Subject: Autistic ‘black and white’ thinking.
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I think our bones are right.
In fact, I think embracing a reasoning style based on data, patterns, and probability could be a huge bonus for everyone.
As – objectively speaking – it could pave the road for authenticity, equity, and justice to replace former murkiness, power plays, and empty promises.
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References below
@KatyElphinstone If I may sum up:
(1) Neurotypicals are the ones who are rigid, not #autistics! They have a hardwired set of assumptions and mental reflexes that facilitate efficient interaction with common environments (especially social environments) but can fail very badly outside their native domain. What I call the #EnvironmentalYoke.
(2) Autistics appear to pay a heavy price for our disconnect from the hardwired social interactions at which neurotypicals are so facile, but it is a FIXED price, paid up front. In return we get a potentially unlimited income stream of principled insights into how the world — the WHOLE world, not just the socially relevant part — REALLY works.
(3) Given (1) and (2), no wonder evolution keeps inflicting our kind on a bewildered neurotypical social world that sees nothing in us but weirdness and inefficiency.
(4) Your references appear to be a gold mine of resources for giving detail and concreteness to the very general concept of an #EnvironmentalYoke.
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@KatyElphinstone if you have audhd this is true except you're also chained to a gremlin
Aarrgh that sounds tough!
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Subject: Autistic ‘black and white’ thinking.
It's framed as a deficit often seen in autism, but... is it that simple?
Autistic people are traditionally criticized for our inflexibility, or cognitive rigidity.
But I think this isn’t the whole picture.
To start with what we know, here are ten things we autistic people generally have in common (refs at the end of the thread):
️ #Autism #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
@KatyElphinstone I am of the unshakeable conviction that we may be different, but neither better nor worse. Put us in the right place and we'll flourish, put us in the wrong one and we won't. Just like anybody else.
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1. Autistic people like to base our positions and decisions on data.
2. We’re into justice, and fairness.
3. And logic (which is, I feel, a good strategy for bringing about more fairness).
4. We're not comfortable trusting reassurances without evidence.
5. We like clarity. Lack of clarity can make us anxious.
6. We think probabilistically / statistically.
️@KatyElphinstone I love this whole list, and feel very seen just reading it. Number 5 is an often overlooked fact, and I run into it sometimes. Empty assurances bug me, especially from a stranger or a meme. I feel like people deploy those when they're uncomfortable with another's suffering and don't know what else to say. So they crank out a platitude and get their dopamine rush, feeling like a good person, but don't actually help in any way.
edit - I meant 4, not 5.
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Subject: Autistic ‘black and white’ thinking.
It's framed as a deficit often seen in autism, but... is it that simple?
Autistic people are traditionally criticized for our inflexibility, or cognitive rigidity.
But I think this isn’t the whole picture.
To start with what we know, here are ten things we autistic people generally have in common (refs at the end of the thread):
️ #Autism #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
@KatyElphinstone This entire thread is so thoughtful and beautifully written — with references, even! Thank you.
️ Lots resonates here, but my very favorite phrasing was “uncertainty is explicitly modeled rather than socially smoothed over.” 
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I think our bones are right.
In fact, I think embracing a reasoning style based on data, patterns, and probability could be a huge bonus for everyone.
As – objectively speaking – it could pave the road for authenticity, equity, and justice to replace former murkiness, power plays, and empty promises.
End of 🧵
References below
@KatyElphinstone I am glad to hear I am not the only autistic person who thinks this way. I thought that all autistic people did, until recently I picked up a book of Greta Thunberg speeches, and I was confused when the second speech said, "I have Asperger's syndrome, and to me, almost everything is black or white." I thought back to when I was living with my parents, and they would get annoyed at me for saying things like, "I think its important to acknowledge that while that's effectively true in this case, it isn't technically the truth, and would lead to the wrong decision in some cases." Like, what could be more grey lol.
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4: Are we right not to ‘just trust’?
Many neurotypical social systems run on:
- Emotional smoothing
- Implicit trust
- Status-based reassurance
- Norm enforcement through vibe rather than dataIf you’ve repeatedly experienced (and many autistic people have; refs at the end):
- Broken promises
- Social insecurity and unpredictability
- Rule inconsistencies and injusticesThen vague reassurance doesn’t reduce uncertainty – it increases it!
️@KatyElphinstone That may be why traditional advertisement doesn't work on us - we simply don't trust it.
Speaking for myself, no matter how promising an advertisement looks, I'll ignore it simply because it's advertisement. It's not a trustworthy source of information. Broken promises is all I'll ever expect from advertisement.
(That framing would also indicate what type of advertisement does work: anything from a trustworthy source, for example product information or recommendations contained in articles or blog posts from authors we consider reliable.)
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4: Are we right not to ‘just trust’?
Many neurotypical social systems run on:
- Emotional smoothing
- Implicit trust
- Status-based reassurance
- Norm enforcement through vibe rather than dataIf you’ve repeatedly experienced (and many autistic people have; refs at the end):
- Broken promises
- Social insecurity and unpredictability
- Rule inconsistencies and injusticesThen vague reassurance doesn’t reduce uncertainty – it increases it!
