Someone just announced that they're blocking me for "acting like a know-it-all".
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@mattblaze I've followed you for many years (since Twitter I believe) and I've always found your read of people and your reactions to be justified. I'm trigger-sensitive to people who speak rudely out of malice or cruelty, and you don't come off that way to me.
I learn a lot from you about how to put up with less nonsense. Politeness need not be reciprocated towards people who are themselves rude.
@corbden One think I do try very hard to do is prioritize kindness (meaningfully helping in whatever way) over "niceness" (superficial politeness). I don't always succeed, but that's the ideal I try to live up to.
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@mattblaze 100%. I know this word gets thrown around very casually here, but I think it fits: I can think of almost no pursuit that is more overtly fascist than policing who is allowed to share knowledge. Keep it up!
I had to double take the OP when I saw this. What?
Someone blocked you for sharing stuff you know?
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Someone just announced that they're blocking me for "acting like a know-it-all".
(a) If you don't like reading what I post - for any reason or no reason - blocking me is a great solution. Seriously, I don't mind!
(b) If you expect me to apologize for knowing stuff, see (a), above.
Consumer mindset. Did they ask to see the manager?
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Someone just announced that they're blocking me for "acting like a know-it-all".
(a) If you don't like reading what I post - for any reason or no reason - blocking me is a great solution. Seriously, I don't mind!
(b) If you expect me to apologize for knowing stuff, see (a), above.
I think it is weird to announce blocks, too. Just do it and move on.
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@corbden One think I do try very hard to do is prioritize kindness (meaningfully helping in whatever way) over "niceness" (superficial politeness). I don't always succeed, but that's the ideal I try to live up to.
@mattblaze It shows. I've trained myself to look for red flags in people, and you've given none. Treating trolls, snobs, and bullies with ruthlessness is the only kind thing to do on behalf of others they prey on. (Something I often struggle to do because I was groomed by abusers to do otherwise. But I'm learning.)
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One thing that is very clear is that I rub a small but still non-trivial number of people here the wrong way. I honestly don't know what it is.
I could approach this in a couple different ways.
One is deep introspection, explore what it is about me that some people react negatively to, and endeavor to change
Another is to recognize that you can't please everyone, and accept that that's just how life is.
At my age, life is too short for anything but the latter.
Block away if I bother you.
@mattblaze I like that expression, "Only accept criticism from those from whom you'd also accept advice"
If it's a mutual who has thoughtful writing on other topics who is critical, then maybe a few moments introspection.
If it's a rando then no need to deal.
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Someone just announced that they're blocking me for "acting like a know-it-all".
(a) If you don't like reading what I post - for any reason or no reason - blocking me is a great solution. Seriously, I don't mind!
(b) If you expect me to apologize for knowing stuff, see (a), above.
@mattblaze sooooo.... They.... are... gonna... NOT... bug you.... anymore.
Oh noes. Not THAT. No....
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One thing that is very clear is that I rub a small but still non-trivial number of people here the wrong way. I honestly don't know what it is.
I could approach this in a couple different ways.
One is deep introspection, explore what it is about me that some people react negatively to, and endeavor to change
Another is to recognize that you can't please everyone, and accept that that's just how life is.
At my age, life is too short for anything but the latter.
Block away if I bother you.
@mattblaze
Your age? You don't look a day over 0x30! -
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@corbden One think I do try very hard to do is prioritize kindness (meaningfully helping in whatever way) over "niceness" (superficial politeness). I don't always succeed, but that's the ideal I try to live up to.
The world needs more kindness. Let us only settle for being nice when being kind is out of reach.
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Maybe I could be "nicer" or "less arrogant" or whatever. But frankly, I'm not here to cater to everyone else's needs. Fuck it. I am who I am.
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@mattblaze I follow you for the photography. The commentary is a bonus.
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One thing that is very clear is that I rub a small but still non-trivial number of people here the wrong way. I honestly don't know what it is.
I could approach this in a couple different ways.
One is deep introspection, explore what it is about me that some people react negatively to, and endeavor to change
Another is to recognize that you can't please everyone, and accept that that's just how life is.
At my age, life is too short for anything but the latter.
Block away if I bother you.
@mattblaze
Deep introspection and self-improvement is hard work, not an infinite resource. It’s necessary when you’re rubbing people wrong who you respect or care for. You can’t be spending that gold on every damned loon. -
One thing that is very clear is that I rub a small but still non-trivial number of people here the wrong way. I honestly don't know what it is.
I could approach this in a couple different ways.
One is deep introspection, explore what it is about me that some people react negatively to, and endeavor to change
Another is to recognize that you can't please everyone, and accept that that's just how life is.
At my age, life is too short for anything but the latter.
Block away if I bother you.
@mattblaze
Some people take themselves very seriously and are quite unforgiving if any debate and/or humor is interjected by others. Normal people avoid them, but you do you - it's good entertainment
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One thing that is very clear is that I rub a small but still non-trivial number of people here the wrong way. I honestly don't know what it is.
I could approach this in a couple different ways.
One is deep introspection, explore what it is about me that some people react negatively to, and endeavor to change
Another is to recognize that you can't please everyone, and accept that that's just how life is.
At my age, life is too short for anything but the latter.
Block away if I bother you.
@mattblaze
Even that is more introspection than I have time for. Rock on! -
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@mattblaze
Your age? You don't look a day over 0x30!@brouhaha @mattblaze But each day is 030 hours, and each hour 0b111100 minutes.
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@mattblaze
Wait... you were "acting"?
🤭@Valent @mattblaze Only until confirmed by the Senate.
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@brouhaha @mattblaze But each day is 030 hours, and each hour 0b111100 minutes.
@oclsc @mattblaze
"The hours are good... but now you come to mention it, most of the actual minutes are pretty lousy."
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Maybe I could be "nicer" or "less arrogant" or whatever. But frankly, I'm not here to cater to everyone else's needs. Fuck it. I am who I am.
@mattblaze I think you’re nice and never feel like you’re arrogant.
Don’t change, people can block you, and if they bother you too much you should just block them, too.
Life is too short for dealing with this -
To be clear, I appreciate, and have learned much from, people who share stuff they know. I am on team know-it-all!
@mattblaze I’m just a guy on the internet but I appreciate your informative posts, and photos with their background explainers. Thank you
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One thing that is very clear is that I rub a small but still non-trivial number of people here the wrong way. I honestly don't know what it is.
I could approach this in a couple different ways.
One is deep introspection, explore what it is about me that some people react negatively to, and endeavor to change
Another is to recognize that you can't please everyone, and accept that that's just how life is.
At my age, life is too short for anything but the latter.
Block away if I bother you.
@mattblaze This is the way.
After a few years here, I’m at the point where I block people merely for being mildly unpleasant with someone I follow.
This isn’t work nor family. I’m not obligated to put up with anyone whose company I don’t enjoy.
