Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth.
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That's it. That's what I've got. Just my experience.
No grand theory that explains everything, no intellectual justification. I can't explain this any more than you can.
But my experience is real. And I cannot stand by if you're going to "debate" the reality of it.
I exist. I'm right here. Look at me.
Fin/@Tattie Thanks! I appreciate you sharing this. It's lovely. Congrats on finding ways to feel like you.
I also think it's wild that cis people are expecting you to explain gender to them. My experience asking cis people to explain this whole gender thing is that either they flop around like a fish on a riverbank or they fall back on PLUTO IS A PLANET repetition of too-simple things that they learned when they were 7 and haven't thought about since.
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I knew that, so don't know why I capitalise it
Thanks for the reminder 
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I knew that, so don't know why I capitalise it
Thanks for the reminder @JaxVent @forestine @Tattie autocorrect uppercases it automatically for me every time and it's so annoying
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That's it. That's what I've got. Just my experience.
No grand theory that explains everything, no intellectual justification. I can't explain this any more than you can.
But my experience is real. And I cannot stand by if you're going to "debate" the reality of it.
I exist. I'm right here. Look at me.
Fin/@Tattie thanks for writing this, it very much mirrors my own experience. I tried so hard to avoid transitioning. I lived as a femme out gay man for over a decade. I'm still just at the early stages and still terrified, but I've reached the end of the road of alternative options. We shouldn't have to rigorously justify our own existence, it's just unreasonable to expect this. There probably isn't a rational explanation for being trans, it's just life and it unfolds the way it does. Sending all my love
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@Tattie thanks for writing this, it very much mirrors my own experience. I tried so hard to avoid transitioning. I lived as a femme out gay man for over a decade. I'm still just at the early stages and still terrified, but I've reached the end of the road of alternative options. We shouldn't have to rigorously justify our own existence, it's just unreasonable to expect this. There probably isn't a rational explanation for being trans, it's just life and it unfolds the way it does. Sending all my love
@xorlou well done on reaching this point, it's not easy! Hope transition is bringing you joy!
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That's it. That's what I've got. Just my experience.
No grand theory that explains everything, no intellectual justification. I can't explain this any more than you can.
But my experience is real. And I cannot stand by if you're going to "debate" the reality of it.
I exist. I'm right here. Look at me.
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Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth. If we can't do that, they say, how can they believe us?
But trans people shouldn't have to be philosophers and psychologists all wrapped up into one to have our experiences believed. 1/
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And we shouldn't have to be endocrinologists to get proper health care or lawyers to get our documents changed... -
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And we shouldn't have to be endocrinologists to get proper health care or lawyers to get our documents changed...@eruonna or ethicists, or sports scientists, or fashionistas, or anthropologists, or conflict mediators, or counsellors (oh wait)
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@xorlou well done on reaching this point, it's not easy! Hope transition is bringing you joy!
@Tattie thanks, yes I feel a lot of relief to finally be on HRT and I have been feeling better about myself.
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Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth. If we can't do that, they say, how can they believe us?
But trans people shouldn't have to be philosophers and psychologists all wrapped up into one to have our experiences believed. 1/
@Tattie Cis people be like "I don't make the rules" and then literally go and make the rules
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That's it. That's what I've got. Just my experience.
No grand theory that explains everything, no intellectual justification. I can't explain this any more than you can.
But my experience is real. And I cannot stand by if you're going to "debate" the reality of it.
I exist. I'm right here. Look at me.
Fin/@Tattie
A few people already said similar, but plenty of social sciences have already done all that work of defining gender so we shouldn't have to.It's not that transphobes can't find the information, it's that they don't care to listen to it anyway because it doesn't validate their own hateful beliefs.
It'd also help if they stopped burning our studies, books, and science centers down then pretending it's a new idea to be a transgender person.
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That's it. That's what I've got. Just my experience.
No grand theory that explains everything, no intellectual justification. I can't explain this any more than you can.
But my experience is real. And I cannot stand by if you're going to "debate" the reality of it.
I exist. I'm right here. Look at me.
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Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth. If we can't do that, they say, how can they believe us?
But trans people shouldn't have to be philosophers and psychologists all wrapped up into one to have our experiences believed. 1/
Ask them if they can read. They should read 'Bitch' by Lucy Cooke, a modern zoologist, unlike the Victorian pseudo-scientists revered by the out of touch British Government and obsolete 'supreme' court.
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Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth. If we can't do that, they say, how can they believe us?
But trans people shouldn't have to be philosophers and psychologists all wrapped up into one to have our experiences believed. 1/
@Tattie One does not have to understand a thing to accept it and believe other people's experiences.
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Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth. If we can't do that, they say, how can they believe us?
But trans people shouldn't have to be philosophers and psychologists all wrapped up into one to have our experiences believed. 1/
@Tattie The problem is that the concept of gender is so entirely arbitrary, that they need rigid boundaries to keep it in place. So much so that they will ignore the science of sex, just so as not to hurt their illusions.
It was the same with animal sexuality.
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That's it. That's what I've got. Just my experience.
No grand theory that explains everything, no intellectual justification. I can't explain this any more than you can.
But my experience is real. And I cannot stand by if you're going to "debate" the reality of it.
I exist. I'm right here. Look at me.
Fin/After all this, after all your journey, your questions, your answers... Why should I as some random cis person tell you who you are?? You're clearly the expert on yourself, how much audacity would I need to conjure??
Bonus fun fact: even at the beginning of their journey, people are more the expert on themselves than we can ever be. Accept their judgement!
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I'm happier as a girl and the evidence suggests it has to do with my brain but that's all I can conclusively say
@burnoutqueen @Tattie “It has to do with the brain” is the only thing I could remember after listening to Robert Sapolsky talk about the topic
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@burnoutqueen @Tattie “It has to do with the brain” is the only thing I could remember after listening to Robert Sapolsky talk about the topic
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I love that talk.
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Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth. If we can't do that, they say, how can they believe us?
But trans people shouldn't have to be philosophers and psychologists all wrapped up into one to have our experiences believed. 1/
@Tattie When you put it like that, one thing really stands out to me, even as a cis man.
That letter on the birth certificate is made based on physical presentation at birth, with a presumed link to development years later and an assumption of generalized characteristics therefrom, barring lesser-seen phenomena.
(Verbose in an attempt to avoid loaded terms)
Although it fits for me, if someone feels mismatched, the question you describe being forced to face is a reversal of the onus of proof.
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@Tattie When you put it like that, one thing really stands out to me, even as a cis man.
That letter on the birth certificate is made based on physical presentation at birth, with a presumed link to development years later and an assumption of generalized characteristics therefrom, barring lesser-seen phenomena.
(Verbose in an attempt to avoid loaded terms)
Although it fits for me, if someone feels mismatched, the question you describe being forced to face is a reversal of the onus of proof.
@Tattie After all, childhood development tracking is seeing if the way children grow up follows an expected pattern, including gender/sex-linked things.
It follows that people are sometimes expected not to follow those patterns, for a multitude of reasons (not to fall into a medicalization trap other sexual minorities suffered horrendously from).
Therefore, that letter doesn't tell the entire story for everyone and moreover, society recognizes it.
