This post has mostly been written in my voice, other than a few minor tweaks.
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This post has mostly been written in my voice, other than a few minor tweaks. I will post the finished product in the next post in this thread. In it, I explain why it took me so long to come forward with my ethnographic research, and I also outline some of the confusion that online peers faced when meeting Rosie in person. This ChatGPT conversation shows what it looks like when I put a post drafted solely in my own voice into the app and tell it to only make minor edits. Here's how that looks and what happens when I do that.
https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
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Some people wonder why it took me so long to come forward with my ethnographic work. One of the biggest reasons was that I write about coercive control and how coercion can play out in social spaces and professional spaces, but when I tried to do this, it looked to some people like I was trashing religion, including the religion of my birth. For the record, my goal is not to trash any particular organization, religion, or any political or government organization. Groups can be high control, but individuals can also exhibit high control behaviors. Excess control and coercion can appear in any area of life. This is not something that just one segment of a nation’s population can encounter. It is something that everyone in the world can encounter, and if coercion goes too far, it can inhibit civil and even human rights. (1/3)
But it goes even deeper than that, friends. When you are studying a given group, you have to abide by that group’s norms in order to have access to group privileges and resources. This meant that sometimes I had to adapt my behavior in ways that were different from how I normally show up in my personal life when interacting in virtual spaces. In order to complete my ethnographic studies, I had to meet some of the more pivotal folks involved with my research in person. I wasn’t just meeting close friends. I was meeting people in their extended social networks who did not know me as well as the people with which I was collaborating. In those instances, I was expected to behave the same way I did online in person, but that was not the primary goal of my visit. My goal was to clarify elements of my project that were more safely discussed in person. Ethnographic research can become so deep that it is simply not safe to discuss all elements of my research, study, and projects in online spaces. That said, one unforeseen result is that there was some confusion among virtual peers of mine. They felt like they did not get the version of Rosie that they had signed up for. This was further made difficult by the fact that I was out of touch with people from my family and those who knew me well enough in person to provide grounding context while I was performing deep research. (2/3)
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This post has mostly been written in my voice, other than a few minor tweaks. I will post the finished product in the next post in this thread. In it, I explain why it took me so long to come forward with my ethnographic research, and I also outline some of the confusion that online peers faced when meeting Rosie in person. This ChatGPT conversation shows what it looks like when I put a post drafted solely in my own voice into the app and tell it to only make minor edits. Here's how that looks and what happens when I do that.
https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
Some people wonder why it took me so long to come forward with my ethnographic work. One of the biggest reasons was that I write about coercive control and how coercion can play out in social spaces and professional spaces, but when I tried to do this, it looked to some people like I was trashing religion, including the religion of my birth. For the record, my goal is not to trash any particular organization, religion, or any political or government organization. Groups can be high control, but individuals can also exhibit high control behaviors. Excess control and coercion can appear in any area of life. This is not something that just one segment of a nation’s population can encounter. It is something that everyone in the world can encounter, and if coercion goes too far, it can inhibit civil and even human rights. (1/3)
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But it goes even deeper than that, friends. When you are studying a given group, you have to abide by that group’s norms in order to have access to group privileges and resources. This meant that sometimes I had to adapt my behavior in ways that were different from how I normally show up in my personal life when interacting in virtual spaces. In order to complete my ethnographic studies, I had to meet some of the more pivotal folks involved with my research in person. I wasn’t just meeting close friends. I was meeting people in their extended social networks who did not know me as well as the people with which I was collaborating. In those instances, I was expected to behave the same way I did online in person, but that was not the primary goal of my visit. My goal was to clarify elements of my project that were more safely discussed in person. Ethnographic research can become so deep that it is simply not safe to discuss all elements of my research, study, and projects in online spaces. That said, one unforeseen result is that there was some confusion among virtual peers of mine. They felt like they did not get the version of Rosie that they had signed up for. This was further made difficult by the fact that I was out of touch with people from my family and those who knew me well enough in person to provide grounding context while I was performing deep research. (2/3)
When some people found out that I was behaving online in ways which contradicted my true and offline personality, the question I was often asked was, “Why not just be yourself?” The truth is, it can be difficult to be yourself when groups are enforcing social norms and endorsing behaviors which go against your authentic personality. In that case, I had to adhere to the group norms to complete my study. I did so in ways which I hoped would allow me to maintain my authentic personality, but some people felt that my authentic personality was not maintained during my research. They assert that I went too far off on a tangent. Other people felt like I was too serious all the time. If you know me in real life, you know that I have both a bright and bubbly side and a serious side, and I take equal ownership of either side of my personality. The difficulty with online spaces is that sometimes people only saw my serious side and not my bubbly side, and on the contrary, some people only saw my bubbly side and not my serious side.
