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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft.

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  • starkrg@myside-yourside.netS starkrg@myside-yourside.net

    @masukomi I don't think lower-management often get very involved in the hiring process. I suspect their bosses would do the hiring, and then assign the new employees to various teams. The closest that person probably gets to hiring someone is asking their boss for an extra hand for half the week.

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    @StarkRG @masukomi They absolutely do. Usually they write the first draft of the position requirements, and are the second tier interviewers (with first as well as last right of rejection).

    Source: That used to be part of my job.

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    • B barbra@social.vivaldi.net

      @StarkRG

      And yet, look at how many 2-year projects never get finished after half a decade or more.

      Always double the time estimate, then double again. Helps to get rid of the non-essential "nice to haves" that people keep trying to add "because it won't take that much longer" .

      Because EVERYONE keeps trying to bargain down how long something should take, even though THEY CAN NOT DO IT THEMSELVES.

      Trying to meet unreasonable deadlines, even if you succeed, just adds technical debt. Glad I'm retired, because if there's one thing I've learned, it's that management can't even manage themselves effectively. That's why they went into management. Because only those who can do, do. Those who can't go into management.

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      @barbra @StarkRG Technical debt is one of the things that drove me out of the industry. When combined with the unwillingness to walk away from sunk costs, the vast majority of my budgets maintained the status quo. This resulted in a lack of progress. When AI arrived I was tasked with creating a shadow data infrastructure to serve the machine. Shadow because I still needed validated systems to actually generate and maintain the data.

      I was happily given the severence I requested as I had become insufferable about this topic.

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      • lizzard@social.tchncs.deL lizzard@social.tchncs.de

        @fiend_unpleasant @crazyeddie @fesshole yeah, I meant them. I got what you were trying to say, and totally agree: the IT world has more than the average proportion of autistic people.

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        @lizzard @fiend_unpleasant @crazyeddie @fesshole IT department where i work is majority neurospicy. not all diagnosed, but some of them are kind of obvious? (i'm an autist myself.)

        personal take: hire us for IT! we're good at it!

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        • starkrg@myside-yourside.netS starkrg@myside-yourside.net

          @jonm Most of all, give people the time to complete their tasks in the way that best works for them. Deadlines are an unfortunate fact of life, but don't create unnecessary deadlines that just stress people out, and try to plan for both people to be slower and more meticulous and for unforseen delays. You don't need to go all Scotty and quadruple any time estimate, but at least increase it by half if not doubling it.
          (2/2)

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          @StarkRG @jonm

          Yeah, I'm not seeing anything there that's specific to autism. That's sage advice for dealing with just about anybody.

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          • walsonde@antifa.styleW walsonde@antifa.style

            @StarkRG @jonm addendum: it's easier in German culture because we don't need to tiptoe around allegedly hurtful things like saying no. we just say no, when we mean no. I have English relatives and spent a lot of time in England. For me, that's very exhausting because noone says what they mean.

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            @walsonde

            This must be why all those people fled from England to America back in the day. 😜

            @StarkRG @jonm

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            • crazyeddie@mastodon.socialC crazyeddie@mastodon.social

              @fiend_unpleasant @fesshole That's actually a really unkind thing to say.

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              @crazyeddie @fiend_unpleasant @fesshole something wrong with being autistic?

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              • lizzard@social.tchncs.deL lizzard@social.tchncs.de

                @walsonde @StarkRG @jonm this test is for you then: https://german.millermanschool.com/ πŸ˜‰
                Greetings from a fellow German autistic.

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                @lizzard Yes. πŸ˜„ @walsonde @StarkRG @jonm

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                • starkrg@myside-yourside.netS starkrg@myside-yourside.net

                  @sldrant "Now you're just arguing semantics." Yeah, no shit, I'm arguing semantics, because the meaning of the words being used to communicate directly influences what's actually being communicated. If we don't make sure we're all using approximately the same meanings, then you get the issue where the term "inflammable" was assumed to mean "not flammable".

