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    I am ill. Unsure if sinusitis from lamotrigine or ... wait, it's hayfever season...? idk. Maxillary sinus (my left) from side of nose to top-left of throat is sore af, 'full', and somehow congested while drippy. wtf

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      I am ill. Unsure if sinusitis from lamotrigine or ... wait, it's hayfever season...? idk. Maxillary sinus (my left) from side of nose to top-left of throat is sore af, 'full', and somehow congested while drippy. wtf

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      https://www.youtube.com/shorts/JbkptgvSK_0

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        https://www.youtube.com/shorts/JbkptgvSK_0

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        Okay so but... how does it fit together tho??

        1. https://sewguide.com/sailor-collar/
        2. https://www.universityoffashion.com/lessons/sailor-collar/
        3. https://www.quora.com/Why-do-sailor-s-shirts-have-the-big-flap-behind-the-collar

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          Okay so but... how does it fit together tho??

          1. https://sewguide.com/sailor-collar/
          2. https://www.universityoffashion.com/lessons/sailor-collar/
          3. https://www.quora.com/Why-do-sailor-s-shirts-have-the-big-flap-behind-the-collar

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          ("Another of my strange stories: "?) 私の悪物語もいこ:

          月見にの慣れで、ズッキニチもあれね。
          Tsukimi ni no nare de, Zucchini-chi mo are ne.

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            ("Another of my strange stories: "?) 私の悪物語もいこ:

            月見にの慣れで、ズッキニチもあれね。
            Tsukimi ni no nare de, Zucchini-chi mo are ne.

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            みんなさん! Get ready for more of my gibberish.  

            あ、えとう。 「大いない」(?)でした。
            Uhhhh. Not done much?
            今まで、アタシは勉強したくないでした。 
            Up to now, I haven't been studying.
            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TMrL8nKJGQw を見っている。
            I'm watching this video.
            恐怖物語が面白いです。 (多分?) 
            Scary stories are interesting (to me). (In my opinion?)
            いつもでこのヴィデオの本文を分かりません。
            しかし、実地が大切だね。 
            I don't always understand the text in this video. Even so / anyway, practice is important, isn't it.

            [ ?? I hope?! ]

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              みんなさん! Get ready for more of my gibberish.  

              あ、えとう。 「大いない」(?)でした。
              Uhhhh. Not done much?
              今まで、アタシは勉強したくないでした。 
              Up to now, I haven't been studying.
              https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TMrL8nKJGQw を見っている。
              I'm watching this video.
              恐怖物語が面白いです。 (多分?) 
              Scary stories are interesting (to me). (In my opinion?)
              いつもでこのヴィデオの本文を分かりません。
              しかし、実地が大切だね。 
              I don't always understand the text in this video. Even so / anyway, practice is important, isn't it.

              [ ?? I hope?! ]

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              https://www.youtube.com/shorts/fBMOZwaYclY

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                https://www.youtube.com/shorts/fBMOZwaYclY

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                apparently chocolate (swiss) roll is just
                cho ko re to, Ro - ru, ke - ki.
                Chokore, roor, keh ki.
                Chocolate roll cake.
                That's it. Just a transliteration.
                Or ガトー・ショコラ gato - sho ko ra, for gateau chocolat, if you do / are fancy.
                https://www.justonecookbook.com/matcha-swiss-roll/

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                  apparently chocolate (swiss) roll is just
                  cho ko re to, Ro - ru, ke - ki.
                  Chokore, roor, keh ki.
                  Chocolate roll cake.
                  That's it. Just a transliteration.
                  Or ガトー・ショコラ gato - sho ko ra, for gateau chocolat, if you do / are fancy.
                  https://www.justonecookbook.com/matcha-swiss-roll/

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                  2:10 Maybe "assertive parenting", neither "authoritarian / authoritative" nor "gentle [only]" parenting.
                  Treating your kid like a punching bag (limited to emotionally or not) or putting them on a pedestal are both bad.
                  They are a person, learning how to be a person, in a growing body and mind / body-mind whatever.

                  Permissive / indulgent parenting reminds me of how the Simpsons showed Ned Flanders' parents.
                  Unfortunately, the show then contrasts that with the abuses and neglects in the Simpson parents' childhoods.

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                    2:10 Maybe "assertive parenting", neither "authoritarian / authoritative" nor "gentle [only]" parenting.
                    Treating your kid like a punching bag (limited to emotionally or not) or putting them on a pedestal are both bad.
                    They are a person, learning how to be a person, in a growing body and mind / body-mind whatever.

