I want men to stop giving women advice that's like "If you get hit on in an inappropriate place / situation you need to be blunt!
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@Robo105 @Mab_813 first of all thank you for the apology, I appreciate that. I think where a lot of the sort of decent men who _wouldn't_ attack a woman go wrong in imagining these scenarios is picturing themselves as the bystander who would help a woman if asked without demanding anything in return. But you need to be picturing yourselves as the woman instead. You know you're safe, but she has no way of knowing that. Only a minority of men are likely to be dangerous, but without any way of predicting whether any random man like yourself is one of them it's a dangerous gamble for her to take.
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@Robo105 @Mab_813 first of all thank you for the apology, I appreciate that. I think where a lot of the sort of decent men who _wouldn't_ attack a woman go wrong in imagining these scenarios is picturing themselves as the bystander who would help a woman if asked without demanding anything in return. But you need to be picturing yourselves as the woman instead. You know you're safe, but she has no way of knowing that. Only a minority of men are likely to be dangerous, but without any way of predicting whether any random man like yourself is one of them it's a dangerous gamble for her to take.
@afewbugs @Mab_813 I have to agree that men and women live in different worlds and sadly for women it is a much more dangerous world. I think another response provided a much better answer than I did.
"If you see a woman potentially in distress or about to be in a distressing situation go & politely ask if everything is fine & make sure you know all the hidden signals for an SOS." -
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Sure, because just by looking around we can automatically tell who will help us vs. who will help our (potential) attacker
.If you see a woman potentially in distress or about to be in a distressing situation go & politely ask if everything is fine & make sure you know all the hidden signals for an SOS.
It's on men to stop making victims, never the otherway round.
You wouldn't tell a child that they shouldn't have been alone with their uncle after they've been raped by that uncle would you?
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@afewbugs @Mab_813 I have to agree that men and women live in different worlds and sadly for women it is a much more dangerous world. I think another response provided a much better answer than I did.
"If you see a woman potentially in distress or about to be in a distressing situation go & politely ask if everything is fine & make sure you know all the hidden signals for an SOS."@Robo105 @Mab_813 I don't know if you saw this post about men and women inhabiting different worlds, but it seems to have been quite an eye opener for many https://mastodon.world/@davidnjoku/113436907872665984
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