landmate's mum moved into one of the structures a while back.
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@nflux I'm probably of a similar age. I've used marijuana for quite a while to help with sleep and to fend off migraines.
Another thing your lady might enjoy is some simple sewing, and also maybe an easy video game like "the untitled goose game". I just recently discovered this game and it's a lot of fun. There's no losing so it's not hard on self esteem and learning to operate the hand thingy (I still don't know the name of it!) will be good for her brain.
@deepmud something non goal oriented like goose game could be entertaining and perhaps if i can send it to the big telly that might sidestep the vision issues. presumably theres a lot of laughing involved at how the goose has terrorised everyone?
im also trying to walk a fine line though between her and my landmate, in that i dont want to complicate or undermine his rship with her, or be seen as influencing her, but at the same time i saw someone who (was) unhappy and needed urgent moral support and a bit of companionship.
i hung out with landmate last night and so far it seems ive been walking that line about right, and he seems very grateful of the help. . -
@deepmud something non goal oriented like goose game could be entertaining and perhaps if i can send it to the big telly that might sidestep the vision issues. presumably theres a lot of laughing involved at how the goose has terrorised everyone?
im also trying to walk a fine line though between her and my landmate, in that i dont want to complicate or undermine his rship with her, or be seen as influencing her, but at the same time i saw someone who (was) unhappy and needed urgent moral support and a bit of companionship.
i hung out with landmate last night and so far it seems ive been walking that line about right, and he seems very grateful of the help. .the problem i tend to find is that after a while of talking about stuff to ppl, they may start to question authority (and in this case "authority" is LM) and then i potentially get blamed for "inciting rebellion".
im generally on the side of independence and teaching people to do things for themselves but the problem is i generally run into some low-key controlling behaviour in someone along the way and that doesnt mesh so well with independence.
so e.g back in the day with my raving friends i didnt realise at first but the girls never racked up lines, it was only the guys, and i found that a little weird and uncomfortable. enter my gf who ofc i showed how to rack up right away and then she was like lol its easy, and showed the other girls.
now they didnt have to wait for their guys to cut lines for them. & even before the joy (i feel when someone learns a cool thing or achieves independence) had hit, i got blamed for showing my gf how to prepare her own chems
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@deepmud something non goal oriented like goose game could be entertaining and perhaps if i can send it to the big telly that might sidestep the vision issues. presumably theres a lot of laughing involved at how the goose has terrorised everyone?
im also trying to walk a fine line though between her and my landmate, in that i dont want to complicate or undermine his rship with her, or be seen as influencing her, but at the same time i saw someone who (was) unhappy and needed urgent moral support and a bit of companionship.
i hung out with landmate last night and so far it seems ive been walking that line about right, and he seems very grateful of the help. .that was doubly insulting really cos not just (them) "let me keep my gf in a controlled position" like weird and a bit creepy but y'all do y'all, but expecting me to "keep my girl in line" too! (lmao as if) in order to not undermine their (controlling) behaviour. like hello have you met me? name one time i did what i was "told".
...especially now that it was clear that this wasnt just an oversight but intended . tsk.
[narrator: flux did not comply, and in fact encouraged independence even moreso in their gf
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@deepmud eyesight isnt so great unfortunately. i was thinking along those lines with cards initially but she struggles to see the numbers and isnt suuuper willing to try new things either (so yes she's somewhat standing her own way which is not at all like anyone/everyone i know
either that or she's feigning poor eyesight to set up fleecing me at blackjack or whatever @nflux all you can do is suggest and enable. That's it.
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that was doubly insulting really cos not just (them) "let me keep my gf in a controlled position" like weird and a bit creepy but y'all do y'all, but expecting me to "keep my girl in line" too! (lmao as if) in order to not undermine their (controlling) behaviour. like hello have you met me? name one time i did what i was "told".
...especially now that it was clear that this wasnt just an oversight but intended . tsk.
