Lets talk pets....
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Lets talk pets....
Pets can have quite the long life, and are often integral parts of our family.
Why is it then that when pets pass-away we do not bestow the same level off accepting a person mourning the death of a pet?
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Lets talk pets....
Pets can have quite the long life, and are often integral parts of our family.
Why is it then that when pets pass-away we do not bestow the same level off accepting a person mourning the death of a pet?
@Noortjevee I do. Had an alcoholic colleague who blamed her drinking on her father and dog dying one after the other. I have to admit that when I heard her dog had died, I was willing to forgive everything.
But that is just me.
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Lets talk pets....
Pets can have quite the long life, and are often integral parts of our family.
Why is it then that when pets pass-away we do not bestow the same level off accepting a person mourning the death of a pet?
@Noortjevee@mstdn.social
In one word: speciesism... Or in two words: human supremacy. -
@Noortjevee I do. Had an alcoholic colleague who blamed her drinking on her father and dog dying one after the other. I have to admit that when I heard her dog had died, I was willing to forgive everything.
But that is just me.
@rrb its nice to hear you do, sadly not enough people do...
To many jerks going "twas just a pet"
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@rrb its nice to hear you do, sadly not enough people do...
To many jerks going "twas just a pet"
@Noortjevee Psychologists actually say the grief is more profound with a pet, compared to (most) family members.
You are more open with a cat/dog. You are less reserved.
Is there a reason for this line of discussion.
If you are grieving, I have suggestions. (ex. Last time, (when our beloved Fredl died) I found an online discussion group on this topic. Reading their feelings helped me.)
Picture of Fredl attached.
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@Noortjevee Psychologists actually say the grief is more profound with a pet, compared to (most) family members.
You are more open with a cat/dog. You are less reserved.
Is there a reason for this line of discussion.
If you are grieving, I have suggestions. (ex. Last time, (when our beloved Fredl died) I found an online discussion group on this topic. Reading their feelings helped me.)
Picture of Fredl attached.
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@Noortjevee Psychologists actually say the grief is more profound with a pet, compared to (most) family members.
You are more open with a cat/dog. You are less reserved.
Is there a reason for this line of discussion.
If you are grieving, I have suggestions. (ex. Last time, (when our beloved Fredl died) I found an online discussion group on this topic. Reading their feelings helped me.)
Picture of Fredl attached.
@rrb im not grieving...yet...knowing the age of my pet, i am aware it might be close...
I just wondered my question today...
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@rrb im not grieving...yet...knowing the age of my pet, i am aware it might be close...
I just wondered my question today...
@Noortjevee Our black lab was 16 1/2 when he had a stroke. We had been thinking that we might have to euthanize him soon, so it was a bit of a relief when he had the stroke. It was no longer our decision. It hurt, but was almost a relief in some ways.
Our yellow lab was 7 when he suddenly started having seizures. He then had an 8 hour seizure and never really recovered. Eventually euthanasia was necessary. We found out he had a brain tumor. There was nothing to be done, had we known.
With the yellow lab, it was sudden, painful, and very hard to take.
To be honest, both deaths were probably more difficult than deaths of friends/relatives. We were with both of them continuously. Their no longer being present was a constant reminder of the loss.
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@Noortjevee Our black lab was 16 1/2 when he had a stroke. We had been thinking that we might have to euthanize him soon, so it was a bit of a relief when he had the stroke. It was no longer our decision. It hurt, but was almost a relief in some ways.
Our yellow lab was 7 when he suddenly started having seizures. He then had an 8 hour seizure and never really recovered. Eventually euthanasia was necessary. We found out he had a brain tumor. There was nothing to be done, had we known.
With the yellow lab, it was sudden, painful, and very hard to take.
To be honest, both deaths were probably more difficult than deaths of friends/relatives. We were with both of them continuously. Their no longer being present was a constant reminder of the loss.
@rrb our oldest pet is 17, and so far still fairly healthy...but i do fear the day he wont be.
Wont be stubbornly forcing his way between me and my partner on the sofa, or trying to face snuggle when he manages to break into the bedroom -
@rrb our oldest pet is 17, and so far still fairly healthy...but i do fear the day he wont be.
Wont be stubbornly forcing his way between me and my partner on the sofa, or trying to face snuggle when he manages to break into the bedroom@Noortjevee Cats live longer than dogs. Larger dogs live less long than smaller ones. Pure breeds all have more health issues than mixed breeds. (In-breeding is a bad idea.)
I think the bond with a pet gets stronger over time. For a lab, our 16 1/2 was extreme. It was touching watching him struggle with his joints, losing hearing, going blind, getting progressively incontinent. We got him a diaper. Boy did it stink.
But he still wanted to be with us, got excited about walks, and tried to fetch his ball/Frisbee. We probably loved him most at that time.
I enjoyed each day we still had. I was wondering if maybe we were doing the wrong thing letting him suffer. I was afraid of having to decide when to kill him. I was relieved that the stroke meant I did not have to decide. I held him while they gave him the shot that killed him. I cried afterwards.
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