hi cis white guys

[minmi@sfba.social]

@tillybridges the white dudes…the white dudes are not ok.

[tillybridges@mastodon.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl hey bud

when a person from a marginalized community speaks on the gross sexual harassment she continually experiences

your job

is to listen and believe her

and not say that some trans women might like being sexually harassed by cis white men

do better

do SO much better

WHAT THE FUCK

[tillybridges@mastodon.social]

@lemonlolita this is not the point

[tillybridges@mastodon.social]

@minmi *cis

[minmi@sfba.social]

@tillybridges yes sorry white cis dudes. They are extremely not ok.

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges the fact that many cis men so frequently take the gamble of "but *some* women like it" explains much of (if not most of) the unsolicited sexual comments, otherwise known as sexual harassment.

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

@tillybridges pro tip for cis straight guys: if cis women would find your "compliments" gross, so will trans women. Sexual harassment isn't allyship.

[mage_of_chaos@mastodon.social]

@tillybridges or a gender fluid or non-conforming.... IJS

No one wants that from a stranger or someone impersonating others on the internet to gain your affection or private stuff.

[bri7@social.treehouse.systems]

@purrperl @cyberwitch @adhdeanasl @tillybridges what you seem to be missing in all your comparisons is the implied threat of violence, power imbalance- and whether women actually want that kind of comment or are just trying to appease you because they are scared.

Or in an online context can you tell the difference between a porn account and someone who is just trans?

[slotos@toot.community]

@purrperl @cyberwitch @adhdeanasl @tillybridges If a random woman said „I’d do you” to me, I’d be grossed out.

Go extinct, please.

[lemonlolita@calckey.world]

@tillybridges@mastodon.social
So cis women don't deserve the same respect as trans? I deserve respect, stop being sexiest!

[rootsandcalluses@mstdn.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges Even if some people would enjoy that sort of comment, you would need to talk to them to know that before writing such an inconsiderate sexist thing unasked. You don't know which people might enjoy this, so you have the responsibility to act with due consideration. And with due consideration, you would not write such things.

This is some weird twist on „not all men“ you are doing...

[iwein@mas.to]

@purrperl please stop defending indefensible behavior. They key word you should learn is consent. Some stuff is fine *with consent* and yes, *with consent* it can be appreciated even, but that's so far beside the point we don't need to go into it.

Stop being the reason women prefer the bear over us. I'd like to, one day, be able to go around male presenting without seeing fear in the eyes of almost every woman I look at.

@cyberwitch @adhdeanasl @tillybridges

[adhdeanasl@beige.party]

@tillybridges Must have been some lousy comment - the account doesn’t even seem to have any replies at all any more. @purrperl@noc.social

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges y'all heard it here folks, the standard of enthusiastic consent is sex-negative, the Jurassic Park guy said so!

[onemoreday@critter.cafe]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges

TL;DR: PURRPERL: APOLOGIZE IMMEDIATELY FOR GROSS PHOTO COMMENT !

purrperl you should be ashamed. now is not the time to play word games with the person you harmed. you are ignoring tillybridge's points. lest you try to play games about context, i am writing specifically about your comments in which you wrote that tillybridges "does not speak for all trans people" and that "some" trans women might like to be objectified

regarding your harmful notion that some trans women might like the kind of objectifying comments that you wrote (translation: you made up an excuse to justify harassing women online), tillybridges pointed out that your comment on her photo was NOT OK. I put it in capital letters for emphasis since you want to gloss over tilly's very clear response that she said DONT DO THAT

It is time to grow up from this stupid attitude of harassing and bothering trans women because you enjoy it. You must know by now when anyone tells you they feel harassed, bothered, and especially dont want you to write objectifying comments about them (and says dont do that to others) that the correct course of action is to APOLOGIZE and DONT DO IT AGAIN

furthermore you must be not only insensitive to issues on transgender people, but you must apparently willfully dont care to show any kindness or understanding to trans people as a whole or on the individual level

to say that "one trans person does not speak for all trans people" is subverting tillybridge's lived experiences in order for you to be able to live in denial about the harm of your comments, thus piling on further harm

if you cannot WRITE AN APOLOGY to tillybridges , then be prepared for lots of drama and trying to play word games with people who are more informed than you.

and be prepared to be left behind and left out of important conversations and meaningful opportunities for connection with people because you cannot accept that you have done harm to people.

i hope you lack sufficient attitude of entitlement to resist changing yourself for the better, and that you also decide to grow up.

lastly,

️ DONT FUCK WITH TILLYBRIDGES ️

[adhdeanasl@beige.party]

@cyberwitch I don’t know if they have me blocked or I have them blocked, but I can’t see the reply. Seems like I should be glad I can’t. @purrperl@noc.social @tillybridges

[jo@infosec.exchange]

@purrperl You are wrong, and the best thing you can do at this point is delete your post.

[thibaultmol@en.osm.town]

@lemonlolita ‍️
You do realize you're essentially doing the equivalent of an 'actually all lives matter' style reply on a black lives matter post.... you realize that right?

[lianna@micro.webgarden.click]

@tillybridges today i learned that black guys are allowed to sexually harass me according to mastodon dot social