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I think for me there's also a bit of a fear of being "too much". Too interested, too invested, too desperate, & being perceived as undesirable company because of that.

@binsk Oh, I like the concept of knowing approximately where the line is even if I can't see it directly. I've definitely gotten better at that over the past decades. Unfortunately I think I may have plateaued. And being censured in my youth for my lack of social skills has definitely made me sensitive to the mildest of rejection so I'm really wary now of overstepping.

@kristenhg Ah yes, the over-share, another great trait of mine. 🥲

But I have NT family members who meet someone new & start asking them all sorts of personal questions that I feel are extremely invasive, & apparently that's fine. ‍️

Do any other #ActuallyAutistic peeps struggle with knowing the line between asking personal questions of acquaintances or new friends to express interest vs being nosy/intrusive?

Sometimes I feel like every question out of my mouth to someone I don't know so well is borderline stalkerish, like they'll think I'm putting together a file on them. So I tend not to ask many questions unless people volunteer information & I guess I come off as aloof rather than intrusive.