I think of autistic inertia in me like a rubber band.
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I think of autistic inertia in me like a rubber band. I have these items that, day after day, pile on as reminders they need to be done. That is, until the tension is so strong I'm able to "do the thing", and then the tension building for that starts anew.
Housekeeping is one that I struggle with. I value and cherish a clean house, and know it reflects on my value system. But it is so hard to do the work until I've invested days/weeks dwelling on it in order to have the energy to do it. And then I have to start all over again.
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I think of autistic inertia in me like a rubber band. I have these items that, day after day, pile on as reminders they need to be done. That is, until the tension is so strong I'm able to "do the thing", and then the tension building for that starts anew.
Housekeeping is one that I struggle with. I value and cherish a clean house, and know it reflects on my value system. But it is so hard to do the work until I've invested days/weeks dwelling on it in order to have the energy to do it. And then I have to start all over again.
I relate to this and have found a different way to respond to the building nags that helps. It even works with my need to have done something to feel better about myself.
Firstly, I give myself a pass to do nothing, and to hell with it if I just sit with self kindness to the feelings that brings up. I am ok, love myself, this sad part etc. I go easy on myself.
So I look for the moment I *feel* like doing a thing, or a fraction of the thing. Key is, I want to do it.
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I relate to this and have found a different way to respond to the building nags that helps. It even works with my need to have done something to feel better about myself.
Firstly, I give myself a pass to do nothing, and to hell with it if I just sit with self kindness to the feelings that brings up. I am ok, love myself, this sad part etc. I go easy on myself.
So I look for the moment I *feel* like doing a thing, or a fraction of the thing. Key is, I want to do it.
@doggle @autistics Thanks for sharing your very different approach, Doggle! That makes a lot of sense, especially holistically.
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R relay@relay.mycrowd.ca shared this topic
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@doggle @autistics Thanks for sharing your very different approach, Doggle! That makes a lot of sense, especially holistically.
@AncTreat5358 you're welcome. Hope it helps you find your own way. I've also moved away from to-do lists which I realised kept the pressure on me. Now I try to minimise what I think about needing to do, to only the very important, and to take each of those one at a time rather than plan this, then that, then that like a big campaign!
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@AncTreat5358 you're welcome. Hope it helps you find your own way. I've also moved away from to-do lists which I realised kept the pressure on me. Now I try to minimise what I think about needing to do, to only the very important, and to take each of those one at a time rather than plan this, then that, then that like a big campaign!
@doggle @autistics I really admire your living simply and deliberately. Sounds like a great mental place to be for you.
Honestly, I'm not sure how well I can follow that in practice. I have so few demands on me at this state of my life. As recently as 4 years ago, I was an overachiever, and some of that still lingers. But I can appreciate giving space to breathe and live intentionally can lead to a happier life, so I'll definitely give it a think!
