TRANS PEOPLE
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@mallory_sinn (so...)
as a 10 year old kid staring down the wrong puberty i didn't feel i could do *anything* about it at the time, so i just packed it deep down and told nobody
in my 20s i experimented privately with crossdressing and knew Something Was Up but didn't know what to do about it and stuffed it back down
in my 40s i had a crisis of burnout and depression and knew i needed to start facing my shit. i put in the work on my emotions and gained the psychological safety to come out
@mallory_sinn for folks with trauma or personality/mood disorders who have STRONG EMOTIONS and have trouble handling their shit: DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is fucken great
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@Millie glad you’re fully coming into yourself now
But also hugs offered because I imagine five years of living with the knowledge and being unable to fully embrace yourself yet must have been hard 🫂
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@mallory_sinn well there's a toughie
first egg crack: 1989
second egg crack: 2006
final egg crack: 2020 <- i voted here
came out: 2023
started transitioning: 2024
@brooke @mallory_sinn yeah, I kinda first experimented in like 2014, but then got distracted by life and didn't think about it until 2017 and didn't transition until 2021
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
~2003 - first questioned if I might be trans
2021 - said out loud that I was trans and started transition (what I chose)Somewhere in between, I think it became clear to me that I probably was trans, but I don't know when, and there was always some part of me that clung to denial and avoidance.
I've been thinking about this recently because the fifth anniversary is coming up
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn two egg cracks and one coming out all pre-2015, so that's what I selected. Didn't start transition itself until 2021 tho.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
My egg cracked in 1997.
I started transitioning in 2019.
I publicly came out in 2022.So... three out of four?
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn See, my egg cracked long before I got HRT. If we're going by egg cracking, I've known I was trans for a decade longer. I don't think people realise just how much of us knew when we were children but had to bury that shit deep and suffer in ways that scar us for the rest of our lives until the second the clock strikes midnight on our 18th birthday.
I figured out I was trans in 2009. I got on HRT in 2017. I'm not even sure if I had accepting parents at the time if I could've started in 2009. I sure as fuck couldn't now.
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@mallory_sinn See, my egg cracked long before I got HRT. If we're going by egg cracking, I've known I was trans for a decade longer. I don't think people realise just how much of us knew when we were children but had to bury that shit deep and suffer in ways that scar us for the rest of our lives until the second the clock strikes midnight on our 18th birthday.
I figured out I was trans in 2009. I got on HRT in 2017. I'm not even sure if I had accepting parents at the time if I could've started in 2009. I sure as fuck couldn't now.
@mallory_sinn I picked 2016-2019 because that's when all three was true. I'd been out "full time" for six months at that point.
I also feel it's worth pointing out nearly every person I know who "hatched" recently has later told me they started to remember even earlier signs they were trans. Who woulda thunk that the human brain famous for blocking access to traumatic memories would block out the number of times their parents said shit like "I'ma beat your ass if you keep doing this queer shit" about expressing potentially being trans.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn started transitoin further back from 2015 than today is to 2015.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn oooooh this is hard to answer because it's an ongoing thing for me, and I definitely went through steps. But I guess I started questioning around 2021? Later I came out to some people and I haven't started transitioning in any meaningful way yet. My egg cracking moment might be somewhere there? I'm not even sure I can claim my egg cracked. The jury is still deliberating, kinda.
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@Melezioh I had actually wanted to do one more option for 2010 - 2015 because I think that’s another distinct cohort (but the poll only allowed me 4 options here). That’s the cohort a lot of my favorite trans writers and artists come from, and it marked a change where trans people started socially hanging out and going out together more, from what I understand. It’s a period I think a lot of newer trans folks don’t understand as being so pivotal to where our community is now.
@mallory_sinn @Melezioh *fucking dies of old age*
as a 2010–2015-er, the trans writers & artists who were most formative to me came out in, like, the 70s and 80s?
I feel like the 2010s were really kind of a turning point though. e. g. trans lit getting mainstream attention
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn Back half of 2015, right at the very end of WPATH being the shitty transmisic Benjamin standards. Counting that because that HRT and my first *intentional* social moves happened simultaneously.
But I depicted myself with a cunt in art as early as '08, and was unknowingly kinda flagging since 2000.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
I knew when I was a kid but I only began actually transitioning recently
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn This is one of the reasons I love Mastodon polls: the "View Results" button. I'm not trans, but I am definitely interested in the results of this.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn This poll makes me wonder what you think the age demographics of the #Fediverse look like.
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TRANS PEOPLE
Totally unscientific survey of transition demographics on the fediverse, for transgender, non-binary, and gender diverse people.
What year did you either come out, begin transition, and/or have your egg crack?
@mallory_sinn
Could have figured it out way earlier¹ if I had known about trans and enby people but I only really understood trans-identity in August 2021… and promptly² understood that I couldn't deny it anymore.
First CO on TDoR³ 2021 to the only trans girl I knew as such offline.
Changed GP in August 2022 to one known to be trans friendly (she even had stopped taking new cis patients) and told her I wanted HRT right from the start.
But because I was still so unsure (what if I was faking it to have a reason to say I'm queer⁴? What if taking HRT doesn't help⁵? etc.), I only actually started in November 2022. And had to stop two days later 🫠 Resumed 3 weeks later and haven't stopped since (switched from gel to injections in January 2026)1: I think I started wanted to be reborn as a girl in 2004 or 2005, although I thought I would be as bad at being a girl as at being a boy
I don't have much memories from before ~2003 so can't talk to my relation to gender prior to that.
2: it "only" took a bit under 2 weeks and going through the GDB (thanks, Jocelyn! (Twipped)) with a highlighter
Funny enough, I only realised *afterward* that I had been putting myself to sleep for a few months by picturing waking up the next day as a woman and what I'd do 🤭 then I started remembering the previous times I had wanted to be a girl :') (there were no signs!)
3: either worst or best day to do that.
4: my dad is gay (and, I suspect, a transfem in deep denial) and my mom is bi, so I thought I only wanted to belong amongst queer people.
5: it did… applied the first dose of gel in the evening, was already feeling better the next day 🤭 -
@mallory_sinn This poll makes me wonder what you think the age demographics of the #Fediverse look like.
@gcvsa from the polls many others have done, 30s - 50s are the majority of us I’m pretty sure, with some folks in their 20s and of course great friends who are also in 60s and above.
But this is kind of regardless, since I’m trying to get a sense of, for example, how many people are part of the COVID cohort and that stretches across all ages.
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I knew when I was a kid but I only began actually transitioning recently
@burnoutqueen go with once you began transitioning then. The idea is to capture what transition cohort people are a part of
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@mallory_sinn @Melezioh *fucking dies of old age*
as a 2010–2015-er, the trans writers & artists who were most formative to me came out in, like, the 70s and 80s?
I feel like the 2010s were really kind of a turning point though. e. g. trans lit getting mainstream attention
@nev @Melezioh hehe, sorry to make folks feel old. And yeah, I of course enjoy a lot of the folks from then too (Leslie Feinberg, Kate Bornstein, Julia Serano, Susan Stryker, etc), but I was talking mainly about folks like Casey Plett, Torrey Peters, and Laura Jane Grace, who were so pivotal to me. Exactly that Trans Lit cohort you mentioned. That, and key people on a trans twitter and in person like Caitlin Spice, Mags, and others.
There were some really big changes in trans subcultures and communities that I think a lot of people transitioning post-2020 are completely unaware of. Like…no one was around for the discourse of Detransition, Baby and letting the cis know about trans sexuality, or the Baeddels or any of that kind of stuff.
