If you have to do or participate in something in order to survive, it's not a privilege, right?
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@celestestormysea moreover, this extrapolation treats trans women as inherently being men simply because of the way they are perceived, disregarding that they are not, in fact, men, and that they had to sacrifice and perform in order to pretend to be men. They didn't receive those benefits because of who they are, but because of what they sacrificed.
@revoluciana What you are taking issue with, is the very concept itself
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@revoluciana
Why Are AMAB trans people denied the closet? by Julia Serano@bri7 appreciated. Yup. I already put that in this thread in a reply earlier and also shared it with the person I'm arguing with IRL. But yes, absolutely relevant.
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@revoluciana Examine what the problems of the concept are, and frame them
@celestestormysea I'm not sure what you mean by this comment.
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@revoluciana What you are taking issue with, is the very concept itself
@revoluciana Also, it should be said,
If a trans person is not always treated with male privilege, then the male privilege itself is conditional. That is part of what makes it so cruel. It is conditional because it was designed to reinforce a system where if you step out of line you are punished. Our genocide is a symptom of it
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@revoluciana Also, it should be said,
If a trans person is not always treated with male privilege, then the male privilege itself is conditional. That is part of what makes it so cruel. It is conditional because it was designed to reinforce a system where if you step out of line you are punished. Our genocide is a symptom of it
@revoluciana Either privilege is always conditional, Male Privilege is not a privilege it is something else, or the concept of Male Privilege is not coherent.
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@celestestormysea under this definition, if a cis woman works really hard and sacrifices in order to obtain the same benefits, then she is receiving male privilege. That doesn't square up for me.
@revoluciana @celestestormysea consider a butch lesbian who passes as male in order to keep her and her femme girlfriend safe (this was common in the 20th century), the whole point of doing that is to obtain privilege for survival, it doesn't mean she's fundamentally a man, that's not how privilege works
when I was pre-transition there's no question I received *some* level of (reduced) privilege just for being seen as male, compared to how society treats me now. it was never the same as a man receives becuse on some level they know we are different and we can't perform maleness the way a man does. but it's just not so simple as saying I was not treated differently before, and it doesn't reflect on my true nature at all, it was mere coincidence. privilege should be seen as a material factor and not anything to do with identity, and where it intersects passing as something you're not, it's always extremely complex and nuanced. for me, the takeaway of these experiences isn't "I never experienced even the slightest misplaced privilege" but "yeah I did, and that's fucked up and masculinism should be destroyed so this doesn't happen anymore" -
@revoluciana What you are taking issue with, is the very concept itself
@celestestormysea in what sense?
I take issue with the idea that a person who is not a man can experience male privilege, especially given how much they have to sacrifice in order to get something.
In any other context, we don't say a person of color experiences white privilege when they sacrifice in order to achieve or obtain a thing typically afforded to white people through white privilege.
We don't say cis women experience male privilege when they sacrifice in order to achieve or obtain a thing typically afforded to men through male privilege.
We don't say gay people experience straight privilege when they sacrifice in order to achieve or obtain a thing typically afforded to straight people through straight privilege-- even when the gay person is stealth or in the closet.
But when it's trans women sacrificing and we happen to obtain something, we're just men experiencing male privilege.
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Here's what I'm getting at.
Trans women don't experience male privilege before coming out. It's not a privilege if you have to sacrifice everything you are in order to obtain it. And in the case of trans women, we don't even sacrifice who we are in order to obtain male privilege, we do it just to survive. I'm having such a difficult time believing it's privilege when it's bought and paid for, especially at such a high price.
I think there is a privilege, not for everyone, I was fortunate to be in both male and female perceived spaces all my life ... Like being a fly on the wall
It was interesting ... But also one would need to be observant and love watching body language
Hugz & xXx
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Here's what I'm getting at.
Trans women don't experience male privilege before coming out. It's not a privilege if you have to sacrifice everything you are in order to obtain it. And in the case of trans women, we don't even sacrifice who we are in order to obtain male privilege, we do it just to survive. I'm having such a difficult time believing it's privilege when it's bought and paid for, especially at such a high price.
