I told my dad that I have another name the other day.
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@faithisleaping @Liza can you transform people into toads?
@enbypirate @Liza Sadly not. I’m in the wrong discipline for turning the frickin’ frogs gay.
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@enbypirate @Liza Sadly not. I’m in the wrong discipline for turning the frickin’ frogs gay.
@faithisleaping @Liza if you're an Evocation witch you could nuke em with a fireball
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@enbypirate @faithisleaping @Liza I had the option not to go?
@low @faithisleaping @Liza what do you mean?
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@low @faithisleaping @Liza what do you mean?
@enbypirate @faithisleaping @Liza I had to go to communion as a kid, that's what I meant.
I didn't like it, never felt any connection to any kind of god, but did go there anyway.(I don't know what my mother would've done anyway, if I didn't want to go, after all, she wanted to become a religion teacher)
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@enbypirate @faithisleaping @Liza I had to go to communion as a kid, that's what I meant.
I didn't like it, never felt any connection to any kind of god, but did go there anyway.(I don't know what my mother would've done anyway, if I didn't want to go, after all, she wanted to become a religion teacher)
@low @faithisleaping @Liza aaaahh okay.
Well I got lucky. I was born into a catholic family but my parents became estranged from religion after me and my sister were born and are quite liberal. So they gave us a choice.
Both of us didn't go.Edit: we still got baptized and that's something you can't reverse. Sadly.
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I told my dad that I have another name the other day. Guess his reaction
@enbypirate now I am in suspense. Wie hat er reagiert????
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@Liza I almost asked a former Bible study leader to help me navigate my gender feelings. I’m very glad I didn’t. Pretty sure that’s about how that would have gone.
@faithisleaping
It could have been interesting, if you ended up going to the Bible leader, to compare insane notes
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I told my dad that I have another name the other day. Guess his reaction
My dad was pretty chill. He said "Okay" and that was that.
I just told my mum and that went.. pretty wild.
She asked if I'd make that official. I said "I don't know, cause cops and the residents registration office would automatically know that).
She then wanted me to be open about her doing mistakes and I'm like "Yeah that's okay, but I expect that you do it better". She also wants some "Time to think about it" which I find weird. Like.. really weird.
And when we said goodbye she called me by my old name and I was like "Hey please call me Luka" and she refused to do so.
And now I'm pissed. Like very, very, very pissed.
Again, I won't talk to her until she says she's sorry. And I will not tolerate ANY mistakes made by her from now on.Edit: If that would have been the parents of a teenager I work with I'd say "Do you want to stay there? If not we call child protection and you can stay at another place until we talked about that together"
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My dad was pretty chill. He said "Okay" and that was that.
I just told my mum and that went.. pretty wild.
She asked if I'd make that official. I said "I don't know, cause cops and the residents registration office would automatically know that).
She then wanted me to be open about her doing mistakes and I'm like "Yeah that's okay, but I expect that you do it better". She also wants some "Time to think about it" which I find weird. Like.. really weird.
And when we said goodbye she called me by my old name and I was like "Hey please call me Luka" and she refused to do so.
And now I'm pissed. Like very, very, very pissed.
Again, I won't talk to her until she says she's sorry. And I will not tolerate ANY mistakes made by her from now on.Edit: If that would have been the parents of a teenager I work with I'd say "Do you want to stay there? If not we call child protection and you can stay at another place until we talked about that together"
@enbypirate
sorry to hear that Luka xxx -
My dad was pretty chill. He said "Okay" and that was that.
I just told my mum and that went.. pretty wild.
She asked if I'd make that official. I said "I don't know, cause cops and the residents registration office would automatically know that).
She then wanted me to be open about her doing mistakes and I'm like "Yeah that's okay, but I expect that you do it better". She also wants some "Time to think about it" which I find weird. Like.. really weird.
And when we said goodbye she called me by my old name and I was like "Hey please call me Luka" and she refused to do so.
And now I'm pissed. Like very, very, very pissed.
Again, I won't talk to her until she says she's sorry. And I will not tolerate ANY mistakes made by her from now on.Edit: If that would have been the parents of a teenager I work with I'd say "Do you want to stay there? If not we call child protection and you can stay at another place until we talked about that together"
@enbypirate Sorry to hear about your moms reaction.
Feel
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My dad was pretty chill. He said "Okay" and that was that.