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                  @StarkRG @sldrant Highly recommend "The Tyranny Of Words" by Stuart Chase (1938)
                  https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2343374.The_Tyranny_of_Words
                  This is exactly the premise you are defending.

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                  • fesshole@mastodon.socialF fesshole@mastodon.social

                    My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award

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                    @fesshole
                    Your parenting course is good. πŸ‘

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                    • argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.orgA argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.org

                      @walsonde

                      This must be why all those people fled from England to America back in the day. 😜

                      @StarkRG @jonm

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                      @argv_minus_one @StarkRG @jonm funny enough, today I wouldn't flee from Germany to England, but I'm genuinely considering emigrating to Scotland.

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                      • walsonde@antifa.styleW walsonde@antifa.style

                        @argv_minus_one @StarkRG @jonm funny enough, today I wouldn't flee from Germany to England, but I'm genuinely considering emigrating to Scotland.

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                        @walsonde

                        Why, what's going on in Scotland?

                        @StarkRG @jonm

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                        • sldrant@mastodon.socialS sldrant@mastodon.social

                          @StarkRG @fesshole I've been told off by a past manager for being particular with the words I'm using, but in a technical field those words have proper meanings, so being unambiguous is important

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                          @sldrant

                          Outside of the arts, I can't think of many fields where clear and unambiguous communication *isn't* important.

                          @StarkRG @fesshole

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                          • argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.orgA argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.org

                            @walsonde

                            Why, what's going on in Scotland?

                            @StarkRG @jonm

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                            @argv_minus_one @StarkRG @jonm nothing special really. It's just that fascists have taken over Germany and it's no longer a matter of "if" but "when" people like me will be put in KZs again.
                            Never in all my travels across europe have I encountered nicer and kinder people than in Scotland (by a very great margin). So I was hoping that I could find a small village somewhere in the outback where I would be left alone and in peace.

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                            • fesshole@mastodon.socialF fesshole@mastodon.social

                              My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award

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                              @fesshole πŸ‘

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                                @murodegrizeco

                                Any idea what went wrong at the workplace? In theory, updating one library shouldn't be hard…

                                @masek

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                                • argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.orgA argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.org

                                  @murodegrizeco

                                  Any idea what went wrong at the workplace? In theory, updating one library shouldn't be hard…

                                  @masek

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                                  @murodegrizeco

                                  Although to be fair, Minecraft isn't exactly mission-critical. Nobody's going to die or lose a million bucks if it crashes. One kid will be temporarily annoyed, and that's it.

                                  @masek

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                                  • crazyeddie@mastodon.socialC crazyeddie@mastodon.social

                                    @fiend_unpleasant @fesshole That's actually a really unkind thing to say.

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                                    @crazyeddie @fiend_unpleasant @fesshole i'm autistic and i must respectfully disagree

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                                    • argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.orgA argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.org

                                      @murodegrizeco

                                      Although to be fair, Minecraft isn't exactly mission-critical. Nobody's going to die or lose a million bucks if it crashes. One kid will be temporarily annoyed, and that's it.

                                      @masek

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                                      @argv_minus_one @murodegrizeco Tell that to a community of hundreds of kids for whom the Minecraft server is the center of their social life 😁.

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                                      • argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.orgA argv_minus_one@mastodon.sdf.org

                                        @murodegrizeco

                                        Any idea what went wrong at the workplace? In theory, updating one library shouldn't be hard…

                                        @masek

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                                        @argv_minus_one @murodegrizeco The bad guys were already on the server. Minecraft was, where log4j was first discovered.

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                                        • fesshole@mastodon.socialF fesshole@mastodon.social

                                          My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award

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                                          @fesshole Probably also responsible for at least one of those engineers getting an adult-autism diagnosis and finally receiving care. πŸ˜‚β€‹πŸ‘β€‹

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