As I enter my 30th year of being very happily married to a woman way out of my league, I have a message to young men: there is a secret to a successful relationship, it's being best friends with another couple where the man is a useless buffoon

[eetschrijver@mastodon.social]

@fesshole And here I was thinking the secret was to build a relationship built on absolute trust and reciprocity. Silly me.

[bonehousewasps@beige.party]

@fesshole And they're not hard to find, IME. Of course, you then have to put up with him.

[queenofnewyork@newsie.social]

@Eetschrijver @fesshole I mean, the fact he can recognize uselessness in another spouse implies he’s doing a lot more right than he gives himself credit for.

[eetschrijver@mastodon.social]

@queenofnewyork @fesshole Well, maybe. Then again, the fact that he apparently needs an absolute failure to be compared favourably to, tells me he's not quite there yet.

[queenofnewyork@newsie.social]

@Eetschrijver @fesshole Could be. This is one I’m more curious about than most of the fessers.

[beecycling@wandering.shop]

@mherbert @fesshole Definitely one of those "I don't think I would classify any of the other guys in our friend group as that.. oh..." situations

[eetschrijver@mastodon.social]

@queenofnewyork @fesshole Well, he might not be absolutely useless.

[frauzeitlos@mastodon.social]

@fesshole I can tell you from first hand experience, that this just makes the wife of the bafoon even sadder.

[dodo_sipping@cupoftea.social]

@Funkydrummer @fesshole

[independentpen@mas.to]

@Eetschrijver @queenofnewyork @fesshole you're assuming he correctly identified bufoonery in the other man

[queenofnewyork@newsie.social]

@independentpen @Eetschrijver @fesshole It's true that I am taking his word for that.

[crazyeddie@mastodon.social]

@fesshole Well, whatever you do, don't let her hang out with her single friends.

That was funny until I realized/remembered that in fact men do this exactly for that reason.

[crazyeddie@mastodon.social]

@mherbert @fesshole Both. Both men are using the same strategy.

[w_b@mastodon.world]

@Eetschrijver @fesshole

And communication

[caveknoll@infosec.exchange]

@fesshole You didn’t specify where the buffoon resides

[scottearle@poorlyrendered.com]

@fesshole so you’ve seen The Good Life, then

[masp@wandering.shop]

@scottearle @fesshole the secret to a successful relationship is to marry Felicity Kendal.

[passwordsarehard4@mastodon.social]

@womble @fesshole after the wedding, right? Some problems start creeping up when things are too related before that.

[kendal857@mindly.social]

@masp Or be a Kendal! My husband and I have been together happily for over 3 decades