At 43, going on 44, I’m trying to put some order to the chaos.

[martinguay@mstdn.ca]

At 43, going on 44, I’m trying to put some order to the chaos. 14 years of marriage is my foundation with my husband, but I’ve realized I’m poly and demisexual. I’m not looking for "casual"—I’m looking for someone to love and be a part of my life as an equal.

The reality? Demisexuality means my "spark" is a slow-burn. In 18 months, only 1 or 2 guys have actually triggered those deep feelings. It’s a high bar to clear.

The exhausting part is when that rare connection finally happens, only to find they aren't okay with polyamory. It’s annoying and, honestly, just sad to invest that much only to hit a wall.

I know exactly who I am and how I love. Finding that same alignment in someone else is just the challenge right now. That’s where I’m at. ️‍

Now, it's finding the right one to join in this next adventure with us.

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