment".
It is sooo creepy and cringy.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice it's all context dependent. a cis guy i dont know could call me any of these and it's ick. but my gf could call me almost any of these and id shiver a little
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice@lgbtqia.space The challenge for me with this poll is it's less about the terms, and more about who says it. A stranger using any of these is creepsville, but someone I'm in a happy relationship would probably be able to take his pick.
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@alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce
@JoscelynTransient @alice
I use Dolls for cool girls and intimates
Cause I’m Noir as Fuck -
#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice
Momma mommy ive blocked people for here. It's in a pinned post that I hate it.
Empress, goddess, Queen is a little more tricky for me as I use Empress as a title when being a dominant. The other two are nope, and Empress from someone not actively submitting would also go badly
Dear is particularly infantilizing to me as my mum uses it a lot for my brother and I so from anyone else it's going to be an issue. -
#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice how high or low is being called "hole"?
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@JoscelynTransient @alice
I use Dolls for cool girls and intimates
Cause I’m Noir as Fuck@MedeaVanamonde @alice see, that is the right way to use doll!
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
oh wow I don't want a guy to call me any of those
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@alice Bro / Sir / Man / Dude / Guy / Mister
Like, I'd kill for a man to call me any of the things you listed.
@floralia @alice the "Sir" one gets me. It always feels like acknowledging the gender dysphoria and then deliberately rubbing it in.
Where I live "dude" is all but gender-neutral at this point... and "bro" is more identifying of the person saying it than who it's said to. It's a very specific type, and usually too oblivious to mean anything by it.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice
I miss the option "I'm a man and want to know how i I've been an arse the whole time" -
#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
'love' is definitely a British thing men say a lot. Whether as a greeting like 'alright love' or to smooth a directive like 'sign there love' or as an outright prick move like 'cheer up love!'
I hate hate hate it. I always call them love back but with a subtle sneer.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice Fucking goddess. It got on my nerves to the point where calling me 'goddess' was an insta-block on grindr and tinder for a while.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice I wouldn't know, I don't read femme still, or being fat turns people off, or something.
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@alice how high or low is being called "hole"?
@taurus never been called that, but I think I'd rank it towards the bottom of my personal list, along with other sexual slurs.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice enby here so poll maybe not meant for me but while most of those strike me as various levels of cringeworthy, if I hear *anyone* calling *anyone else* "sweetheart" I get downright angry about it. I think I've been called that once and it was an instant block from me.
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#Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!
What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?
Select all that apply.
Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0
(this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)
@alice
I'm pretty sure this poll is in reference to men that one is not attached to.
I'd like an All Of The Above option and add to that list Toots. -
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