"Why can't you just be an effeminate gay man?" is not a question anyone would ask a cis woman so I don't know why trans women have to endure hearing it.

[gwynnion@mastodon.social]

@Kalshann The question is intrinsic to the "transitioning is gay genocide" assholes like Ben Appel.

I've also heard it and variations thereof ("I was a tomboy so if I was a young person today, they would try to make me transition!") from cis women but that's mostly generic transphobia.

[gwynnion@mastodon.social]

@Kalshann I'm sure cis lesbians do a similar routine to trans men.

But it always has that slightly rapey Christian vibe of, "I consent! I consent! But didn't you forget someone? "

[medeavanamonde@beige.party]

@gwynnion i am going to

[faithisleaping@anarres.family]

@gwynnion My mom asked me that when I came out to her.

[crow@irlqt.net]

@gwynnion@mastodon.social because they don't see you as Real Women and are telling on themselves

[faithisleaping@anarres.family]

@gwynnion Part of the problem is that I'm gay... just not gay that way.

[gwynnion@mastodon.social]

@faithisleaping You can see their poor little brains overheating trying to comprehend this very basic idea as you're telling them, too.

[faithisleaping@anarres.family]

@gwynnion Yeah... Someone they think looks like a man saying "I'm gay for girls" or "I'm into guys, but in a straight way" makes no sense to them.

[goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org]

@gwynnion I likes the oestrogen I does.

[waitworry@sakurajima.moe]

@gwynnion @Kalshann "butch flight" and other concern trolling about not enough butch lesbians these days

[disorderlyf@todon.eu]

@gwynnion Funny thing is that wasn't an option either until after coming out for literally every trans woman I know. It was "stop being a pussy and man up! What are you gay?" sometimes hours earlier.