[narrator: flux did not comply, and in fact encouraged independence even moreso in their gf]@nflux good for you. She's going to appreciate you more than ever
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the problem i tend to find is that after a while of talking about stuff to ppl, they may start to question authority (and in this case "authority" is LM) and then i potentially get blamed for "inciting rebellion".
im generally on the side of independence and teaching people to do things for themselves but the problem is i generally run into some low-key controlling behaviour in someone along the way and that doesnt mesh so well with independence.
so e.g back in the day with my raving friends i didnt realise at first but the girls never racked up lines, it was only the guys, and i found that a little weird and uncomfortable. enter my gf who ofc i showed how to rack up right away and then she was like lol its easy, and showed the other girls.
now they didnt have to wait for their guys to cut lines for them. & even before the joy (i feel when someone learns a cool thing or achieves independence) had hit, i got blamed for showing my gf how to prepare her own chems@nflux there are so many people who believe that we cannot exist as equals, and so always they want the hierarchy. The hierarchy isn't our friend because for one thing, there's *always* at least one asshole who HAS to be on top.
And it's usually the exact worst person for the job.
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@nflux there are so many people who believe that we cannot exist as equals, and so always they want the hierarchy. The hierarchy isn't our friend because for one thing, there's *always* at least one asshole who HAS to be on top.
And it's usually the exact worst person for the job.
@deepmud yeah it was actually quite a surprise bc these were supposed to be relatively "enlightened" guys. so to accidentally trip over that in the middle of that ongoing hedonism was like finding a stray farage in my soup.
also, kind-of a fragile hold on things too. its not like you need to be a genius to figure it out, and the guy's gf was a PhD and smart as a whip.
we also had it this the other way too. i think i was just beginning to wrap my head around the idea of transitioning and these were very close friends, so must have told them around then I'll and one of the other women who wasn't a regular at our sessions practically had steam coming out of her ears as my gf explained it and then the final verdict was "why are you letting him [me at the time] do it [transition]" to which my gf laughed in the same sort of way as I'd laughed when it was suggested i "control my girl. " -
@deepmud yeah it was actually quite a surprise bc these were supposed to be relatively "enlightened" guys. so to accidentally trip over that in the middle of that ongoing hedonism was like finding a stray farage in my soup.
also, kind-of a fragile hold on things too. its not like you need to be a genius to figure it out, and the guy's gf was a PhD and smart as a whip.
we also had it this the other way too. i think i was just beginning to wrap my head around the idea of transitioning and these were very close friends, so must have told them around then I'll and one of the other women who wasn't a regular at our sessions practically had steam coming out of her ears as my gf explained it and then the final verdict was "why are you letting him [me at the time] do it [transition]" to which my gf laughed in the same sort of way as I'd laughed when it was suggested i "control my girl. "@deepmud like a) get fucked bro
b) there'd be no controlling this adorable whirlwind of chaos even if i wanted to
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c) also i dont want to
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@deepmud yeah it was actually quite a surprise bc these were supposed to be relatively "enlightened" guys. so to accidentally trip over that in the middle of that ongoing hedonism was like finding a stray farage in my soup.
also, kind-of a fragile hold on things too. its not like you need to be a genius to figure it out, and the guy's gf was a PhD and smart as a whip.
we also had it this the other way too. i think i was just beginning to wrap my head around the idea of transitioning and these were very close friends, so must have told them around then I'll and one of the other women who wasn't a regular at our sessions practically had steam coming out of her ears as my gf explained it and then the final verdict was "why are you letting him [me at the time] do it [transition]" to which my gf laughed in the same sort of way as I'd laughed when it was suggested i "control my girl. "@deepmud its so weird how (generally NTs) seem normal and nice on the surface but just below the surface there's some pretty strange/abusive takes on how relationships ought to work.
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@nflux good for you. She's going to appreciate you more than ever
@deepmud and i her
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