                    Permissive / indulgent parenting reminds me of how the Simpsons showed Ned Flanders' parents.
                    Unfortunately, the show then contrasts that with the abuses and neglects in the Simpson parents' childhoods.

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                    Should people learn parenting from every piece of media?
                    [ Who "should" do anything and who decides what, or how to measure it? ]
                    Maybe, maybe not.

                    EVERYONE in a given group needs accurate child psychology and sociology education.
                    People will only decide things based on what they see or hear, or reasonably infer from that knowledge base. What they can imagine is limited by working hours, caring needs, health conditions, and personal energy levels.

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                      Should people learn parenting from every piece of media?
                      [ Who "should" do anything and who decides what, or how to measure it? ]
                      Maybe, maybe not.

                      EVERYONE in a given group needs accurate child psychology and sociology education.
                      People will only decide things based on what they see or hear, or reasonably infer from that knowledge base. What they can imagine is limited by working hours, caring needs, health conditions, and personal energy levels.

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                      10:50 It does make sense that people expect the names of a given term to be relevant to its meaning.
                      I can understand why someone would hear "gentle parenting" and could assume it means either "authoritative (apparently different from authoritarian??)" or "permissive / indulgent".
                      I get that.
                      Also true: people make individual choices.
                      People choose *in specific contexts, subject to individual incentives and influences.*

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                        10:50 It does make sense that people expect the names of a given term to be relevant to its meaning.
                        I can understand why someone would hear "gentle parenting" and could assume it means either "authoritative (apparently different from authoritarian??)" or "permissive / indulgent".
                        I get that.
                        Also true: people make individual choices.
                        People choose *in specific contexts, subject to individual incentives and influences.*

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                        Double-also: adults showing imperfection is important for everyone (kids and bystanders).
                        Observing sustainable harm reduction like how to apologise
                        (Any real apology: what you did, and how you understand it impacted others, and what you will do from now on instead. Not "I'm sorry if you felt that way".)

                        16:35 OMG YES. Give them time alerts before a change! Give them trivial options that let them show autonomy.
                        17:20 OMG YES. Explain consequences, choices, and set limits. Good! No insults. No. Gd. Insults.

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                          Double-also: adults showing imperfection is important for everyone (kids and bystanders).
                          Observing sustainable harm reduction like how to apologise
                          (Any real apology: what you did, and how you understand it impacted others, and what you will do from now on instead. Not "I'm sorry if you felt that way".)

                          16:35 OMG YES. Give them time alerts before a change! Give them trivial options that let them show autonomy.
                          17:20 OMG YES. Explain consequences, choices, and set limits. Good! No insults. No. Gd. Insults.

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                          Assertive parenting. Intentional parenting. Effective parenting. Ideal outcome-based parenting. Learning-focused parenting. Idk, "guided learning"?

                          I'm also a fan of removing the term "conventional current", if that weren't obvious.
                          Conventional current is "positive charge" moving the opposite way from the flow of "actual electrons". It's a stupid term. It is literally, figuratively, and pedagogically backwards.
                          (Science teachers, come at me. Try to change my mind. I still hate it, decades later. Lying because "tradition" is a terrible idea.)
                          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUOK09J4kFA

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                            Assertive parenting. Intentional parenting. Effective parenting. Ideal outcome-based parenting. Learning-focused parenting. Idk, "guided learning"?

                            I'm also a fan of removing the term "conventional current", if that weren't obvious.
                            Conventional current is "positive charge" moving the opposite way from the flow of "actual electrons". It's a stupid term. It is literally, figuratively, and pedagogically backwards.
                            (Science teachers, come at me. Try to change my mind. I still hate it, decades later. Lying because "tradition" is a terrible idea.)
                            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUOK09J4kFA

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                            "Age appropriator"? "Age content filterer"? Something like that, for deciding how to teach sustainable, low-energy contact methods. Like age appropriate, but making near-any topic age appropriate.

                            Like, idfk. Kid's 8 or something and watches a Quentin Tarantino movie at a friend's older sibling's party.

                            What would you do in that case? Well, maybe get them a therapist or family counsellor, idk. Also probably grill the friend's older sibling WTF they were thinking or not checking.
                            But then, kid-wise, what do you do?
                            (Besides what the qualified mental health professionals suggest.)

                            You gotta think about what the information was, how they interpreted it, and what distress they feel (if any? But probably some?).
                            Also what lessons might they learn without context from experience? Like, that's the main problem afaik, but prob not the only one.

