hi cis white guys

[mayintoronto@beige.party]

@tillybridges ewwwww. I need a shower just from reading that. You're right.

[purrperl@noc.social]

@adhdeanasl @tillybridges

Yes, I mean that too, perhaps a bit ironically than you did.

Some women, trans or cis, actually might like that sort of comment.

Please don't speak for all people of a category that you belong to.
Nobody appointed you official spokesperson for all.

Your comment is best taken as advice under consideration, not as a commandment.

Leave individuals to be individuals.

It would be a bit silly if I started speaking for all Indians/Americans/bald people etc.

[lemonlolita@calckey.world]

@tillybridges@mastodon.social
It's not acceptable for any women trans or cis!

[yog_krakthulhu@mastodon.social]

There are some disgusting folk out there.

[cbleslie@hachyderm.io]

@tillybridges

[minmi@sfba.social]

@tillybridges the white dudes…the white dudes are not ok.

[tillybridges@mastodon.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl hey bud

when a person from a marginalized community speaks on the gross sexual harassment she continually experiences

your job

is to listen and believe her

and not say that some trans women might like being sexually harassed by cis white men

do better

do SO much better

WHAT THE FUCK

[tillybridges@mastodon.social]

@lemonlolita this is not the point

[tillybridges@mastodon.social]

@minmi *cis

[minmi@sfba.social]

@tillybridges yes sorry white cis dudes. They are extremely not ok.

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges the fact that many cis men so frequently take the gamble of "but *some* women like it" explains much of (if not most of) the unsolicited sexual comments, otherwise known as sexual harassment.

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

@tillybridges pro tip for cis straight guys: if cis women would find your "compliments" gross, so will trans women. Sexual harassment isn't allyship.

[mage_of_chaos@mastodon.social]

@tillybridges or a gender fluid or non-conforming.... IJS

No one wants that from a stranger or someone impersonating others on the internet to gain your affection or private stuff.

[bri7@social.treehouse.systems]

@purrperl @cyberwitch @adhdeanasl @tillybridges what you seem to be missing in all your comparisons is the implied threat of violence, power imbalance- and whether women actually want that kind of comment or are just trying to appease you because they are scared.

Or in an online context can you tell the difference between a porn account and someone who is just trans?

[slotos@toot.community]

@purrperl @cyberwitch @adhdeanasl @tillybridges If a random woman said „I’d do you” to me, I’d be grossed out.

Go extinct, please.

[lemonlolita@calckey.world]

@tillybridges@mastodon.social
So cis women don't deserve the same respect as trans? I deserve respect, stop being sexiest!

[rootsandcalluses@mstdn.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges Even if some people would enjoy that sort of comment, you would need to talk to them to know that before writing such an inconsiderate sexist thing unasked. You don't know which people might enjoy this, so you have the responsibility to act with due consideration. And with due consideration, you would not write such things.

This is some weird twist on „not all men“ you are doing...

[iwein@mas.to]

@purrperl please stop defending indefensible behavior. They key word you should learn is consent. Some stuff is fine *with consent* and yes, *with consent* it can be appreciated even, but that's so far beside the point we don't need to go into it.

Stop being the reason women prefer the bear over us. I'd like to, one day, be able to go around male presenting without seeing fear in the eyes of almost every woman I look at.

@cyberwitch @adhdeanasl @tillybridges

[adhdeanasl@beige.party]

@tillybridges Must have been some lousy comment - the account doesn’t even seem to have any replies at all any more. @purrperl@noc.social

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

@purrperl @adhdeanasl @tillybridges y'all heard it here folks, the standard of enthusiastic consent is sex-negative, the Jurassic Park guy said so!