My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft.
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@fiend_unpleasant @fesshole That's actually a really unkind thing to say.
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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award
@fesshole This is because those courses are full of communication skills that are perfectly in line with how you communicate with anyone. The way autistic people like to be treated is not so fucking different from your own you gotta be making fun of how some career is full of us. It's actually not. Most database engineers are neurotypical.
Thanks for exposing the shitty people here.
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@fiend_unpleasant @fesshole That's actually a really unkind thing to say.
@crazyeddie @fesshole I've said worse.
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@crazyeddie @fesshole I've said worse.
@fiend_unpleasant @fesshole I believe you.
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@fiend_unpleasant @fesshole I believe you.
@crazyeddie @fesshole you should.
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@jonm Most of all, give people the time to complete their tasks in the way that best works for them. Deadlines are an unfortunate fact of life, but don't create unnecessary deadlines that just stress people out, and try to plan for both people to be slower and more meticulous and for unforseen delays. You don't need to go all Scotty and quadruple any time estimate, but at least increase it by half if not doubling it.
(2/2)@StarkRG @jonm I'm autistic. I was told, I were above average good at understanding jural and legal texts. no, I'm just sub average good at understanding ambiguous bullshit, which makes it look like I were outstandingly good at understanding law in comparison. If one wants to not be misunderstood, like people who make laws, it helps to not use ambiguous speech.
it's a nobrainer really. but still I'm the one with "special needs".
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@StarkRG @jonm I'm autistic. I was told, I were above average good at understanding jural and legal texts. no, I'm just sub average good at understanding ambiguous bullshit, which makes it look like I were outstandingly good at understanding law in comparison. If one wants to not be misunderstood, like people who make laws, it helps to not use ambiguous speech.
it's a nobrainer really. but still I'm the one with "special needs".
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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award
@fesshole Wish you'd been my boss back when I had bosses.
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@Sturmflut @jonm Increasing days to weeks seems like the kind of thing you'd teach if you don't want to teach how to properly estimate project timelines (or if the person in question is severely time-blind, but it's probably better to just not rely on them to make such estimates in the first place). You need buffer, but telling a client or your boss that a project that you've estimated to take five months is actually going to take a decade is ridiculous. Or a two-year project becomes 4 decades?
And yet, look at how many 2-year projects never get finished after half a decade or more.
Always double the time estimate, then double again. Helps to get rid of the non-essential "nice to haves" that people keep trying to add "because it won't take that much longer" .
Because EVERYONE keeps trying to bargain down how long something should take, even though THEY CAN NOT DO IT THEMSELVES.
Trying to meet unreasonable deadlines, even if you succeed, just adds technical debt. Glad I'm retired, because if there's one thing I've learned, it's that management can't even manage themselves effectively. That's why they went into management. Because only those who can do, do. Those who can't go into management.
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@fesshole Wow, clear, unambiguous communication and repeated positive reinforcement works on allistics too? Who ever coulda guessed?
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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award
What does Minecraft have to do with any of this haha
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@masukomi That's a fair assessment, 3/4 seems like an over estimation though.
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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award
@fesshole Are you hiring perchance?
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@masukomi That's a fair assessment, 3/4 seems like an over estimation though.
@StarkRG I'd agree if there were 40 of them but 4? Considering that the team members are typically highly involved in the hiring of new team members, humans tend to hire people "like us" and autistic people have a completely different communication style it seems highly likely that we'd hire folks who understood how to communicate with us (rarely allistic people) and thus…
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@fesshole i have heard from teachers, that the special courses they take when they start to teach their first autistic children, help them more to understand and manage all children, than anything they had learned before.
@shadowwwind @fesshole I believe it. The work courses I have taken, due to me managing and working with ND people have definitely made me a better parent of my ND kid (maybe kids - we're awaiting assessment).
Tbh, I think I'm a better husband, too.
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What does Minecraft have to do with any of this haha
I kept waiting for him to use a Minecraft analogy with his team to motivate them to beat the dragon or something but nah, Minecraft was just a red herring
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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award
@fesshole Not the first time I hear such story. The son of a friend learned about 0-days and log4j also through minecraft and 1000 user server. Got his incident response training at an early age ..,
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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award
@fesshole I'm a tech leader of a team of 4 developers. I'm really interested in this kind of communication skills. Is there any written documentation about it?
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@StarkRG I'd agree if there were 40 of them but 4? Considering that the team members are typically highly involved in the hiring of new team members, humans tend to hire people "like us" and autistic people have a completely different communication style it seems highly likely that we'd hire folks who understood how to communicate with us (rarely allistic people) and thus…
@masukomi I don't think lower-management often get very involved in the hiring process. I suspect their bosses would do the hiring, and then assign the new employees to various teams. The closest that person probably gets to hiring someone is asking their boss for an extra hand for half the week.
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My son is 11,autistic, and obsessed with Minecraft. I manage a team of 4 Database Engineers. At some point I started to talk to them like how the parenting courses told me to communicate with my son and the team morale and overall performance has shot up so much we got an award
@fesshole That says a lot about your team tbh