@revoluciana I think it's still privilege even if the requirements for receiving it are a heavy burden. Like a prince who doesn't want to be king still gets all the privilege. I agree with everything else you said, I just disagree that paying for a privilege means it isn't a privilege. A trans woman masking as a cis man is certainly onerous, but they'd still get the social benefits that males do. That doesn't subtract from the constant trauma it causes, though, or even remotely compensates.
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@revoluciana Either privilege is always conditional, Male Privilege is not a privilege it is something else, or the concept of Male Privilege is not coherent.
@revoluciana If someone uses Male Privilege in order to dismiss sacrifices it is creating a new semantic use as a way of dismissing instead of using it as a term for a sociological phenomena.
If someone says that they have sacrificed so it is wrong to say they have Male Privilege it would likewise be a new semantic use that dismisses the sociological phenomena.
The original definition and semantic use as crafted. Would suggest that Male Privilege must simultaneously exist as a complex sociological phenomena alongside other things instead of being used as a cudgel outside its originated context.
It is a term as defined originally that is meant to explore how a set of conditional benefits exploits and harms many people to reinforce a Patriarchal System.
If trans people have Male Privilege as originally defined, it would follow that trans people are being harmed when they have Male Privilege and that the term could be used to label and explore that harm.
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Here's what I'm getting at.
Trans women don't experience male privilege before coming out. It's not a privilege if you have to sacrifice everything you are in order to obtain it. And in the case of trans women, we don't even sacrifice who we are in order to obtain male privilege, we do it just to survive. I'm having such a difficult time believing it's privilege when it's bought and paid for, especially at such a high price.
I know people are trying to explain something to me with nuance, and I'm truly not trying to be a jerk, but all I keep hearing is that the violence we experience as trans women is actually privilege. But not just any privilege, but specifically male privilege. Because we are men. Or at least because people think we are. Which is its own privilege. And we should be so privileged to live through this violence in order to get *benefits* that make our lives easier (at this point we disregard the violence).
I'm just not buying it. Having the effects of our literal torture, self sacrifice, and violence called privilege is just not making its way to me.
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@revoluciana If someone uses Male Privilege in order to dismiss sacrifices it is creating a new semantic use as a way of dismissing instead of using it as a term for a sociological phenomena.
If someone says that they have sacrificed so it is wrong to say they have Male Privilege it would likewise be a new semantic use that dismisses the sociological phenomena.
The original definition and semantic use as crafted. Would suggest that Male Privilege must simultaneously exist as a complex sociological phenomena alongside other things instead of being used as a cudgel outside its originated context.
It is a term as defined originally that is meant to explore how a set of conditional benefits exploits and harms many people to reinforce a Patriarchal System.
If trans people have Male Privilege as originally defined, it would follow that trans people are being harmed when they have Male Privilege and that the term could be used to label and explore that harm.
@revoluciana "I had Male Privilege, here is how it harmed me" is correct
"You had Male Privilege? It must of all been sunshine and daisies for you! You can't speak of the harm in my feminist space" is an incorrect use that is inherently counter to feminism and a common tactic of fascists
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@revoluciana "I had Male Privilege, here is how it harmed me" is correct
"You had Male Privilege? It must of all been sunshine and daisies for you! You can't speak of the harm in my feminist space" is an incorrect use that is inherently counter to feminism and a common tactic of fascists
@celestestormysea this line of thought still isn't clicking for me, but is a different perspective and I appreciate the effort to help me see what others are seeing. I'm going to head to sleep and consider this line of thought tomorrow. Thank you for this.
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I know people are trying to explain something to me with nuance, and I'm truly not trying to be a jerk, but all I keep hearing is that the violence we experience as trans women is actually privilege. But not just any privilege, but specifically male privilege. Because we are men. Or at least because people think we are. Which is its own privilege. And we should be so privileged to live through this violence in order to get *benefits* that make our lives easier (at this point we disregard the violence).
I'm just not buying it. Having the effects of our literal torture, self sacrifice, and violence called privilege is just not making its way to me.
I'm going to go to sleep now and mull over this some more tomorrow.
Thank you to everyone trying to help me see what I don't see and/or engaging with what I do see.