I just told my mum and that went.. pretty wild.
She asked if I'd make that official. I said "I don't know, cause cops and the residents registration office would automatically know that).
She then wanted me to be open about her doing mistakes and I'm like "Yeah that's okay, but I expect that you do it better". She also wants some "Time to think about it" which I find weird. Like.. really weird.
And when we said goodbye she called me by my old name and I was like "Hey please call me Luka" and she refused to do so.
And now I'm pissed. Like very, very, very pissed.
Again, I won't talk to her until she says she's sorry. And I will not tolerate ANY mistakes made by her from now on.Edit: If that would have been the parents of a teenager I work with I'd say "Do you want to stay there? If not we call child protection and you can stay at another place until we talked about that together"
@enbypirate Understandable, I hope she comes around
If my parents somehow find out about my name, they are going to lose it. Especially my very orthodox father -
My dad was pretty chill. He said "Okay" and that was that.
I just told my mum and that went.. pretty wild.
She asked if I'd make that official. I said "I don't know, cause cops and the residents registration office would automatically know that).
She then wanted me to be open about her doing mistakes and I'm like "Yeah that's okay, but I expect that you do it better". She also wants some "Time to think about it" which I find weird. Like.. really weird.
And when we said goodbye she called me by my old name and I was like "Hey please call me Luka" and she refused to do so.
And now I'm pissed. Like very, very, very pissed.
Again, I won't talk to her until she says she's sorry. And I will not tolerate ANY mistakes made by her from now on.Edit: If that would have been the parents of a teenager I work with I'd say "Do you want to stay there? If not we call child protection and you can stay at another place until we talked about that together"
@enbypirate
Im sorry u r experiencing hard time with them. I hope, and I have the feeling they will, get on board with you wherever you are 🫰
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My dad was pretty chill. He said "Okay" and that was that.
I just told my mum and that went.. pretty wild.
She asked if I'd make that official. I said "I don't know, cause cops and the residents registration office would automatically know that).
She then wanted me to be open about her doing mistakes and I'm like "Yeah that's okay, but I expect that you do it better". She also wants some "Time to think about it" which I find weird. Like.. really weird.
And when we said goodbye she called me by my old name and I was like "Hey please call me Luka" and she refused to do so.
And now I'm pissed. Like very, very, very pissed.
Again, I won't talk to her until she says she's sorry. And I will not tolerate ANY mistakes made by her from now on.Edit: If that would have been the parents of a teenager I work with I'd say "Do you want to stay there? If not we call child protection and you can stay at another place until we talked about that together"
@enbypirate I'm sorry, refusing to use your name hits hard 🫂
I hope she comes around and realises this is s good thing
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My dad was pretty chill. He said "Okay" and that was that.
I just told my mum and that went.. pretty wild.
She asked if I'd make that official. I said "I don't know, cause cops and the residents registration office would automatically know that).
She then wanted me to be open about her doing mistakes and I'm like "Yeah that's okay, but I expect that you do it better". She also wants some "Time to think about it" which I find weird. Like.. really weird.
And when we said goodbye she called me by my old name and I was like "Hey please call me Luka" and she refused to do so.
And now I'm pissed. Like very, very, very pissed.
Again, I won't talk to her until she says she's sorry. And I will not tolerate ANY mistakes made by her from now on.Edit: If that would have been the parents of a teenager I work with I'd say "Do you want to stay there? If not we call child protection and you can stay at another place until we talked about that together"
I don't fucking get it. I did not ask to be born, yet I am here. My parents decided to have me. So why the fuck is it so hard to accept that and say "Okay, that wasn't your choice, but we support any choice you make along the way"
Yeah, both of them were raised in a village. But they live in a bigger city for decades now.
And every fucking time I did something that was out of (especially my mothers) comfort zone (getting tattoos, dying my hair, wear a mohawk) she never openly told me that she didn't like it, but it was more or less obvious (especially with my first tattoo, less so with my mohawk and my colourful hair). And now I have some serious doubts.
I'm angry. I'm scared. I'm sad. And I feel great after climbing today, which is a fucking weird mix of feelings.Anyway. I know there are parents out there who are different. Who'd never do shit like this to their child - no matter how old they are. And that fills me with hope. That we can see the day when no child has to justify themselves for being queer. And that day will come.
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