I woke up still pondering @girlonthenet's lamentation (I think; https://mastodon.social/@girlonthenet/116353766078817354), that while lots of people enjoy her sex blog, few people boost her toots about it.
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If you have got this far, perhaps you would welcome some suggestions for fedizens who I follow, who post sex-related stuff.
@girlonthenet: the queen of text and audio smut, with multiple books under her belt too.
@mindpersephone: short form text, often sci-fi and genderqueer.
@JenJen: beautiful hand drawn smut, interspersed with rants about Linux.
@alice: more lockpicking than smut, but smut is there, and especially #AltAfterDark.
Newer to me:
@Jaimieserotica: a relatively new blogger, with a mix of fiction and non-fiction (I think!)
@GoingDownWithSundial: another relatively new smut blogger, also touching on neurodiversity
(And, look, I apologise in advance for the people who I will inevitably omit by accident; it is not personal, I am simply fallible. I have not included people who post nudes because that doesn't necessarily mean "sexual".
By all means add your own suggestions / your own blog / self-promotion.)
@neil
@girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica@innocentlb long-time blogger, gentle, introspective smut
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idk if being blocked by a server is such a big deal tbh. I would personally prefer to freely engage with the people I'm interested in, rather than hold off for fear that some unknown corner of the internet admined by puritans might not get to see my posts.
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@alexisbushnell
Hosting social media while British, a prosecutable offense...That's truly sad and I can see why someone who hosts a server would think about those considerations, but as a user I don't think posting adult content is prosecutable in the UK yet, is it? Provided the adult content is consensual, not stolen, etc.
Maybe having an alt account in a non-British server for the adult stuff could be an option, while keeping the local community posts in the British servers? -
If you have got this far, perhaps you would welcome some suggestions for fedizens who I follow, who post sex-related stuff.
@girlonthenet: the queen of text and audio smut, with multiple books under her belt too.
@mindpersephone: short form text, often sci-fi and genderqueer.
@JenJen: beautiful hand drawn smut, interspersed with rants about Linux.
@alice: more lockpicking than smut, but smut is there, and especially #AltAfterDark.
Newer to me:
@Jaimieserotica: a relatively new blogger, with a mix of fiction and non-fiction (I think!)
@GoingDownWithSundial: another relatively new smut blogger, also touching on neurodiversity
(And, look, I apologise in advance for the people who I will inevitably omit by accident; it is not personal, I am simply fallible. I have not included people who post nudes because that doesn't necessarily mean "sexual".
By all means add your own suggestions / your own blog / self-promotion.)
@neil @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial I'd say if all these creators use the right hashtags in their toots, they will reach a wider audience even without many retoots. That is the beauty of the fediverse.
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@neil @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial I'd say if all these creators use the right hashtags in their toots, they will reach a wider audience even without many retoots. That is the beauty of the fediverse.
@Nehalenia @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial
Hashtags can help, a bit (not much, in my experience, but more than zero), but I think that the concern here is about *human participation* and boosting, rather than simply about "reach" / readability.
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@Nehalenia @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial
Hashtags can help, a bit (not much, in my experience, but more than zero), but I think that the concern here is about *human participation* and boosting, rather than simply about "reach" / readability.
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I suspect that it comes down to a mix of:
* stigma about sex as pleasure / being embarrassed about what others here might think
* concerns relating to professional expectations and obligations
* sex as being in the sphere of one's private life
I can understand each of these, and why they might lead to a "like" rather than a "boost".
None of them inhibit paying or tipping someone, as a thank you for their work though, which is another way of being supportive.
@neil There's also just a general culture where people feel oddly 'nervous' about interacting with content producers and don't seem to understand, no matter how many times you explicitly say it, that we really want positive feedback. That posting into a void that never responds is really depressing, even if you know some people are reading.
Yet they don't feel self-conscious at all about making criticisms
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@neil There's also just a general culture where people feel oddly 'nervous' about interacting with content producers and don't seem to understand, no matter how many times you explicitly say it, that we really want positive feedback. That posting into a void that never responds is really depressing, even if you know some people are reading.
Yet they don't feel self-conscious at all about making criticisms
️@rubyjones Oh, goodness, yes, excellent point.
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@Nehalenia @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial
Hashtags can help, a bit (not much, in my experience, but more than zero), but I think that the concern here is about *human participation* and boosting, rather than simply about "reach" / readability.
@neil @Nehalenia @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial Yeah, this very much misses the point. It's about people not expressing appreciation rather than the person producing the content failing to do the obvious things that would increase reach.
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@neil
@girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica@innocentlb long-time blogger, gentle, introspective smut
@GoingDownWithSundial @neil @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica
@robyneatseverything - formerly prolific sex blogger, still a wealth of content out there
@carolynaluna - mesophile, moongirl, soft and sensuous
@carasutra - still putting stuff out there
@Septimus - former Herald of Dongs, also got me into Bluesky early
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@neil @girlonthenet @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial thank you Neil!
And welcome to the new folk following. Don't worry, I won't be offended if you see a few of my posts and decide I'm not for you and unfollow. I'm not everyones cup of tea.@mindpersephone but you are an excellent, spicy cup of tea
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@GoingDownWithSundial @neil @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica
@robyneatseverything - formerly prolific sex blogger, still a wealth of content out there
@carolynaluna - mesophile, moongirl, soft and sensuous
@carasutra - still putting stuff out there
@Septimus - former Herald of Dongs, also got me into Bluesky early
@innocentlb @GoingDownWithSundial @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @robyneatseverything @carolynaluna @carasutra @Septimus
I knew that I'd forget people
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@innocentlb @GoingDownWithSundial @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @robyneatseverything @carolynaluna @carasutra @Septimus
I knew that I'd forget people
@neil always the way with recommendations - thank you for doing them anyway!
