Non-binary people do not owe you androgyny.
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Non-binary people do not owe you androgyny.
@babe and people dont owe you anything either.
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Non-binary people do not owe you androgyny.
@babe internalized gender != outward expression.
The existence of the phrase "tomboy" expressly implies that an individual can identify as a woman, but is outwardly seen as masculine or even male. This logic applies to all genders or lack thereof.
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Non-binary people do not owe you androgyny.
@babe approvingly nods at the fellow gender-fucker
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@babe approvingly nods at the fellow gender-fucker
@0 Love too fuck a gender
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@Nausipoule @babe People absolutely do owe them basic respect, which means making an effort to gender them correctly. Also, speaking from experience, there is no gender presentation that will make people gender nonbinary people correctly by default, especially if we use gender neutral pronouns. There's no "looking nonbinary" in the sense that people will see you and go "Ah yes, they/them", which is one of the reasons it's so important to ask (or check bios online).
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@Nausipoule @babe People absolutely do owe them basic respect, which means making an effort to gender them correctly. Also, speaking from experience, there is no gender presentation that will make people gender nonbinary people correctly by default, especially if we use gender neutral pronouns. There's no "looking nonbinary" in the sense that people will see you and go "Ah yes, they/them", which is one of the reasons it's so important to ask (or check bios online).
@Nausipoule @babe Even if such a presentation existed, it wouldn't be accessible to all nonbinary people, because we can't fully control how we look. And even if we could, it's possible and completely ok to be nonbinary and not want to look completely androgynous.
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@Nausipoule @babe Did you know? Keeping your transphobic thoughts to yourself is free.
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@Nausipoule @babe You're doing lateral transphobia, though. Being trans doesn't absolve you of exorsexism. But ok, nonbinary doesn't exist in our (mainstream) culture, making passing as nonbinary impossible. How is that "on us"? Nonbinary people don't choose the cultures we're born into.
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@Nausipoule @babe You're doing lateral transphobia, though. Being trans doesn't absolve you of exorsexism. But ok, nonbinary doesn't exist in our (mainstream) culture, making passing as nonbinary impossible. How is that "on us"? Nonbinary people don't choose the cultures we're born into.
@Nausipoule Also, I'd like to point out that @babe has their pronouns in their bio. They're signaling how you should refer to them about as clearly as they can, unless you expect them to make it their display name.
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@Nausipoule Are you, a trans girl, pretending that you don't know what the word "transphobia" means?
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And if you come at me with shit like "but I see you as..." you'll very quickly not be seeing me at all.
@babe I see you as an infosec blogger and lawyer
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@Nausipoule Also, I'd like to point out that @babe has their pronouns in their bio. They're signaling how you should refer to them about as clearly as they can, unless you expect them to make it their display name.
@babe @BathysphereHat I’m just here to instantly smack follow on anybody who uses “Rabbit Cohen” cause that’s peak Jewish humor.
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@Nausipoule Again, how do you pass as nonbinary?
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@babe @BathysphereHat I’m just here to instantly smack follow on anybody who uses “Rabbit Cohen” cause that’s peak Jewish humor.
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@Nausipoule Ohh, so you're a radfem. Got it. Cool. Cool cool cool.
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@babe @BathysphereHat In that case it is possibly the coolest name ever.
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@babe @BathysphereHat In that case it is possibly the coolest name ever.
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@Nausipoule @babe this is bot-level flamebait. Just devoid of mind. Imagine being like this and not doing anything about it (ideally the this but maybe the being).
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I don't give a shit how much it confuses people that my aesthetic is feminine, it doesn't in any way invalidate my internal sense about who and what I am.
@babe the replies to this by that one person are fucking wild, what the fuck. This doesn’t seem particularly controversial but
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@babe the replies to this by that one person are fucking wild, what the fuck. This doesn’t seem particularly controversial but
@jason Honestly it's not anything I haven't heard a thousand times.
Any post about being non-binary taking off is bound to catch the odd rad fem theory. Credit to @BathysphereHat for countering it so calmly, I'd have just said fuck off
