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  • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

    #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

    What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

    Select all that apply.

    Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

    (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

    swope@mstdn.plusS This user is from outside of this forum
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    swope@mstdn.plus
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    #6

    @alice
    Where I used to live there was a Japanese woman in my friend group named Mami, and I felt awkward saying her name.

    But feeling awkward is pretty typical for me.

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    • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

      #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

      What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

      Select all that apply.

      Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

      (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

      meadow@lgbtqia.spaceM This user is from outside of this forum
      meadow@lgbtqia.spaceM This user is from outside of this forum
      meadow@lgbtqia.space
      wrote last edited by
      #7

      @alice
      Replying in hopes I am updated with the results.

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      • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

        #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

        What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

        Select all that apply.

        Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

        (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

        eruonna@chaosfem.twE This user is from outside of this forum
        eruonna@chaosfem.twE This user is from outside of this forum
        eruonna@chaosfem.tw
        wrote last edited by
        #8

        @alice the only one of these I can recall getting from a guy is "girl", but the context was him yelling it from his car while he followed me down the street, so that was... not great

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        • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

          #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

          What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

          Select all that apply.

          Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

          (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

          floralia@girlcock.clubF This user is from outside of this forum
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          floralia@girlcock.club
          wrote last edited by
          #9

          @alice Bro / Sir / Man / Dude / Guy / Mister

          Like, I'd kill for a man to call me any of the things you listed.

          alice@lgbtqia.spaceA earthshine@masto.hackers.townE 2 Replies Last reply
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          • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

            #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

            What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

            Select all that apply.

            Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

            (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

            vervain@sunny.gardenV This user is from outside of this forum
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            vervain@sunny.garden
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            #10

            @alice

            Basically, if men could just not use names anywhere near me that would be great.

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            • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

              #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

              What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

              Select all that apply.

              Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

              (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

              naramoore@sakurajima.moeN This user is from outside of this forum
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              naramoore@sakurajima.moe
              wrote last edited by
              #11

              @alice

              Addendum: Bro and dude

              (And then to be outraged when I call them out.)

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              • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

                What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

                Select all that apply.

                Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

                (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

                nilajones@zeroes.caN This user is from outside of this forum
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                nilajones@zeroes.ca
                wrote last edited by
                #12

                @alice

                I generally reply by calling them something, something made up, like sugardumplings

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                • eruonna@chaosfem.twE eruonna@chaosfem.tw

                  @alice the only one of these I can recall getting from a guy is "girl", but the context was him yelling it from his car while he followed me down the street, so that was... not great

                  alice@lgbtqia.spaceA This user is from outside of this forum
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                  alice@lgbtqia.space
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                  #13

                  @eruonna 🫂

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                  • floralia@girlcock.clubF floralia@girlcock.club

                    @alice Bro / Sir / Man / Dude / Guy / Mister

                    Like, I'd kill for a man to call me any of the things you listed.

                    alice@lgbtqia.spaceA This user is from outside of this forum
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                    alice@lgbtqia.space
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                    #14

                    @floralia 🫂

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                    • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                      #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

                      What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

                      Select all that apply.

                      Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

                      (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

                      saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.spaceS This user is from outside of this forum
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                      saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.space
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                      #15

                      @alice I’m going to make a face and nope pretty hard with any term of endearment that feels unearned.

                      Like if I’m being called a goddess, that supplicant better be actively in the process of dutiful worship.

                      And if I’m getting angel’d and they’re not trembling in awe and not a small amount of fear, then they’re clearly being disingenuous.

                      Also, point of… whatever:

                      getting a “hey mami” hits with distinctly less maternal ick than mommy/momma. I mean, I still don’t wanna, but it’s WAY less icky. 😅

                      alice@lgbtqia.spaceA srlevine@neuromatch.socialS 2 Replies Last reply
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                      • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                        #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

                        What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

                        Select all that apply.

                        Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

                        (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

                        minmi@sfba.socialM This user is from outside of this forum
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                        #16

                        @alice I think I’ve only really been called “dear” or “honey” by older women in like government offices and I have to admit I love it.

                        But being addressed by men is basically universally disgusting. One of my favorite things about walking about with children is I am just no longer perceived at all. Glorious.

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                        • saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.spaceS saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.space

                          @alice I’m going to make a face and nope pretty hard with any term of endearment that feels unearned.

