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But the ones in the middle, that gray area, they are the ones that can hurt or confuse the most.
This is where I try to remember that mantra, and try to let people show themselves. But it can also be the hardest, especially if they are people close to you in one way or another 🫂🫂
@Impossible_PhD I realised I may have mixed up meaning with it, as it's rarely if ever so clean cut.
What I mean is I try to ensure I give my energy to those that want to help and change - strangers or relatives.
People are fallible, and we all make mistakes - but if we don't learn from them, especially when pointed out by others, then we are choosing to be ignorant or worse. These are the ones in the latter category.
@Impossible_PhD sadly that is true 
I do try to remind myself "those that matter, don't mind. And those that mind, don't matter"
I am unsure where I picked it up from, but it helps me try reframe my efforts and center myself to those that do have the vested interest.
To a very lesser degree - I have been having to teach people how to better navigate and introduce others in my day-to-day, and it is at times confusing and others a bit exhausting. 
And in a way _I get it_, in the sense of only really crashing my own way through it all in the last few years, but also some simple substitution would highlight how not cool it is too.
