If you start thinking about the ways Candice Owens and Oprah are similar you will at first be mad at me for bringing this up (how dare) however there is more there than I think we might like.
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If you start thinking about the ways Candice Owens and Oprah are similar you will at first be mad at me for bringing this up (how dare) however there is more there than I think we might like.
Specifically their audience. Oprah has aged with her greatest fans, and become a lot more tame. Candice Owens fans of today would have been watching Oprah, Dr. Phil and others way back when.
And for some reason everyone forgets all of the more exploitative episodes Oprah had. Always with that "understanding psychology" and compassion angle.
"How to identify a Psychopath" and other unscientific BS.
It's the same genre of media. One that will never die.
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And for some reason everyone forgets all of the more exploitative episodes Oprah had. Always with that "understanding psychology" and compassion angle.
"How to identify a Psychopath" and other unscientific BS.
It's the same genre of media. One that will never die.
@futurebird i hope it does die. Oprah is pretty terrible. remember how she supported Tipper Gore's music censorship campaign.
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And for some reason everyone forgets all of the more exploitative episodes Oprah had. Always with that "understanding psychology" and compassion angle.
"How to identify a Psychopath" and other unscientific BS.
It's the same genre of media. One that will never die.
@futurebird behind the bastards podcast did a 6 parter on oprah. josef mengele only got a 4 parter
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And for some reason everyone forgets all of the more exploitative episodes Oprah had. Always with that "understanding psychology" and compassion angle.
"How to identify a Psychopath" and other unscientific BS.
It's the same genre of media. One that will never die.
To be clear Oprah's audience was always white women in the stage of their life from post teen-aged years but before their kids grew up. She talk about marriages and relationships in a serious way and centered their concerns. She talked about famous people through this lens and dished gossip.
Owens is doing something similar.
Her fans think she's "so loving and compassionate" wild, right?
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To be clear Oprah's audience was always white women in the stage of their life from post teen-aged years but before their kids grew up. She talk about marriages and relationships in a serious way and centered their concerns. She talked about famous people through this lens and dished gossip.
Owens is doing something similar.
Her fans think she's "so loving and compassionate" wild, right?
There is a kind of division in "news" where stories about relationships, engagements, infidelity etc. are classed as "not real news" -- but, people care immensely about this information.
If you are a woman who has allowed your position in society to be defined by your relationship to men the norms and morality implied by such stories have material consequences.
But, it's sidelined by "serious news" as "news for women" gossip.
And because of this it becomes like the description.
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There is a kind of division in "news" where stories about relationships, engagements, infidelity etc. are classed as "not real news" -- but, people care immensely about this information.
If you are a woman who has allowed your position in society to be defined by your relationship to men the norms and morality implied by such stories have material consequences.
But, it's sidelined by "serious news" as "news for women" gossip.
And because of this it becomes like the description.
I've always personally found all of that kind of information tiresome. But, this is due to my own socialization.
"Will this man who has been unfaithful be held accountable?" becomes a very important question if you are serious about living a "trad wife" lifestyle. It's not just titillating information, it's a critical systems update to the rules that can govern your life.
What would sober, serious, verified "relationship news" look like? Can such a thing exist? IDK.
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There is a kind of division in "news" where stories about relationships, engagements, infidelity etc. are classed as "not real news" -- but, people care immensely about this information.
If you are a woman who has allowed your position in society to be defined by your relationship to men the norms and morality implied by such stories have material consequences.
But, it's sidelined by "serious news" as "news for women" gossip.
And because of this it becomes like the description.
Interesting perspective, thanks.
Not sure how it could be done rightly, though - as you point, the garbage women are currently fed isn't it. -
I've always personally found all of that kind of information tiresome. But, this is due to my own socialization.
"Will this man who has been unfaithful be held accountable?" becomes a very important question if you are serious about living a "trad wife" lifestyle. It's not just titillating information, it's a critical systems update to the rules that can govern your life.
What would sober, serious, verified "relationship news" look like? Can such a thing exist? IDK.
Does "relationship news" have to be a gossip filled rumor infested trash heap?
Maybe?
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Interesting perspective, thanks.
Not sure how it could be done rightly, though - as you point, the garbage women are currently fed isn't it.We've been living through a deeply reactionary moment. But a reaction to what? The first Black president? Maybe. But I don't think we can discount the momentum of "me too" -- This idea that every man, even the powerful, might be held accountable for their treatment of women and girls (even 'unimportant' women) made some people very very angry. (and also scared they could be next)
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Does "relationship news" have to be a gossip filled rumor infested trash heap?
Maybe?
@futurebird it's one way to make it interesting.
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If you start thinking about the ways Candice Owens and Oprah are similar you will at first be mad at me for bringing this up (how dare) however there is more there than I think we might like.
Specifically their audience. Oprah has aged with her greatest fans, and become a lot more tame. Candice Owens fans of today would have been watching Oprah, Dr. Phil and others way back when.
