hey nonbinary and trans friends!
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hey nonbinary and trans friends!
one of my kids is looking for a binder as they try to find a more gender neutral appearance. any suggestions of reputable places to look for appropriate stuff?
and apologies in advance for clumsiness in asking. just a cis dad trying to not fail his kid
boosts are welcome and encouraged
@hex binders only work for a couple hours at a time and come with significant tradeoffs for breathing. well-fitting sports bras are ok for all-day wear.
based on the only-hoodie outfit maybe consider talking to your kid about pausing puberty a little while after you get them. that sounds like what we call a dysphoria hoodie -
@QuyetPawz hi! thanks that should be some help!! thanks!
@hex no problem!
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@hex binders only work for a couple hours at a time and come with significant tradeoffs for breathing. well-fitting sports bras are ok for all-day wear.
based on the only-hoodie outfit maybe consider talking to your kid about pausing puberty a little while after you get them. that sounds like what we call a dysphoria hoodie@t54r4n1 that actually is a good idea. hadn't considered puberty blockers. will discuss
also they loves this hoodie lol. its an old Girr from Invader Zimm throwback with a massive zipper. hoping they don't consider it dysphoric
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@t54r4n1 that actually is a good idea. hadn't considered puberty blockers. will discuss
also they loves this hoodie lol. its an old Girr from Invader Zimm throwback with a massive zipper. hoping they don't consider it dysphoric
@hex it can be two things, honestly. but good luck and thanks for asking for advice!!
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hey nonbinary and trans friends!
one of my kids is looking for a binder as they try to find a more gender neutral appearance. any suggestions of reputable places to look for appropriate stuff?
and apologies in advance for clumsiness in asking. just a cis dad trying to not fail his kid
boosts are welcome and encouraged
@hex theFluxion makes very comfy binders made by and for people with sensory issues, especially autism. They're stretchy, comfy, dry fast and are also suitable for swimming, they don't restrict as much as the binders I tried before.
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@hex theFluxion makes very comfy binders made by and for people with sensory issues, especially autism. They're stretchy, comfy, dry fast and are also suitable for swimming, they don't restrict as much as the binders I tried before.
@CAETFOOD oooh! yeah the kiddo was recently diagnosed with autism so this might be greatly appreciated. thank you very much!
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hey nonbinary and trans friends!
one of my kids is looking for a binder as they try to find a more gender neutral appearance. any suggestions of reputable places to look for appropriate stuff?
and apologies in advance for clumsiness in asking. just a cis dad trying to not fail his kid
boosts are welcome and encouraged
@hex boosted! I don't have any answers, being cis myself, but you're a splendid dad!
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@hex boosted! I don't have any answers, being cis myself, but you're a splendid dad!
@irina
thank you i appreciate the boost and kind words -
hey nonbinary and trans friends!
one of my kids is looking for a binder as they try to find a more gender neutral appearance. any suggestions of reputable places to look for appropriate stuff?
and apologies in advance for clumsiness in asking. just a cis dad trying to not fail his kid
boosts are welcome and encouraged
I got my first binder off wish. do not recommend. but the brand spectrum uk is amazing if your kid can tolerate the hard front panel. I could not because of rib issues, so I ended up going with one from the brand forthem. they have leotard material all around. I've since had top surgery but I've heard gc2b has fallen off in recent years, so my advice would be to avoid them
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I got my first binder off wish. do not recommend. but the brand spectrum uk is amazing if your kid can tolerate the hard front panel. I could not because of rib issues, so I ended up going with one from the brand forthem. they have leotard material all around. I've since had top surgery but I've heard gc2b has fallen off in recent years, so my advice would be to avoid them
@rubberband ooh noted. thank you for the extended advice. will definitely take this to the kiddo while they make a decision.