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@innocentlb @GoingDownWithSundial @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @robyneatseverything @carolynaluna @carasutra @Septimus
I knew that I'd forget people
@neil it's just good of you to open this up in the first place!
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Hmm... I wonder (I told you that I was pondering!) if there is an added factor here, of the fedi demographic: of older people, perhaps especially men (don't laugh), being self-aware of engaging with younger adults posting sex-related stuff, and coming across as creepy. Perhaps?
@neil I think this is a big part of it for me. I follow some of the people you've tagged, and I've purchased (non-NSFW) artwork from at least one of them, but I would be very wary of highlighting NSFW material from anyone, especially younger than me, in case it was misconstrued.
There is also a part of me that thinks, even though none of my patients are likely to find me here, what they might think if they saw their doctor boosting that sort of material.
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If you have got this far, perhaps you would welcome some suggestions for fedizens who I follow, who post sex-related stuff.
@girlonthenet: the queen of text and audio smut, with multiple books under her belt too.
@mindpersephone: short form text, often sci-fi and genderqueer.
@JenJen: beautiful hand drawn smut, interspersed with rants about Linux.
@alice: more lockpicking than smut, but smut is there, and especially #AltAfterDark.
Newer to me:
@Jaimieserotica: a relatively new blogger, with a mix of fiction and non-fiction (I think!)
@GoingDownWithSundial: another relatively new smut blogger, also touching on neurodiversity
(And, look, I apologise in advance for the people who I will inevitably omit by accident; it is not personal, I am simply fallible. I have not included people who post nudes because that doesn't necessarily mean "sexual".
By all means add your own suggestions / your own blog / self-promotion.)
@neil @girlonthenet @mindpersephone @JenJen @alice @Jaimieserotica @GoingDownWithSundial for me it's risk of a negative response from parents. I am a Scout leader and have been PTA chair of my local primary. I wish to continue to contribute to my community and not get 'cancelled' by those with different opinions about sex and life!
I guess I need an alt account
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Hmm... I wonder (I told you that I was pondering!) if there is an added factor here, of the fedi demographic: of older people, perhaps especially men (don't laugh), being self-aware of engaging with younger adults posting sex-related stuff, and coming across as creepy. Perhaps?
@neil Fear of appearing creepy is an important factor in my interactions. Old white guy, I probably shouldn't be here, so I stay shut. It's a bit similar in real-life interactions with young people. I worry that talking about sex – the fascinating, the ugly aspects of it – will be misunderstood as an attempt to hit on someone. One of the ways out I see is to talk about biology. Ducks. Frogs. Bees. Not creepy at all
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I woke up still pondering @girlonthenet's lamentation (I think; https://mastodon.social/@girlonthenet/116353766078817354), that while lots of people enjoy her sex blog, few people boost her toots about it.
I follow and chat with quite a lot of sex positive / sex-related people here, and many have expressed similar sentiments. It must be demoralising.
I don't have good ideas here, but it would be such a shame to lose this wonderful diverse friendly bunch of creative people.
@neil It prob has a lot to do with folks who have a separate After Dark account on the Fedis like I do, and because the line between those can be pretty solid separation between those parts of the Fedi for the most part
Mostly in the sense that the lewd content is not the intended consumption of the SFW side of someone given it's a more sensitive topic that isn't more common palance of today
The sense that even if content warned, isn't something seen as a positive for the known audience of someone's SFW place where this is not the case on someone's AD where everyone generally has engaged with the permission structure to be intentionally and massively horny (but still provide those CWs) with each other as part of a community
Allowing for both casual and paid sex work to intermingle in a sex positive space, all while under being under Fediverse instances which openly allow lewd and sexual content which other instances may strongly restrict, forcing it to move to that other instance
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@neil It prob has a lot to do with folks who have a separate After Dark account on the Fedis like I do, and because the line between those can be pretty solid separation between those parts of the Fedi for the most part
Mostly in the sense that the lewd content is not the intended consumption of the SFW side of someone given it's a more sensitive topic that isn't more common palance of today
The sense that even if content warned, isn't something seen as a positive for the known audience of someone's SFW place where this is not the case on someone's AD where everyone generally has engaged with the permission structure to be intentionally and massively horny (but still provide those CWs) with each other as part of a community
Allowing for both casual and paid sex work to intermingle in a sex positive space, all while under being under Fediverse instances which openly allow lewd and sexual content which other instances may strongly restrict, forcing it to move to that other instance
@neil But also that separation allows you to opt out of that content easily when viewing that content is not at an ideal moment, having a feed where you don't need to scroll back down to see your mutual's latest artsy nude is actually really powerful as a thing (even if yes lists exist), it's a permission and perception thing.
As well as the anxiety of what other people incl. new people think about it as it comes across their feeds or searching through your profile before following
As much as I could post a visually beautiful dick pic with CWs on a Fedi server that allows it, the implication of that on the people who already follow me or could follow me, pushes it away into that other account where the permission structure allows me to engage with that way and other people can respond positively to that
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Hmm... I wonder (I told you that I was pondering!) if there is an added factor here, of the fedi demographic: of older people, perhaps especially men (don't laugh), being self-aware of engaging with younger adults posting sex-related stuff, and coming across as creepy. Perhaps?
@neil Definitely a factor imho.
