Far too many days I wake up wondering if today is the day my passport gets revoked for not having an M on it.
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I don't even know how I would manage to get an M passport. I changed my birth certificate already, so how am I supposed to "prove I'm a man"?
@JessTheUnstill right? At this point I’m wondering if I didn’t luck out by missing the deadline and having them “correct” my in-progress passport to M
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@JessTheUnstill right? At this point I’m wondering if I didn’t luck out by missing the deadline and having them “correct” my in-progress passport to M
@Athena I only have a marker on my birth certificate that my demographic information changed, so I guess that'd be something?
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@JessTheUnstill I don't dare go anywhere where I'll have to show my passport. I don't want to deal with any likely negative outcomes.
@JessTheUnstill for a long time I was unable to answer the question "where do you see yourself in 5 years". Recently I've seen it. It's a career in art, making pottery. But my doomerism thought is.. if I live that long. If I survive this time. If I don't end up in some sort of camp.
I have a wonderfully supportive community, and am surrounded by chosen family and feel included and loved. But I'm still terrified about the future. I know that this is what they want.
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I don't even know how I would manage to get an M passport. I changed my birth certificate already, so how am I supposed to "prove I'm a man"?
@JessTheUnstill I've had many, many thoughts about this as well.
I imagine myself walking into the office and loudly declaring, "Yes, hello! The federal government has declared that I am a boy! I need you to give me a passport that says I am a boy so I can be recognized as a legal person again, thank you!" And doing all this while wearing makeup and a dress and clearly not at all looking like a boy.
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@JessTheUnstill for a long time I was unable to answer the question "where do you see yourself in 5 years". Recently I've seen it. It's a career in art, making pottery. But my doomerism thought is.. if I live that long. If I survive this time. If I don't end up in some sort of camp.
I have a wonderfully supportive community, and am surrounded by chosen family and feel included and loved. But I'm still terrified about the future. I know that this is what they want.
@miah I've been avoiding buying a house for the last several years in no small part because I don't want my nest egg trapped in an illiquid piece of real estate...
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@miah I've been avoiding buying a house for the last several years in no small part because I don't want my nest egg trapped in an illiquid piece of real estate...
@miah The idea of immigrating is overwhelming. Every time I try and start working on thinking about it too seriously, I get so panicked about it all I collapse into a depression spiral.
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@faithisleaping @CordiallyChloe Think Kansas
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Far too many days I wake up wondering if today is the day my passport gets revoked for not having an M on it.
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@faithisleaping @CordiallyChloe sorry I know. It's just ... Even allies or other trans people will say "well how would they know, they can't do background checks on everyone". They didn't have to do background checks on all the Jews in Germany either.
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@miah The idea of immigrating is overwhelming. Every time I try and start working on thinking about it too seriously, I get so panicked about it all I collapse into a depression spiral.
@JessTheUnstill I've moved cross country and re-established myself so many times. I've finally found a home, and chosen family. Just the thought of moving to another country and leaving them fills me with endless grief.
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Far too many days I wake up wondering if today is the day my passport gets revoked for not having an M on it.
I am in Canada and still need to change my legal name. We have an X here but I'm terrified to put the X on mine, both for international travel and future fear. It shouldn't have to feel like this. Sending love and support.
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I am in Canada and still need to change my legal name. We have an X here but I'm terrified to put the X on mine, both for international travel and future fear. It shouldn't have to feel like this. Sending love and support.
@RobotDiver For everyone who says "don't worry we're a safe country" I just do a quick search and find how their far right parties are increasingly gaining seats, and say "you too are one election away from being the US under Trump."
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@RobotDiver For everyone who says "don't worry we're a safe country" I just do a quick search and find how their far right parties are increasingly gaining seats, and say "you too are one election away from being the US under Trump."
100%.
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As a queer person, I always have an evacuation plan because history.
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@faithisleaping @CordiallyChloe sorry I know. It's just ... Even allies or other trans people will say "well how would they know, they can't do background checks on everyone". They didn't have to do background checks on all the Jews in Germany either.
@JessTheUnstill @faithisleaping
The dismissiveness from cishet people is infuriating.
"Well nobody looks at that anyway" Actually some do! And more will, now that this is being politicized and company notes are being sent out about it!
"It doesn't actually prevent you from going anywhere" Yes it does! It's going to keep me out of bathrooms for sure, but it'll also stop me from going *anywhere* that is currently unsafe for trans people!
"Well all your documents are updated, so how will they even know?" 1) Literally databases exist. 2) What about all the trans people who are mid-change? Or haven't come out yet? Do they not matter?
"Does it really matter that much?" Yes, it fucking does! I'm a woman! That matters TO ME! Don't pretend you wouldn't care if that information was wrong on your ID!
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@JessTheUnstill @faithisleaping
The dismissiveness from cishet people is infuriating.
"Well nobody looks at that anyway" Actually some do! And more will, now that this is being politicized and company notes are being sent out about it!
"It doesn't actually prevent you from going anywhere" Yes it does! It's going to keep me out of bathrooms for sure, but it'll also stop me from going *anywhere* that is currently unsafe for trans people!
"Well all your documents are updated, so how will they even know?" 1) Literally databases exist. 2) What about all the trans people who are mid-change? Or haven't come out yet? Do they not matter?
"Does it really matter that much?" Yes, it fucking does! I'm a woman! That matters TO ME! Don't pretend you wouldn't care if that information was wrong on your ID!
@CordiallyChloe @faithisleaping You get to make the decision:
Do I continue to use my old ID and risk getting caught and put in men's prison
Do I change my ID to the wrong gender, out myself every time I show it, and get myself DEFINITELY added to The List -
@RobotDiver For everyone who says "don't worry we're a safe country" I just do a quick search and find how their far right parties are increasingly gaining seats, and say "you too are one election away from being the US under Trump."
@JessTheUnstill @RobotDiver this is why we all need to stick together.
They thought trans folks would be an easy target but we can't get them get that wedge.
Every time we let them get away with a missgendering it's one step closer to the gas chambers for everyone they don't like.
Every time a trans person see's something threatening they need to see 10 or 20 cis folks (of all genders, ages, sexualities and abilities) standing shoulder to shoulder with them as a community.
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@faithisleaping @CordiallyChloe Leave a couple million people in a legal catch 22? LOL. LMAO.
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Far too many days I wake up wondering if today is the day my passport gets revoked for not having an M on it.
@JessTheUnstill i worry about this as mine has an X. 🫤
