@Jumpmed @SeanCasten
Forgiveness does not mean a lack of accountability. If, God forbid, someone were to kill a loved one of mine, i would expect them to serve a jail sentence for it. But if i can't forgive them, then I'm basically serving a different kind of imprisonment.
I'm not saying it would be easy in that scenario, so i would never fault someone who can't get there. But i do think there is compelling evidence that you're better off if you can.