                          Like if I’m being called a goddess, that supplicant better be actively in the process of dutiful worship.

                          And if I’m getting angel’d and they’re not trembling in awe and not a small amount of fear, then they’re clearly being disingenuous.

                          Also, point of… whatever:

                          getting a “hey mami” hits with distinctly less maternal ick than mommy/momma. I mean, I still don’t wanna, but it’s WAY less icky. 😅

                          alice@lgbtqia.spaceA This user is from outside of this forum
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                          @SaucySwampHag the worshippy ones and the infantilising ones are the two categories that squick me out the most.

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                          • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                            #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

                            What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

                            Select all that apply.

                            Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

                            (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

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                            #18

                            @alice i don't get out enough in fem-presenting mode to get much of this kind of attention, but i'm picturing a cis guy i don't know calling me any of these, and..

                            i can honestly say holy shit i hate that. i feel icky just picturing it. "girl" and "lady" and maybe "honey" might be relatively acceptable, but the rest of them, oof 😧

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                            • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                              #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

                              What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

                              Select all that apply.

                              Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

                              (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

                              sablebadger@dice.campS This user is from outside of this forum
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                              sablebadger@dice.camp
                              wrote last edited by
                              #19

                              @alice def not that target here, but if I ever hear a dude call a woman "Mommy" that is not actually his mom, we are going to have words.

                              That is just creepy. I mean most of the list can be creepy with very little effort, and I will likely have words in those cases, but Mommy is right there at the top. Just ewww.

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                              • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                                #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

                                What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

                                Select all that apply.

                                Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

                                (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

                                grim_elsewhere@lgbtqia.spaceG This user is from outside of this forum
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                                grim_elsewhere@lgbtqia.space
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                                #20

                                @alice "doll" has always yucked me out. Especially when cis people starting calling us (trans femmes) that.

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                                • saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.spaceS saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.space

                                  @alice I’m going to make a face and nope pretty hard with any term of endearment that feels unearned.

                                  Like if I’m being called a goddess, that supplicant better be actively in the process of dutiful worship.

                                  And if I’m getting angel’d and they’re not trembling in awe and not a small amount of fear, then they’re clearly being disingenuous.

                                  Also, point of… whatever:

                                  getting a “hey mami” hits with distinctly less maternal ick than mommy/momma. I mean, I still don’t wanna, but it’s WAY less icky. 😅

                                  srlevine@neuromatch.socialS This user is from outside of this forum
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                                  wrote last edited by
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                                  @SaucySwampHag @alice What would be the "biblically accurate angel" version? Only your eye doctor can use the term?

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                                  • srlevine@neuromatch.socialS srlevine@neuromatch.social

                                    @SaucySwampHag @alice What would be the "biblically accurate angel" version? Only your eye doctor can use the term?

                                    saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.spaceS This user is from outside of this forum
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                                    saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.space
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                                    @SRLevine 🖤 Jeepers creepers, Angel, where’d you get those peepers? 🖤 @alice

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                                    • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                                      @SaucySwampHag the worshippy ones and the infantilising ones are the two categories that squick me out the most.

                                      saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.spaceS This user is from outside of this forum
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                                      saucyswamphag@lgbtqia.space
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                                      @alice yeah, both of those swing so far from that person seeing me as an equal.

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                                      • alice@lgbtqia.spaceA alice@lgbtqia.space

                                        #Poll time for the **femme-folx** of Fedi!

                                        What are your **least** favorite terms that guys have called you?

                                        Select all that apply.

                                        Inspired by this song: https://song.link/s/4WlhzerIL5guAHW64gPMA0

                                        (this is a non-exhaustive list of things I've been called in the past couple years, feel free to reply with more if your least favorite isn't an option)

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                                        joscelyntransient@chaosfem.tw
                                        wrote last edited by
                                        #24

                                        @alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce 😂

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                                        • joscelyntransient@chaosfem.twJ joscelyntransient@chaosfem.tw

                                          @alice gotta say “doll” is a weird one for me. If a gay guy calls me a doll, it makes me blush and smile, a straight guy calls me a doll and I want to introduce him to my baseball bat. It’s weird how different a reaction this can produce 😂

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                                          @JoscelynTransient @alice lol yeah context very much matters

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