️- emotional smoothing by whom?
- implicit trust in what?
- norm enforcement through what kind of vibe?The hiding and staying at an „aloof“ distance that was interpreted as a characteristic of autistics is indeed a consequence of having been bitten not once, but over and over and over. Just like in that meme that says „I used to be a people person, but people ruined that for me“.
It’s punishment that does that.
Punishment for all the things you listed above, because they question hierarchy. They point out errors. And mistakes aren’t seen as necessary steps on the way, but as something that decreases your value, as bad, as something to be avoided because it weakens your status.
We live in a culture that’s based on competition rather than cooperation. And the ones on top are males. It’s about hierarchy all the way down, and most people strive to become more powerful rather than more respectful.
Our autistic out-of-the-box thinking is challenging. Those who are into hierarchy take any challenge as an attack, even personally, rather than an opportunity. They tend to interpret everything as an attack, even simple questions, because of their fear of failure, of losing status, and power.
So, the way I see it, you’re right and I agree with everything you said - but you don’t say the quiet part out loud:
- That emotional smoothing has a direction. It has to be done by those who have something to lose. By those afraid of escalation and punishment. Those further down in the hierarchy.
- those higher up want implicit trust in their authority, which is based on power. On status. Because if it were based on expertise, they’d actually encourage others to think for themselves and guide them through challenges so both sides have a chance to learn from them.
- and it’s norm enforcement through bribery for compliance on the pleasant side, and fear, intimidation and pain on the aversive side. Those are the basic control tools of patriarchy. This is why we see all that violence emerge once some power and hierarchy is challenged, rather than everyone take a step back and find a solution in a cooperative way that’s good for everyone. And we can see that in private as well as global scenarios. In ableism, racism, sexism… you name it.
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- emotional smoothing by whom?
- implicit trust in what?
- norm enforcement through what kind of vibe?The hiding and staying at an „aloof“ distance that was interpreted as a characteristic of autistics is indeed a consequence of having been bitten not once, but over and over and over. Just like in that meme that says „I used to be a people person, but people ruined that for me“.
It’s punishment that does that.
Punishment for all the things you listed above, because they question hierarchy. They point out errors. And mistakes aren’t seen as necessary steps on the way, but as something that decreases your value, as bad, as something to be avoided because it weakens your status.
We live in a culture that’s based on competition rather than cooperation. And the ones on top are males. It’s about hierarchy all the way down, and most people strive to become more powerful rather than more respectful.
Our autistic out-of-the-box thinking is challenging. Those who are into hierarchy take any challenge as an attack, even personally, rather than an opportunity. They tend to interpret everything as an attack, even simple questions, because of their fear of failure, of losing status, and power.
So, the way I see it, you’re right and I agree with everything you said - but you don’t say the quiet part out loud:
- That emotional smoothing has a direction. It has to be done by those who have something to lose. By those afraid of escalation and punishment. Those further down in the hierarchy.
- those higher up want implicit trust in their authority, which is based on power. On status. Because if it were based on expertise, they’d actually encourage others to think for themselves and guide them through challenges so both sides have a chance to learn from them.
- and it’s norm enforcement through bribery for compliance on the pleasant side, and fear, intimidation and pain on the aversive side. Those are the basic control tools of patriarchy. This is why we see all that violence emerge once some power and hierarchy is challenged, rather than everyone take a step back and find a solution in a cooperative way that’s good for everyone. And we can see that in private as well as global scenarios. In ableism, racism, sexism… you name it.
Exactly this. Nicely put indeed.
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- emotional smoothing by whom?
- implicit trust in what?
- norm enforcement through what kind of vibe?The hiding and staying at an „aloof“ distance that was interpreted as a characteristic of autistics is indeed a consequence of having been bitten not once, but over and over and over. Just like in that meme that says „I used to be a people person, but people ruined that for me“.
It’s punishment that does that.
Punishment for all the things you listed above, because they question hierarchy. They point out errors. And mistakes aren’t seen as necessary steps on the way, but as something that decreases your value, as bad, as something to be avoided because it weakens your status.
We live in a culture that’s based on competition rather than cooperation. And the ones on top are males. It’s about hierarchy all the way down, and most people strive to become more powerful rather than more respectful.
Our autistic out-of-the-box thinking is challenging. Those who are into hierarchy take any challenge as an attack, even personally, rather than an opportunity. They tend to interpret everything as an attack, even simple questions, because of their fear of failure, of losing status, and power.
So, the way I see it, you’re right and I agree with everything you said - but you don’t say the quiet part out loud:
- That emotional smoothing has a direction. It has to be done by those who have something to lose. By those afraid of escalation and punishment. Those further down in the hierarchy.
- those higher up want implicit trust in their authority, which is based on power. On status. Because if it were based on expertise, they’d actually encourage others to think for themselves and guide them through challenges so both sides have a chance to learn from them.
- and it’s norm enforcement through bribery for compliance on the pleasant side, and fear, intimidation and pain on the aversive side. Those are the basic control tools of patriarchy. This is why we see all that violence emerge once some power and hierarchy is challenged, rather than everyone take a step back and find a solution in a cooperative way that’s good for everyone. And we can see that in private as well as global scenarios. In ableism, racism, sexism… you name it.
