On this week’s episode of “Oh.
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On this week’s episode of “Oh. Yeah that was the Tism wasn’t it?”:
In 2 conversations with 2 different friends
1) remembering the teacher who handed me a newspaper clipping about the film Slacker saying “I think this might be your problem”.
In the clipping he’d highlighted a section referring to characters as “highly intelligent but emotionally stunted”.Yeah, Mr Coogan the term you were grasping for was #Autistic or #AuDHD and this was not the way to address it with a 16 year old girl
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2. Recalling deciding in my 20s that, while I found time alone hugely restorative, I should never spend more than a week alone. Because when I did, the lack of check in with how ‘normal’ people thought & behaved made me ‘forget how to be a person’ & ‘get weird’. Unmasking, past me, the term you didn’t know yet was unmasking.
Seems that back then I had some capacity to unmask - although of course it did result in me being labelled ‘insane’ by people around me. When I was #ActuallyAutistic
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2. Recalling deciding in my 20s that, while I found time alone hugely restorative, I should never spend more than a week alone. Because when I did, the lack of check in with how ‘normal’ people thought & behaved made me ‘forget how to be a person’ & ‘get weird’. Unmasking, past me, the term you didn’t know yet was unmasking.
Seems that back then I had some capacity to unmask - although of course it did result in me being labelled ‘insane’ by people around me. When I was #ActuallyAutistic
2/2PS I’ve never actually watched the film Slacker. I was left with a negative association that made me avoid it and feel sensitive about that word/cultural phenomenon. And myself - because it turns out that the labels adults in authority throw at teenagers have consequences. Who knew?
If you’re curious this is the one https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102943/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk
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PS I’ve never actually watched the film Slacker. I was left with a negative association that made me avoid it and feel sensitive about that word/cultural phenomenon. And myself - because it turns out that the labels adults in authority throw at teenagers have consequences. Who knew?
If you’re curious this is the one https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102943/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk
@Lemlems thinking fondly of the psychiatrist assessing as-yet-undiagnosed me who enjoyed talking shop with me because I was interested in the theories behind questionnaires etc, and thought he could gain a new degree of understanding by asking me how I felt about being unable to emotionally mature past the age of 11 to 13. That took some unpacking later
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@Lemlems thinking fondly of the psychiatrist assessing as-yet-undiagnosed me who enjoyed talking shop with me because I was interested in the theories behind questionnaires etc, and thought he could gain a new degree of understanding by asking me how I felt about being unable to emotionally mature past the age of 11 to 13. That took some unpacking later
@venite Good grief. Who lets these people into these professions?
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2. Recalling deciding in my 20s that, while I found time alone hugely restorative, I should never spend more than a week alone. Because when I did, the lack of check in with how ‘normal’ people thought & behaved made me ‘forget how to be a person’ & ‘get weird’. Unmasking, past me, the term you didn’t know yet was unmasking.
Seems that back then I had some capacity to unmask - although of course it did result in me being labelled ‘insane’ by people around me. When I was #ActuallyAutistic
2/2The number of folks who discovered this the hard way during the shelter -in-place period of the pandemic is...not small.
After living your life unmasked it's harder and harder to put it back on. I could not handle an in-person job again, like I tried for a week and ended up in the ER on day 3 with a nosebleed that would not stop and had no discernable cause.
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PS I’ve never actually watched the film Slacker. I was left with a negative association that made me avoid it and feel sensitive about that word/cultural phenomenon. And myself - because it turns out that the labels adults in authority throw at teenagers have consequences. Who knew?
If you’re curious this is the one https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0102943/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk
@Lemlems
The label I got in junior high was "flippant". That hit hard. -
The number of folks who discovered this the hard way during the shelter -in-place period of the pandemic is...not small.
After living your life unmasked it's harder and harder to put it back on. I could not handle an in-person job again, like I tried for a week and ended up in the ER on day 3 with a nosebleed that would not stop and had no discernable cause.
@deirdrebeth That’s rough
. I’ve been housebound by other stuff since pre-pandemic. It’s hard to tell to what extent I’ve unmasked - due to my age and how late I realised I’m ND, I really struggle with unmasking.
Plus I live with my mam, who’s my carer so, while I am isolated, I’m hardly ever alone. Which is challenging in its own way
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@deirdrebeth That’s rough
. I’ve been housebound by other stuff since pre-pandemic. It’s hard to tell to what extent I’ve unmasked - due to my age and how late I realised I’m ND, I really struggle with unmasking.
Plus I live with my mam, who’s my carer so, while I am isolated, I’m hardly ever alone. Which is challenging in its own way
{Hugs} I get that (both late realising, and hardly every alone). I'm lucky in that my SO is ab fab in most ways, and we have room enough to hide from each other when needed
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On this week’s episode of “Oh. Yeah that was the Tism wasn’t it?”:
In 2 conversations with 2 different friends
1) remembering the teacher who handed me a newspaper clipping about the film Slacker saying “I think this might be your problem”.
In the clipping he’d highlighted a section referring to characters as “highly intelligent but emotionally stunted”.Yeah, Mr Coogan the term you were grasping for was #Autistic or #AuDHD and this was not the way to address it with a 16 year old girl
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On this week’s episode of “Oh. Yeah that was the Tism wasn’t it?”:
In 2 conversations with 2 different friends
1) remembering the teacher who handed me a newspaper clipping about the film Slacker saying “I think this might be your problem”.
In the clipping he’d highlighted a section referring to characters as “highly intelligent but emotionally stunted”.Yeah, Mr Coogan the term you were grasping for was #Autistic or #AuDHD and this was not the way to address it with a 16 year old girl
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@Lemlems Jesus Christ, Mr Coogan is an asshole. I think all of us have those adults from our childhood who said incredibly cruel things, but if you called them on it they would get defensive and say they weren’t trying to be mean or they didn’t say anything wrong.
That adult for me is my mother so that’s an endless source of joy.
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