@killyourfm I still visit the refuge of what once was the Facepunch forums do this day.
I also set up Stoat for my friends if they want it, which they said they do, and because Stoat is receiving a "Voice v2" overhaul (and is thus inoperable on self-hosted according to my experience and understanding) I set up Jitsi which disconnects me from calls in a few minutes.
Why is Voicechat for Open Source so hard, arghhh.