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@revoluciana "I had Male Privilege, here is how it harmed me" is correct
"You had Male Privilege? It must of all been sunshine and daisies for you! You can't speak of the harm in my feminist space" is an incorrect use that is inherently counter to feminism and a common tactic of fascists
@revoluciana If someone wanted to run a feminist space focusing solely on a specific perspective that would be an act of exclusivity that could produce productive conversations only if it then confers with and integrates other feminist views, and, does not gatekeep Feminism. Feminism includes a lot, is not its parts, it is its whole. That is what it means to be Holistic and Intersectional
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@bri7 appreciated. Yup. I already put that in this thread in a reply earlier and also shared it with the person I'm arguing with IRL. But yes, absolutely relevant.
@revoluciana i just feel like it’s the final word: do people go around asking gay people how great all that straight passing privilege was?
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I know people are trying to explain something to me with nuance, and I'm truly not trying to be a jerk, but all I keep hearing is that the violence we experience as trans women is actually privilege. But not just any privilege, but specifically male privilege. Because we are men. Or at least because people think we are. Which is its own privilege. And we should be so privileged to live through this violence in order to get *benefits* that make our lives easier (at this point we disregard the violence).
I'm just not buying it. Having the effects of our literal torture, self sacrifice, and violence called privilege is just not making its way to me.
@revoluciana This is what I said earlier:
"If you dare call the first 17 years of my life a 'privilege,' in which I was brainwashed into being someone I'm not, in which that life systematically ate away and destroyed my insides and took years to rebuild, and in which I lived under crippling levels of self-hatred and shame, you can take a 10 mile hike straight into the November waters of Lake Superior..."
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I know people are trying to explain something to me with nuance, and I'm truly not trying to be a jerk, but all I keep hearing is that the violence we experience as trans women is actually privilege. But not just any privilege, but specifically male privilege. Because we are men. Or at least because people think we are. Which is its own privilege. And we should be so privileged to live through this violence in order to get *benefits* that make our lives easier (at this point we disregard the violence).
I'm just not buying it. Having the effects of our literal torture, self sacrifice, and violence called privilege is just not making its way to me.
@revoluciana I think it is necessary to separate out the male privilege from the lack of privilege from being transgender. It is not an either or - you can suffer greatly being "a man" but you can still have male privilege.
Will you suffer more misogyny as a man or a woman? You have privilege in not suffering that as a man - even if you are cosplaying the role. So being a man has a level of privilege.
Remember here we are talking about what society perceives you as not what you feel necessarily.
It doesn't matter that it makes you feel bad in other ways. We are the SUM of all our privileges.
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R relay@relay.infosec.exchange shared this topic
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@revoluciana If someone wanted to run a feminist space focusing solely on a specific perspective that would be an act of exclusivity that could produce productive conversations only if it then confers with and integrates other feminist views, and, does not gatekeep Feminism. Feminism includes a lot, is not its parts, it is its whole. That is what it means to be Holistic and Intersectional
@revoluciana What bothers me and many others is the tendency in feminist spaces to consider male / female or women / men along the binary dichotomy, that is Cisgender Privilege in the sense that to be able to only ever think in that binary one has to have never been challenged by it or have agreed to it despite its conditionality. And it is especially harmful to be denied consideration as male / female or women / men when someone has it as part of their experience. Spaces like these are inherently exclusionary and non-intersectional. They perpetuate harms that Feminism is meant to counter
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Here's what I'm getting at.
Trans women don't experience male privilege before coming out. It's not a privilege if you have to sacrifice everything you are in order to obtain it. And in the case of trans women, we don't even sacrifice who we are in order to obtain male privilege, we do it just to survive. I'm having such a difficult time believing it's privilege when it's bought and paid for, especially at such a high price.
@revoluciana does anyone have privilege then, by that reasoning? The men trapped by the patriarchy, forced to play the role of a modern "alpha" male? Just like us, they too have to suppress part of who they are, just to a lesser extent.
I moved through the world, where presenting male (if only weakly) made doors open that I'm far less sure they would these days. That was a privilege, as far as I see it, now that I finally see it. Privilege, albeit at a wretched cost.
