Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the 🐈👅 gesture out the window at me.
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Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the
gesture out the window at me.Not sure if it was an observation based on my aesthetic, or the threat of a
good time, but either way...guys, this is why y'all're still single.@alice Are you addressing *all* "guys"? I'm a "guy", but neither do I drive an insult on four wheels (also called "car"), nor am I single.
The shame of being a "human being" is enough already!
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@alice Are you addressing *all* "guys"? I'm a "guy", but neither do I drive an insult on four wheels (also called "car"), nor am I single.
The shame of being a "human being" is enough already!
@sebastian if you felt called out, it might have been about you; otherwise, it wasn't.
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@sebastian if you felt called out, it might have been about you; otherwise, it wasn't.
@alice I obviously didn't, otherwise I wouldn't have spoken up. I just wanted to point out the word "all" in your posting. I understand your sentiment, please understand mine.
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@gbargoud WTAF?!
The bad experiences are rare but *extremely* memorable.
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Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the
gesture out the window at me.Not sure if it was an observation based on my aesthetic, or the threat of a
good time, but either way...guys, this is why y'all're still single.@alice
Yuk, I don't get people (sadly, mostly men) like this.
Its like the men on dating apps who will start a conversation with a dick pic. Why?! Am I really old, because its just not how you talk to people (of any gender). Even _if_ this is your ultimate goal. -
@alice I obviously didn't, otherwise I wouldn't have spoken up. I just wanted to point out the word "all" in your posting. I understand your sentiment, please understand mine.
Opposed to calling out the behavior of the male individual, or expressing support for the original poster, you felt the need to state that you disagree with the addition of the word "all",while agreeing that you weren't mentioned or targeted by said word?
Does that about cover it? I am trying to make sure I understand this correctly.
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Opposed to calling out the behavior of the male individual, or expressing support for the original poster, you felt the need to state that you disagree with the addition of the word "all",while agreeing that you weren't mentioned or targeted by said word?
Does that about cover it? I am trying to make sure I understand this correctly.
@Aprazeth Not quite. Not being targeted was my personal opinion. I didn't say, all men are single. That wasn't me.
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Opposed to calling out the behavior of the male individual, or expressing support for the original poster, you felt the need to state that you disagree with the addition of the word "all",while agreeing that you weren't mentioned or targeted by said word?
Does that about cover it? I am trying to make sure I understand this correctly.
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The bad experiences are rare but *extremely* memorable.
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Someone is the victim of sexual harassment and you are offended by their use of the term "all", even if you again admitted to not identifying as being addressed.
And you express that by negging the victim. Not by expressing any kind of sympathy, not by distancing yourself from the sexual harassment, but by publicly declaring that it isn't all men doing that.
Not sexually harassing someone isn't an achievement worthy of praise. Its being a decent person. Kind of like showing sympathy towards a victim.
Well, unless apparently the victim doesn't conform to the criteria of being all proper and trim with their wording. Let's ignore the fact that they experienced a traumatic event - because they used the wrong words.
What's next? Asking what they were wearing? Because they might have provoked it and called it upon themselves?
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Someone is the victim of sexual harassment and you are offended by their use of the term "all", even if you again admitted to not identifying as being addressed.
And you express that by negging the victim. Not by expressing any kind of sympathy, not by distancing yourself from the sexual harassment, but by publicly declaring that it isn't all men doing that.
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Not sexually harassing someone isn't an achievement worthy of praise. Its being a decent person. Kind of like showing sympathy towards a victim.
Well, unless apparently the victim doesn't conform to the criteria of being all proper and trim with their wording. Let's ignore the fact that they experienced a traumatic event - because they used the wrong words.
What's next? Asking what they were wearing? Because they might have provoked it and called it upon themselves?
You have very clearly distanced yourself.
Not from the sexual harassment
Not from the perpetratorBut from any form of decency towards an actual victim.
I wanted to believe that there was a misunderstanding, yet it is clear there is not.
I bid you adieu.
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Not sexually harassing someone isn't an achievement worthy of praise. Its being a decent person. Kind of like showing sympathy towards a victim.
Well, unless apparently the victim doesn't conform to the criteria of being all proper and trim with their wording. Let's ignore the fact that they experienced a traumatic event - because they used the wrong words.
What's next? Asking what they were wearing? Because they might have provoked it and called it upon themselves?
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You have very clearly distanced yourself.
Not from the sexual harassment
Not from the perpetratorBut from any form of decency towards an actual victim.
I wanted to believe that there was a misunderstanding, yet it is clear there is not.
I bid you adieu.
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Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the
gesture out the window at me.Not sure if it was an observation based on my aesthetic, or the threat of a
good time, but either way...guys, this is why y'all're still single.@alice I never realised how bad it was for women until my wife had me follow her at a discreet distance while she was jogging on her own. I learnt why she only went jogging with me and that many men should not be allowed out into the world with supervision.
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Car just drove by and one of the guys in it made the
gesture out the window at me.Not sure if it was an observation based on my aesthetic, or the threat of a
good time, but either way...guys, this is why y'all're still single.@alice
I am so so sorry you had to deal with that. I am here for you if you need anything at all
To the men, **all men**, when someone you know does this: tell them very clearly that that behavior is disgusting and unacceptable.
There is no justification for that behavior, and it is nothing short of sexual harassment.
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@alice I never realised how bad it was for women until my wife had me follow her at a discreet distance while she was jogging on her own. I learnt why she only went jogging with me and that many men should not be allowed out into the world with supervision.
That’s a really powerful observation. It hits hard when you experience it firsthand — seeing the constant need to be cautious and aware just to feel safe. It’s one thing to read about it or hear stories, and another to actually follow someone and realize how vulnerable everyday activities like jogging can be. Your insight also underscores the broader point: personal safety isn’t just about individual responsibility, it’s a societal issue that requires all of us to rethink behavior.
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@alice I never realised how bad it was for women until my wife had me follow her at a discreet distance while she was jogging on her own. I learnt why she only went jogging with me and that many men should not be allowed out into the world with supervision.
@rbphotographic
It's real, friend. If I go for a run, I either do it at the gym (although theres no guarantee I wont be harassed there either) or I carefully plan a route and time where I know the risks are minimised/CCTV/other people around. Even then, a high percentage of the time you're getting some dickhead calling out or gesticulating.
Yet when you talk about 'male privilege' some still deny it exists.
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@alice I never realised how bad it was for women until my wife had me follow her at a discreet distance while she was jogging on her own. I learnt why she only went jogging with me and that many men should not be allowed out into the world with supervision.
@rbphotographic @alice Same for my wife and I. There are certain gas stations she avoids because of where they are and the type of men who frequent them. We also always go food shopping together or I go by myself because she ALWAYS has something happen.
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@alice
I am so so sorry you had to deal with that. I am here for you if you need anything at all To the men, **all men**, when someone you know does this: tell them very clearly that that behavior is disgusting and unacceptable.
There is no justification for that behavior, and it is nothing short of sexual harassment.