This is not an apology post. It is simply a clarification for interested ones in what types of challenges I faced when doing sociological and ethnographic research in which my life was a part of my collection of case studies. I appreciate any specific feedback on the changes in my writing style and welcome productive discussion. (3/3)
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This post has mostly been written in my voice, other than a few minor tweaks. I will post the finished product in the next post in this thread. In it, I explain why it took me so long to come forward with my ethnographic research, and I also outline some of the confusion that online peers faced when meeting Rosie in person. This ChatGPT conversation shows what it looks like when I put a post drafted solely in my own voice into the app and tell it to only make minor edits. Here's how that looks and what happens when I do that.
https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
This post was just posted on my Rosie Facebook, so it goes to my parents, Jehovah's Witnesses, and people who have known me since I was born. It was written with a real line and offer line audience in mind. On Facebook, it is friends only. On Mastodon, I see no reason to restrict its privacy.
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When some people found out that I was behaving online in ways which contradicted my true and offline personality, the question I was often asked was, “Why not just be yourself?” The truth is, it can be difficult to be yourself when groups are enforcing social norms and endorsing behaviors which go against your authentic personality. In that case, I had to adhere to the group norms to complete my study. I did so in ways which I hoped would allow me to maintain my authentic personality, but some people felt that my authentic personality was not maintained during my research. They assert that I went too far off on a tangent. Other people felt like I was too serious all the time. If you know me in real life, you know that I have both a bright and bubbly side and a serious side, and I take equal ownership of either side of my personality. The difficulty with online spaces is that sometimes people only saw my serious side and not my bubbly side, and on the contrary, some people only saw my bubbly side and not my serious side.
This is not an apology post. It is simply a clarification for interested ones in what types of challenges I faced when doing sociological and ethnographic research in which my life was a part of my collection of case studies. I appreciate any specific feedback on the changes in my writing style and welcome productive discussion. (3/3)
Question from readers: Why couldn't you just show us your bubbly side instead of your serious side?
Answer: I actually tried that for 20 years. The results were Rosie getting nicknames like "airhead," "ditzy," "blonde," and "Barbie." Those of you who know Rosie in real life would understand how insulting it would have felt to me to be called an "airhead" and things similar to that nature. Those who only knew me online were completely missing that context. They gave me nicknames as jokes, but at the root of those jokes were a dismissal of Rosie's capabilities and abilities. These assumptions grew with her, even when she tried to outgrow the group norms that were expected of her in these cases.
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This post has mostly been written in my voice, other than a few minor tweaks. I will post the finished product in the next post in this thread. In it, I explain why it took me so long to come forward with my ethnographic research, and I also outline some of the confusion that online peers faced when meeting Rosie in person. This ChatGPT conversation shows what it looks like when I put a post drafted solely in my own voice into the app and tell it to only make minor edits. Here's how that looks and what happens when I do that.
https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
@Rosalyn 404 not found unfortunately.
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This post has mostly been written in my voice, other than a few minor tweaks. I will post the finished product in the next post in this thread. In it, I explain why it took me so long to come forward with my ethnographic research, and I also outline some of the confusion that online peers faced when meeting Rosie in person. This ChatGPT conversation shows what it looks like when I put a post drafted solely in my own voice into the app and tell it to only make minor edits. Here's how that looks and what happens when I do that.
https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
@Rosalyn 404 Not Found
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@Rosalyn 404 Not Found
@adisonverlice I think because I later added to that conversation, here's the newly generated link. https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
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@Rosalyn 404 not found unfortunately.
@mcourcel I think because I later added on to the conversation, I updated the link, but try this. https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
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@adisonverlice I think because I later added to that conversation, here's the newly generated link. https://chatgpt.com/share/69b349e4-ddb0-800d-b4c1-17a0cbedb5ea
@Rosalyn same error. unhandled thrown response: 404 not found
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@Rosalyn same error. unhandled thrown response: 404 not found
@Rosalyn did you ever click make the link public?
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@Rosalyn did you ever click make the link public?
@adisonverlice I don't see an option to do that on iOS. It looks like it should already be public based on the view that's showing for me.
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