Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
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@alice when people have been exposed to the same/similar repeated traumas they understand each other's dark humor. everyone else just thinks it's proof of bad.
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Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
@alice i must be a Trauma Queen then…
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@alice oh I see you’re also watching the reign game
@dougwade reign?
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@alice oh I see you’re also watching the reign game
@dougwade Traumatic only if you’re a reign fan
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@dougwade reign?
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@stephaniepixie @dougwade ah, I see.
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@dougwade Traumatic only if you’re a reign fan
@stephaniepixie stephanie. the thorns? how could you do this to me?
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Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
@alice huh. synchronicity is weird.
i was just telling my partner, then a few days later my therapist, how my depression has changed since coming out. my sarcasm has abated. not entirely. shitposting is still hella fun sometimes. but in difficult conversations when before i may have deflected or redirected with "humor" where i just... don't now. i still catch myself sometimes, but that's 40+ years of muscle memory. i guess most notably, i notice it now. it's no longer automatic. -
Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
@alice ah, that explains my humor.
The last time someone described it as 'dark,' someone responded roughly: "RootWyrm's humor isn't dark, it is well beyond the event horizon of a black hole. Except funny." -
@stephaniepixie stephanie. the thorns? how could you do this to me?
@dougwade Oh no no no. I am not a Thorns fan. Don’t worry
If I had to choose I’d pick Seattle, but I consider Vancouver home (even though I no longer live there) so I have a hard time rooting for either West Coast team.
Just pointing out the obvious that it’s not traumatic for Portland fans. Forgive me. It was salt on the wound.
I love Laura Harvey and fiery little dragon
so I wish them success. -
Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
> “You honestly didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. Few people ever cried more than once, if you’d used that up, you laughed.”
—Michael David Herr, *Dispatches* (1977) (writing for *Esquire* during Vietnam War)
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@dougwade Oh no no no. I am not a Thorns fan. Don’t worry
If I had to choose I’d pick Seattle, but I consider Vancouver home (even though I no longer live there) so I have a hard time rooting for either West Coast team.
Just pointing out the obvious that it’s not traumatic for Portland fans. Forgive me. It was salt on the wound.
I love Laura Harvey and fiery little dragon so I wish them success.@stephaniepixie when does nsl kick off? I haven’t followed the league at all, but I love a Cascadia team and could be persuaded to follow Vancouver. Do you still have Themporer Quinn?
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@stephaniepixie when does nsl kick off? I haven’t followed the league at all, but I love a Cascadia team and could be persuaded to follow Vancouver. Do you still have Themporer Quinn?
@dougwade “Themperor”
I didn’t know anyone used that nickname for Quinn. As far as I know they’re still with the Rise and so is Nikki Stanton. Quinn scored more goals in one season with the Rise than any other club. Not to mention the Rise won the championship in the league’s inaugural season. Very successful.First game of the season will be Friday April 24th in Vancouver vs Toronto AFC (rematch of the playoff final).
Some matches are on the league YouTube page but I believe ESPN will air NSL matches again this year in the US.
You might catch a few more players who end up transferring over to the NWSL like Holly Ward did for Seattle.
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Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
@alice This is so important to recognize. I can't count the number of times my gallows humor has had me ostracized when all I was trying to do was echo locate someone who would understand me. Maybe even advocate for me
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Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
@alice Yeeeeeep. Spend a bit of time around firefighters and EMTs and the like and you'll get plenty of it
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Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
True, so very painfully true. And I think this apples even, perhaps especially, with the self deprecating kind.
Trauma comes in many forms, and almost always produces emotional/physical/psychological scars and thus coping mechanisms. Some of those people may not even realize themselves to be coping mechanisms.
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@alice This is so important to recognize. I can't count the number of times my gallows humor has had me ostracized when all I was trying to do was echo locate someone who would understand me. Maybe even advocate for me
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Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
@alice my last two exes were ER doctors - can confirm!
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Dark humor is a coping mechanism for dealing with repeated exposure to trauma.
Just FYI.
And dark humour can get you ostracised, leading to even more trauma.
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And dark humour can get you ostracised, leading to even more trauma.
You've made me realise just how much I censor myself, here on Fedi and in meatspace. I keep the dark-humour dial close to zero for fear of alienating people, and I've been doing it for so long that I was no longer even conscious of doing it.
Thanks for today's big insight, Alice.
