hey nonbinary and trans friends!

[hex@dads.cool]

@lapis ooh noted. currently kiddo's wardrobe is basically "wear this ONE hoodie constantly" so that might not be an issue, but i'll relay the advice along nonetheless! thank you

[coral@kind.social]

@hex your kid is so relatable I'm 45 and also wear the same hoodie every day I can.

TomboyX has binders and gender-neutral-ish swimwear. https://tomboyx.com/collections/gender-affirming

[geniodiabolico@mastodon.geniodiabolico.synology.me]

@hex https://transtape.life/
Trans people I know have found this satisfactory

[hex@dads.cool]

@coral oh wonderful!! i was actually worried about swimwear for them. we have a pool we're currently opening up and they love swimming. i def want that to not be an issue for them. thank you!!

[hex@dads.cool]

@geniodiabolico nice! thanks! yeah someone else mentioned trans tape and i found this. glad to see it organically get suggested too

[quyetpawz@tech.lgbt]

@hex hi there's a non binary person on IG that does reviews of binders and stuff.

Here's the profile: https://www.instagram.com/robynholdaway?igsh=MXd2OTl1dGR5d2MxYg==

Hope it helps.

[hex@dads.cool]

@QuyetPawz hi! thanks that should be some help!! thanks!

[t54r4n1@mspsocial.net]

@hex binders only work for a couple hours at a time and come with significant tradeoffs for breathing. well-fitting sports bras are ok for all-day wear.
based on the only-hoodie outfit maybe consider talking to your kid about pausing puberty a little while after you get them. that sounds like what we call a dysphoria hoodie

[quyetpawz@tech.lgbt]

@hex no problem!

[hex@dads.cool]

@t54r4n1 that actually is a good idea. hadn't considered puberty blockers. will discuss

also they loves this hoodie lol. its an old Girr from Invader Zimm throwback with a massive zipper. hoping they don't consider it dysphoric

[t54r4n1@mspsocial.net]

@hex it can be two things, honestly. but good luck and thanks for asking for advice!!

[caetfood@plush.city]

@hex theFluxion makes very comfy binders made by and for people with sensory issues, especially autism. They're stretchy, comfy, dry fast and are also suitable for swimming, they don't restrict as much as the binders I tried before.

[hex@dads.cool]

@CAETFOOD oooh! yeah the kiddo was recently diagnosed with autism so this might be greatly appreciated. thank you very much!

[irina@wandering.shop]

@hex boosted! I don't have any answers, being cis myself, but you're a splendid dad!

[hex@dads.cool]

@irina thank you i appreciate the boost and kind words

[rubberband@app.wafrn.net]

@hex@dads.cool

I got my first binder off wish. do not recommend. but the brand spectrum uk is amazing if your kid can tolerate the hard front panel. I could not because of rib issues, so I ended up going with one from the brand forthem. they have leotard material all around. I've since had top surgery but I've heard gc2b has fallen off in recent years, so my advice would be to avoid them

[hex@dads.cool]

@rubberband ooh noted. thank you for the extended advice. will definitely take this to the kiddo while they make a decision.

[noodlejetski@masto.ai]

@lapis @hex > off-the-rack

isn't every binder, in a way?

[bloodripelives@federatedfandom.net]

@hex I really like the Underworks ones! https://www.underworks.com/tri-top-chest-binder They're not universally loved because the fabric is somewhat stiff, but I find it more comfortable than softer ones because the tissue doesn't slip around underneath. A properly fitting binder shouldn't restrict breathing and plenty of people wear them all day, at least for reasonable lengths of going to school/work (more: https://www.rainbow-project.org/safe-binding-and-packing/) Even if your kid just wants to try it sometimes for certain outfits, it's still a fun wardrobe option to have!

If you're in a big city it's also possible there's a physical store that will allow trying them on, though that also would be likely to be a sex store so ymmv on how that would be to take your kid there!

[hex@dads.cool]

@bloodripelives thanks!! we're not so lucky that we'd be able to take them to a store to try stuff on but financially stable enough we could shop around until they find something they like. forwarding them the rainbow project site for sure