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hey nonbinary and trans friends!
one of my kids is looking for a binder as they try to find a more gender neutral appearance. any suggestions of reputable places to look for appropriate stuff?
and apologies in advance for clumsiness in asking. just a cis dad trying to not fail his kid
boosts are welcome and encouraged
@hex I really like the Underworks ones! https://www.underworks.com/tri-top-chest-binder They're not universally loved because the fabric is somewhat stiff, but I find it more comfortable than softer ones because the tissue doesn't slip around underneath. A properly fitting binder shouldn't restrict breathing and plenty of people wear them all day, at least for reasonable lengths of going to school/work (more: https://www.rainbow-project.org/safe-binding-and-packing/) Even if your kid just wants to try it sometimes for certain outfits, it's still a fun wardrobe option to have!
If you're in a big city it's also possible there's a physical store that will allow trying them on, though that also would be likely to be a sex store so ymmv on how that would be to take your kid there!
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@hex I really like the Underworks ones! https://www.underworks.com/tri-top-chest-binder They're not universally loved because the fabric is somewhat stiff, but I find it more comfortable than softer ones because the tissue doesn't slip around underneath. A properly fitting binder shouldn't restrict breathing and plenty of people wear them all day, at least for reasonable lengths of going to school/work (more: https://www.rainbow-project.org/safe-binding-and-packing/) Even if your kid just wants to try it sometimes for certain outfits, it's still a fun wardrobe option to have!
If you're in a big city it's also possible there's a physical store that will allow trying them on, though that also would be likely to be a sex store so ymmv on how that would be to take your kid there!
@bloodripelives thanks!! we're not so lucky that we'd be able to take them to a store to try stuff on but financially stable enough we could shop around until they find something they like. forwarding them the rainbow project site for sure
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@hex binders only work for a couple hours at a time and come with significant tradeoffs for breathing. well-fitting sports bras are ok for all-day wear.
based on the only-hoodie outfit maybe consider talking to your kid about pausing puberty a little while after you get them. that sounds like what we call a dysphoria hoodie -
hey nonbinary and trans friends!
one of my kids is looking for a binder as they try to find a more gender neutral appearance. any suggestions of reputable places to look for appropriate stuff?
and apologies in advance for clumsiness in asking. just a cis dad trying to not fail his kid
boosts are welcome and encouraged
@hex For more resources, see: https://merida.hair/notes/am0rq1h9w8l90001
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hey nonbinary and trans friends!
one of my kids is looking for a binder as they try to find a more gender neutral appearance. any suggestions of reputable places to look for appropriate stuff?
and apologies in advance for clumsiness in asking. just a cis dad trying to not fail his kid
boosts are welcome and encouraged
@hex my info is a decade out of date but gc2b used to be a trusted brand. Even if you go with another source later, you should be able to discuss options with your kid based on their offerings and figure out what style they might want, sizing, etc. Your kid may also already know much more about this than you realize, depending on how long this has been in the works, so I'd start by asking them!
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@hex For more resources, see: https://merida.hair/notes/am0rq1h9w8l90001
@ricci thanks!
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@hex my info is a decade out of date but gc2b used to be a trusted brand. Even if you go with another source later, you should be able to discuss options with your kid based on their offerings and figure out what style they might want, sizing, etc. Your kid may also already know much more about this than you realize, depending on how long this has been in the works, so I'd start by asking them!
@iris thanks! yeah, gc2b is on my list, and i've heard quality has dropped, but we'll be checking it out all the same.
and yeah we're working with them on this. they actually didn't know where to start, so i figured this was a good place to ask
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@iris thanks! yeah, gc2b is on my list, and i've heard quality has dropped, but we'll be checking it out all the same.
and yeah we're working with them on this. they actually didn't know where to start, so i figured this was a good place to ask
@hex that's actually fantastic to hear that they're involving you at this stage. I know things have changed for the better, but it's still not something to take for granted!
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@hex that's actually fantastic to hear that they're involving you at this stage. I know things have changed for the better, but it's still not something to take for granted!
@iris yeah i'm internalizing how special it is that they feel comfortable enough with both my spouse and me to be involved. doing my best to not step over boundaries and just give them whatever support they need
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