In other words: I believe it’s not because all our differences have to be inherently difficult. They don’t punish us because theyre allistics.
Its because this culture has shaped affective priorities and thinking in a way that is deeply, deeply toxic. And we’re not automatically completely free from that just because of our different neurotype.
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@KatyElphinstone if you have audhd this is true except you're also chained to a gremlin
@sinvega @KatyElphinstone I prefer the term squirrel, but yes.
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@KatyElphinstone Great thread!
Thank you
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@KatyElphinstone If I may sum up:
(1) Neurotypicals are the ones who are rigid, not #autistics! They have a hardwired set of assumptions and mental reflexes that facilitate efficient interaction with common environments (especially social environments) but can fail very badly outside their native domain. What I call the #EnvironmentalYoke.
(2) Autistics appear to pay a heavy price for our disconnect from the hardwired social interactions at which neurotypicals are so facile, but it is a FIXED price, paid up front. In return we get a potentially unlimited income stream of principled insights into how the world — the WHOLE world, not just the socially relevant part — REALLY works.
(3) Given (1) and (2), no wonder evolution keeps inflicting our kind on a bewildered neurotypical social world that sees nothing in us but weirdness and inefficiency.
(4) Your references appear to be a gold mine of resources for giving detail and concreteness to the very general concept of an #EnvironmentalYoke.
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@KatyElphinstone I am glad to hear I am not the only autistic person who thinks this way. I thought that all autistic people did, until recently I picked up a book of Greta Thunberg speeches, and I was confused when the second speech said, "I have Asperger's syndrome, and to me, almost everything is black or white." I thought back to when I was living with my parents, and they would get annoyed at me for saying things like, "I think its important to acknowledge that while that's effectively true in this case, it isn't technically the truth, and would lead to the wrong decision in some cases." Like, what could be more grey lol.
I've also wondered about Greta Thunberg saying that.
I think what she maybe means is that there's clarity on things, for her. Which would make what she's saying pretty similar to what's laid out here. She's probably been accused many times of being "black and white" because of it.
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@KatyElphinstone I am glad to hear I am not the only autistic person who thinks this way. I thought that all autistic people did, until recently I picked up a book of Greta Thunberg speeches, and I was confused when the second speech said, "I have Asperger's syndrome, and to me, almost everything is black or white." I thought back to when I was living with my parents, and they would get annoyed at me for saying things like, "I think its important to acknowledge that while that's effectively true in this case, it isn't technically the truth, and would lead to the wrong decision in some cases." Like, what could be more grey lol.
Hehe absolutely!!
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@KatyElphinstone That may be why traditional advertisement doesn't work on us - we simply don't trust it.
Speaking for myself, no matter how promising an advertisement looks, I'll ignore it simply because it's advertisement. It's not a trustworthy source of information. Broken promises is all I'll ever expect from advertisement.
(That framing would also indicate what type of advertisement does work: anything from a trustworthy source, for example product information or recommendations contained in articles or blog posts from authors we consider reliable.)
Yes. That would also fit in with the kinds of advertising that does work on autistic people; advertising that's based on statistics and on providing data about the product.
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In other words: I believe it’s not because all our differences have to be inherently difficult. They don’t punish us because theyre allistics.
Its because this culture has shaped affective priorities and thinking in a way that is deeply, deeply toxic. And we’re not automatically completely free from that just because of our different neurotype.
It's sadly true that none of us are free of it. And I agree it is incredibly toxic. It - the power structure - needs a good strong light shone on it.
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@KatyElphinstone I love this whole list, and feel very seen just reading it. Number 5 is an often overlooked fact, and I run into it sometimes. Empty assurances bug me, especially from a stranger or a meme. I feel like people deploy those when they're uncomfortable with another's suffering and don't know what else to say. So they crank out a platitude and get their dopamine rush, feeling like a good person, but don't actually help in any way.
edit - I meant 4, not 5.
I actually start panicking when people start reassuring me. I think that must be a trauma reaction
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@KatyElphinstone I am of the unshakeable conviction that we may be different, but neither better nor worse. Put us in the right place and we'll flourish, put us in the wrong one and we won't. Just like anybody else.
Absolutely. I'm with you on this. It takes all sorts.
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@KatyElphinstone I am glad to hear I am not the only autistic person who thinks this way. I thought that all autistic people did, until recently I picked up a book of Greta Thunberg speeches, and I was confused when the second speech said, "I have Asperger's syndrome, and to me, almost everything is black or white." I thought back to when I was living with my parents, and they would get annoyed at me for saying things like, "I think its important to acknowledge that while that's effectively true in this case, it isn't technically the truth, and would lead to the wrong decision in some cases." Like, what could be more grey lol.
@jessica @KatyElphinstone You know what does produce black-and-white thinking?
Abuse.
"You/they did a bad thing. Therefore you/they are a bad person, and therefore everything you/they think or do is bad." Or the inverse with goodness.
And going back to the truism that there are no Autistics without trauma ... could this be the reason for the stereotype?
