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@thatfrisiangirlish Yeah. This is where informed consent is really important. But also, lie your ass off if you need to. The medical system is still a solid half century or more behind where it needs to be in terms of understanding the trans existence. If we have to sometimes simplify things for them, so what?
But when it comes to being—to who you are and who you want to be—you can be whatever you want to be, regardless of whether or not you can check the nice, tidy boxes.
tL;dr: Transition is punk rock. Fuck the rules! 
IDK who needs to hear this but figuring out your gender identity isn't a prerequisite to being trans or transitioning.
Sure, it's nice to be able to walk into a gender clinic or a therapist's office and say, "I identify as X. One Y2X transition, please." but that's often not the way it works. The identity language we use is kinda rubbish, actually, and often puts the cart before the horse.
Some people, like myself, never really get that clear-as-a-bell sense of gender identity. Maybe it's because we're a bit agender or our neurospice gets in the way or maybe it's because the trauma beat it out of us or maybe it's something else. It doesn't really matter. At least for me, transition was much more about what I wanted than what I felt like I already was.
Many people have a sense of gender that doesn't really fit into any of the boxes. They know what it is but the language doesn't exist to be able to really pin it down or precisely describe it to someone else. They could maybe say, "I identity as..." but it's hard to fill in the blank in a way that makes sense to anyone but themselves.
And for many, many people, transition is a journey and they try something and it's kinda in the right direction but they want more or they want something slightly different. You don't have to have this one identity that you've had since you were 6 and have stuck to ever since. You're allowed to grow and change.
It's all valid. There are no rules. There is no "trans enough." If you look at your AGAB and you're like, "Nah, I don't wanna be stuck in that box my whole life.", that's all you need. Transition is about saying, "Fuck you!" to the rules and that includes rules set by other trans people.
@JessTheUnstill Yeah, there's at least one group I'm in where that really would be the answer. It's only like a dozen of us but it's a LOT of chatter throughout the day.
@erin Or just make a reference to leaving a message on an answering machine.
@JessTheUnstill Oh, that's 1000 levels of cursed.
WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T TYPE "67"!