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                              "Age appropriator"? "Age content filterer"? Something like that, for deciding how to teach sustainable, low-energy contact methods. Like age appropriate, but making near-any topic age appropriate.

                              Like, idfk. Kid's 8 or something and watches a Quentin Tarantino movie at a friend's older sibling's party.

                              What would you do in that case? Well, maybe get them a therapist or family counsellor, idk. Also probably grill the friend's older sibling WTF they were thinking or not checking.
                              But then, kid-wise, what do you do?
                              (Besides what the qualified mental health professionals suggest.)

                              You gotta think about what the information was, how they interpreted it, and what distress they feel (if any? But probably some?).
                              Also what lessons might they learn without context from experience? Like, that's the main problem afaik, but prob not the only one.

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                              Intentional parenting, descriptive parenting, co-regulatory parenting, co-mentorship, person training, assertive parenting, effect-aware parenting, context-based parenting, like... something like those.
                              I do like nurturing parenting, mindful parenting, and conscious parenting too though.

                              Choice education parenting?

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                                Intentional parenting, descriptive parenting, co-regulatory parenting, co-mentorship, person training, assertive parenting, effect-aware parenting, context-based parenting, like... something like those.
                                I do like nurturing parenting, mindful parenting, and conscious parenting too though.

                                Choice education parenting?

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                                49:30 heck, it seems like egging on the kid. First time the 3 year old yells "Turn it off!" You could look her way (not completely while driving) and say "one sec", then turn the volume down a little.
                                I don't think she'll keep screaming it (or getting more agitated, obv) if she feels heard and understood.
                                Especially if you then say "It's a little lower now. I know you wanted it turned off, but I need to remind you not to scream at me."
                                Then you kinda... go from there?
                                If the kid does start screaming again, ask questions and ask her to explain what her sensations are, where they're coming from, and what options there might be.

                                If the kid doesn't start screaming again, then... you kinda still do that?
                                Like, talk it through and come to a group decision, alternating who's ideal outcome gets chosen each time.

                                If any parents want to weigh in, please do. I'm still on the fence whether I'd be a remotely okay parent, whether it's fair, etc. I hope my ideas are alright, at least.

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                                  49:30 heck, it seems like egging on the kid. First time the 3 year old yells "Turn it off!" You could look her way (not completely while driving) and say "one sec", then turn the volume down a little.
                                  I don't think she'll keep screaming it (or getting more agitated, obv) if she feels heard and understood.
                                  Especially if you then say "It's a little lower now. I know you wanted it turned off, but I need to remind you not to scream at me."
                                  Then you kinda... go from there?
                                  If the kid does start screaming again, ask questions and ask her to explain what her sensations are, where they're coming from, and what options there might be.

                                  If the kid doesn't start screaming again, then... you kinda still do that?
                                  Like, talk it through and come to a group decision, alternating who's ideal outcome gets chosen each time.

                                  If any parents want to weigh in, please do. I'm still on the fence whether I'd be a remotely okay parent, whether it's fair, etc. I hope my ideas are alright, at least.

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                                  1:00:00 Kid sees parent looking at laptop. Kid hits parent. Parent says no, softly holding his hand. Keeps looking at laptop. Gee I wonder why he keeps hitting. Kid wants attention.
                                  Maybe the parent needs to get something done on the laptop, idk. But that lack of direct attention is *why* the kid's doing it.

                                  Idk what to suggest for that, but words clearly aren't working, so trying anything else?
                                  Idk. This is where my complete lack of experience or intuition is showing. I feel why they might do whatever but not have a next step in mind, if this were me.

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                                    1:00:00 Kid sees parent looking at laptop. Kid hits parent. Parent says no, softly holding his hand. Keeps looking at laptop. Gee I wonder why he keeps hitting. Kid wants attention.
                                    Maybe the parent needs to get something done on the laptop, idk. But that lack of direct attention is *why* the kid's doing it.

                                    Idk what to suggest for that, but words clearly aren't working, so trying anything else?
                                    Idk. This is where my complete lack of experience or intuition is showing. I feel why they might do whatever but not have a next step in mind, if this were me.

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                                    I am once again begging parents and carers to learn BSL and/or Makaton. (Or the gestural language in your region.)
                                    Your kid doesn't need a sensory impairment for them to use it. (Also other kids might know it, or parents, or whoever, anyway.)
                                    Even if not, let them have MORE tools to communicate, not fewer ffs.
                                    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUOK09J4kFA

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