@futurebird
Behind the Bastards series on Oprah was absolutely fascinating -
We've been living through a deeply reactionary moment. But a reaction to what? The first Black president? Maybe. But I don't think we can discount the momentum of "me too" -- This idea that every man, even the powerful, might be held accountable for their treatment of women and girls (even 'unimportant' women) made some people very very angry. (and also scared they could be next)
I keep thinking about how one of the reasons Epstein was not prosecuted in FL more seriously was due to the opposition research on his victims done by Alan Dershowitz . And Dershowitz was able to point to FL law that said that a teen, a 14 year old, could be charged with prostitution.
That is the conflict in our laws and values. A rich powerful man who gives a child pocket change to exploit her is a criminal. But we also regard the child as a criminal. It's monstrous.
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Does "relationship news" have to be a gossip filled rumor infested trash heap?
Maybe?
@futurebird wasn't it the whole point of Entertainment Tonight? news about famous people getting divorced?
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If you start thinking about the ways Candice Owens and Oprah are similar you will at first be mad at me for bringing this up (how dare) however there is more there than I think we might like.
Specifically their audience. Oprah has aged with her greatest fans, and become a lot more tame. Candice Owens fans of today would have been watching Oprah, Dr. Phil and others way back when.
@futurebird whenever i think about Oprah i think about how while promoting The Birdcage, she was interviewing Nathan Lane and seemed to be attempting to out him as being gay (at the time an open secret in Hollywood, but still not that publicly acceptable in 1992)
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I keep thinking about how one of the reasons Epstein was not prosecuted in FL more seriously was due to the opposition research on his victims done by Alan Dershowitz . And Dershowitz was able to point to FL law that said that a teen, a 14 year old, could be charged with prostitution.
That is the conflict in our laws and values. A rich powerful man who gives a child pocket change to exploit her is a criminal. But we also regard the child as a criminal. It's monstrous.
I was walking in the rain through the south Bronx a few days ago. I ducked into Burger King just to get out of the weather and many of the teens from the local schools had the same idea.
The place was packed with teens. One girl stood out to me. She was smoking a blunt. (!) and holding court for a group of boys, young men and teens. She had an adorable outfit, but not one that I'd let any teen walk around in if I had any say in it.
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@futurebird behind the bastards podcast did a 6 parter on oprah. josef mengele only got a 4 parter
@mensrea @futurebird it's a complex listen. oprah is at times very sympathetic, doing the right thing and all, but the harm she caused is still clearly immense
somehoe even here she's comparible to candice. candice used to position herself as a progressive. she fought for actually good things. i can't remember what exactly, but her far-right turn was substantial. guess when a charismatic and influential person gets sucked down a rabbit hole they make it everyone's problem
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I was walking in the rain through the south Bronx a few days ago. I ducked into Burger King just to get out of the weather and many of the teens from the local schools had the same idea.
The place was packed with teens. One girl stood out to me. She was smoking a blunt. (!) and holding court for a group of boys, young men and teens. She had an adorable outfit, but not one that I'd let any teen walk around in if I had any say in it.
I was deeply disgusted with her. Scared for her as well. Almost to the point that I wanted to say something "do you really want to be visible in this way?" She seemed very happy in her moment. Thrilled with the attention, with breaking the rules by smoking, I'm certain she felt in control of her life and bright and powerful.
I also think she was very clearly on a very fast track to a very bad place.
But, why am I so judgemental of her? She's an obnoxious teen, this is not a crime.
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I was deeply disgusted with her. Scared for her as well. Almost to the point that I wanted to say something "do you really want to be visible in this way?" She seemed very happy in her moment. Thrilled with the attention, with breaking the rules by smoking, I'm certain she felt in control of her life and bright and powerful.
I also think she was very clearly on a very fast track to a very bad place.
But, why am I so judgemental of her? She's an obnoxious teen, this is not a crime.
I can only hope there is someone in her life that will help to keep her safe.
But, that doesn't change the fact that children can become disposable once labeled "fast" or "trouble makers"
Why should that be the case? Shouldn't the bad choices they make be opportunities to learn and grow?
Instead we teach our daughters "never be like that, because then no one will believe or protect you"
This is practical advice. Pragmatic. Depressing.
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Does "relationship news" have to be a gossip filled rumor infested trash heap?
Maybe?
@futurebird In my experience, yes.
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I can only hope there is someone in her life that will help to keep her safe.
But, that doesn't change the fact that children can become disposable once labeled "fast" or "trouble makers"
Why should that be the case? Shouldn't the bad choices they make be opportunities to learn and grow?
Instead we teach our daughters "never be like that, because then no one will believe or protect you"
This is practical advice. Pragmatic. Depressing.
As I left the Burger King I passed two men in their 40s near the door who were watching the teens like a pair of sharks. Chuckling to each other. Just like in that famous video of the president and Jeffery. The same body posture, knowing looks and pointing.
I looked one in the eye.
"There are a lot of kids here. Do you work at the school?"
They sobered up quickly to this. To the fact that I'd noticed them.
"No no, these kids are crazy."
"Do you know them?"
"No no no."
