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yeah, there isn't a complete alternative to Discord. but also, quite a lot of usecases don't actually need discord.
that TTRPG group of yours? can be on Signal.
the software support platform? can and should be a forum.

yeah it's an issue that FOSS is not yet up to everything Discord does. but too many things rely on Discord when they shouldn't.

@evan @luana
yeah, and i want to emphasise that in my original comment the main point that audience shouldn't be allowed to be expanded, but should definitely be allowed to get narrowed. hence why i'm saying privacy controls for replies should be entirely different, with the most *broad* option allowed being "original audience".

@luana @evan but you can change the privacy of replies. it doesn't have to follow OP's decision, and it's important to have the option to do so. which is why i'm saying the whole framework of reply privacy needs to be reworked.

@evan @luana i think the issue can be summarised as "fedi lets you change/expand the audience, when it should only let you narrow it". however, changing what followes-only does would eliminate the second part, which is important for safety.
ideally the privacy controls for replies should be entirely different to post controls, so instead of public, quiet, followers and DM, it should be "original audience, original but quiet, mutuals, DM", at least from the maximalist safety viewpoint.